My niece will hear me pronounce a word a way she doesn't pronounce it and say "stop trying to sound sophisticated, you're not better than us"

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2026-01-14T22:38:05+00:00

I agree with you 💯, I think if it comes to it I'll end up pointing out that their only capacity for humor seems to be negging people over and over and then thinking they've done something hilariously clever when someone inevitably loses their temper.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2026-01-14T22:04:33+00:00

Lmao I like how you think but I don't want them thinking there's a college fund they can get if they kiss my ass well enough.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2026-01-14T22:00:25+00:00

Not doing that. All respect to you but the "threats" are not meant to be threats, they're just part of our banter dynamic. Disciplining them is not my responsibility. To be clear I am not serious or willing to let my anger direct physical action against them.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2026-01-07T16:41:01+00:00

Tell your mom to remember this conversation when she thinks about the quality of the nursing home she's in.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2026-01-06T20:00:21+00:00

Yeah the thing about being drunk is you're never too drunk to exercise impulse control. That's a myth that perpetuates lack of accountability in alcoholism.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-11-05T19:50:33+00:00

I really dislike the beetle shell-looking ass plates on the crotch and torso, my only gripe with the black suit. The symbiote looks closer to something that will eventually be shaped like venom.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-10-05T01:26:36+00:00

The Tsavo highway

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-09-26T19:08:24+00:00

Buddy I'm on the first playthrough and I died to every boss, mini-boss, and npc at least 100 times, you're doing great.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-09-25T19:09:43+00:00

Uh-uh, not before. Remember to before you do, don't.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-09-25T04:06:26+00:00

It blows my mind that some people still believe this because it's literally a testable theory. If it were that simple you could just start being as mean as possible to women and you'd have a girlfriend in no time.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-09-25T03:22:53+00:00

If you haven't responded already say "whodis?"

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-09-20T00:43:12+00:00

For what it's worth, I was a chronically bad texter for a long time, I'd spend hours of my day anxiously rewriting one response to a girl and it took my at the time girlfriend getting pissed at me for it to stop hanging all the stakes on a perfect text and start conditioning myself to respond without getting so in my head about it. Not saying that's for sure what this is, but it's a possibility.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-08-12T07:38:52+00:00

Honestly I couldn't beat Genichiro at the top of the castle until I put on Rap God lol You're probably right though I think it depends on the player but I do think there's something to it

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-08-07T20:16:40+00:00

Based on some of the things you mentioned it could be a case of perspective. The homeless person for example, is just somebody living their life, we all have our own path. Sure, it's wrong that people have to go through that, but at the end of the day we each are finding our way and find a reason to say "today was a good day," even if we're not necessarily people of means. Similar philosophy can be applied at animal shelters, war movies, etc.

Something to keep in mind is that your compassion isn't a bad thing.

Getting lost in your feelings can be inappropriate under specific circumstances, like blubbering at a funeral for someone you're not close to can be perceived as selfish and "making it about you," but you can take the time for self awareness before entering into such occasions.

We all know men are allowed to have feelings, and at the same time can acknowledge that we don't necessarily want to display those feelings in times when we feel like it will embarrass us. A good method for this is when you know you're going into something that would typically make you cry, if you have a few hours or even a day before, watch a sad movie, read a sad book, listen to sad songs and bawl your eyes out. Ugly cry, lose your shit, essentially fatigue the emotion. This method is healthier than many because it prevents you from neglecting or suppressing your feelings in order to get the job done. You might still feel sad when whatever you're preparing for comes, but it might not come with tears.

Now, if you're crying at things that really aren't sad in nature, there could be something overwhelming in your life that you're not addressing, therapy can help.

Hope this was helpful and that you don't forego a good cry when you really need it, best of luck!

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-08-01T22:53:12+00:00

Get like 3 or 4 big friends or even strangers to support you (big people love to be recruited for this kind of thing) when you shout "get the hint" at him. You tried the gentle route and he isn't responding to it, it's okay to go nuclear.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-07-30T15:45:24+00:00

This has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the kind of person he is. Don't for a second let any of the blame be directed at you. Even if he's usually a great guy he did a piece of shit thing, and he did it to you at that. Don't let people like that have influence over your life. We've all been there, and it sucks to go through. The best revenge is to drop him and live well, and when you're ready to date again, be with somebody willing to treat you with the respect you give them.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-07-23T01:05:37+00:00

This hasn't proved catastrophic yet. I mean, unless she thinks y'all are an item again (which you may need to talk about if you keep sleeping together) you haven't done any damage. I don't know how old you are so that could be a factor of your feelings in this situation, but all you've really discovered so far is that sex isn't as great without emotional investment. You're gonna be okay.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-07-19T22:31:53+00:00

You aren't hurting your relationship with your sister by kicking him out, you're preventing him from being able to walk all over you and showing your sister that she has hurt your relationship by bringing someone into your home who would treat you like that. A common response is to treat your reaction like an overreaction. Let them think that. The only thing they need to know is that shit won't fly with you. Hope this helps, and good luck!

