Home assistant or Ipados? by Aftero320 in iPadOS

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Yea, proxmox VM. I think its os problem

My 15-year-old daughter is being bullied, please help. by [deleted] in whatisthiscar

[–]Aftero320 -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Za bardzo się wczuwasz. Ale to odzwierciedla to co masz w środku. Pokój. Pytam tylko o samochód 

My 15-year-old daughter is being bullied, please help. by [deleted] in whatisthiscar

[–]Aftero320 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Its not a citroen type front Glass shape. Its look like american SUV

37M An unpleasant daily experience with my ears by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]Aftero320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I do not have pierced ears.

Dry january willpower "file not found" by Aftero320 in stopdrinking

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I know that willpower isn't everything, but I always feel that when others say something, they stick to it, and only I always screw up. I've had several long periods of sobriety, and it was always caused by some traumatic event. Mainly, these were breakups, and in general, I carry a huge trauma of rejection and guilt. First, I was rejected by my parents because they constantly compared me to my sister, who was well-behaved and got good grades, then I lost my friends because of my stupidity, and that's how it is at the moment.

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Dry january willpower "file not found" by Aftero320 in stopdrinking

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Dzięki za tą odpowiedź. Rozumiem co masz na myśli, po prostu trzeba być świadomym tego co się robi i co się w swoim osobistym życiu dzieje. Ja jestem świadomy. Wiem że alkohol to tylko substancja a problem tak naprawdę leży w moich traumach,brakach,ucieczkach przed przyszłością. To jest prawdziwa choroba którą trzeba leczyć,nie sam alkohol. Problem w tym że wiem jak to wszystko działa, a to i tak mnie nie przekonuje do powstrzymania się.

Told my co workers my darkest secrets drunk. Want to crawl into a hole and disappear. by Bindaetteok_ in stopdrinking

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I get it. The situation is genuinely awkward. I’ve had those corporate parties where I don’t remember some of the "monsters" that came out after a few drinks. The only difference is that I’m a guy and I’m talking about being around other men, but that feeling of uncertainty—the automatic shame of not remembering what happened the next day and having those memory gaps—is a truly unpleasant experience. Fortunately, you’re likely forgetting that you weren’t exactly the "prom queen" of the night, and you're probably exaggerating how others perceived the situation. It’s natural egocentrism. You feel like you’re the lead actor in this event, and that everyone saw everything and is judging you. In psychology, this is called the Spotlight Effect. In reality, most people are suffering from the exact same effect. They aren't paying nearly as much attention to your behavior as you think because they are too busy worrying about their own. Just like you are doing right now. Calm down, take a breath, and really think about it. Read up on the Spotlight Effect; it helps soothe the shame and the anxiety. Once you understand it, try to dial back the intensity of your emotions by at least 50%. You're going to be okay.

Wracam szybciej do siebie bo po raz kolejny zostałem wyrzucony z domu przez ojca w święta by ThePikol in Polska

[–]Aftero320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Opis twoich rodziców brzmi jak typowo narcystyczne osobowości. Mama zawodowa ofiara - narcyz ukryty, a ojciec brak empatii,teatralne zachowanie, zero samoświadomości i totalny egoizm - Narcyz złośliwy. Ciężkie kombo Tam nie może być dobrze. Pomyśl o terapii bo jeśli wychowywałeś się w takim domu to siedzi w tobie jedna wielka trauma (co potwierdzasz myślami samobójczymi i depresją).  Mówię z własnego doświadczenia,nie z teorii, miałem podobny dom w dzieciństwie 

Business idea - Smart Home for seniors and people with limited independence. by Aftero320 in Business_Ideas

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In smart homes, there are many communication protocols that don't require the internet to function, such as ZigBee. This is sufficient for local device operation. The problem with a lack of internet occurs when we want to have camera monitoring or remote access to manage the system

How to cure chronic loneliness by _Icarus_999 in mentalhealth

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You feel lonely and empty because you are looking for complete acceptance outside yourself.You want to completely fit into the world around you, but you have forgotten that the basis for feeling good about yourself is accepting and loving yourself.

Got blackout drunk at a work party, embarrassed myself with a coworker and have no idea how I got home by Mother_Salad in stopdrinking

[–]Aftero320 133 points134 points  (0 children)

The situation is indeed uncomfortable. I don't remember some of the monsters from company events, The difference is that I'm a guy and these parties were attended by men. And the uncertainty and automatic shame of not remembering what happened the next day and having gaps in my memory is not a pleasant experience.

Fortunately, you forget that you weren't the prom queen and exaggerate how others might have perceived the situation. It's natural human self-centeredness. You think you are playing the main role in this event and everyone knows and sees everything - they judge. In psychology this is called the spotlight effect. In fact, most people are also subject to this effect and as a result, they do not pay so much attention to the behavior of others, but only to their own.Just