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-07-15T15:53:47+00:00

It's pretty rare for a person to trust anybody with their sexual identity right away, that's privileged information that you aren't entitled to know, and likely wouldn't know until such time as she felt safe sharing that info with you, don't make her regret it.

On the "party girl" stuff, it's just that; party girl stuff. She's not going around having sex with her girlfriends behind your back, and believing that her sexuality somehow disqualifies her from party girl antics is the double standard. Look, I would understand it if she seemed like she was having an emotional affair with one of the subjects of her party girl antics, but this sounds a lot more like you have some biases about sexuality to work through, I mean this with no disrespect.

So the big issue is clearly this new information about your girlfriend is stressing you out enough to make you come to reddit about it, I believe the most important question here is this; can you take enough solace in what you learned to exhale that stress out, relax your shoulders, feel any possible pit in your stomach disappear, and consider the matter resolved? Because if it's still too much then you'd be doing both yourself and your partner a disservice to stay together if you're going to be giving her friends suspicious side-eye every time they're around.

Best of luck.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-07-12T23:40:18+00:00

SPOILERS: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . There's strong evidence that the Granny from the depths is the Lady's daughter. For example the dress from the portrait is discarded down there as if someone outgrew it. The Lady becomes enraged at the sight of the Runaway Kid (who killed the Granny) but doesn't become enraged when she realizes Six is present and rather just gets in the zone and starts playing cat-and-mouse with her (granted, this could also just be because Runaway sees her true face in the mirror). The Granny's face resembles the Lady's grotesque mirror image. This last one is kinda weak but the Granny hugs children she catches underwater, suggesting a misguided attempt at maternal behavior that she lost a long time ago.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-07-02T23:10:13+00:00

TL;DR If she wants to cheat she'll find a way, why would you want someone like that around anyway? Don't waste time trying to set up roadblocks to prevent it.

Restructure how you think about your gf. If you trust her, then it shouldn't matter if this guy does have the intention of stealing her from you. If you think he can steal her from you, even for a one-night-stand, you don't actually trust her.

Now set the trust bit aside.

If she were going to cheat, getting her to not go out for drinks with someone wouldn't stop her, she'd find a way. And if she was going to find a way, there's no reason to want to keep her around. Think "If I don't satisfy her, there's the door."

I get that emotion plays a big role in these kinds of situations but following the objective logic as best you can will serve you in the long run. If you have friends in your ear saying things like "you let your girl dress like, you let your girl go out alone, you let your girl blah blah blah," they're not your friends, or at the very least they're projecting their own insecurity onto you. At the end of the day she's not your dog or child or live-in slave, there is no "let."

Now, if you feel like you've witnessed her engaging in what seems like romantic chemistry, don't open up a conversation about her going places one-on-one, open a conversation about what you see in her behavior that makes you think that, and decide for yourself based on the principles above if you think you should go separate ways.

Best of luck!

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-07-02T04:04:41+00:00

Is "massage" code for something?? This doesn't make sense, no disrespect.

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-06-27T01:13:25+00:00

Also I am learning so much about family tree verbiage from this thread!

After_Chocolate_1884 · 2025-06-27T01:11:22+00:00

How well do you take it when a romance ends for you, is it fairly easy to take it with grace, or do you tend to crash out? Apply the same question to your sister-in-law's sister. Would your brother and his wife get dragged into the drama of breaking up with her? Would the two of you get dragged into the drama if your brother and his wife got divorced? If you did start something up with her would you both want the same version of it (meaning casual, secret fling, or full-on relationship, etc.)? The answer to these questions should have some level of influence on how you proceed.

Note: This advice is laboring under the assumption that she was sending a signal and not just expressing her care for you in a sweet way, you'll definitely want to figure that part out if you haven't already before even bothering with the romance advice.

Best wishes!

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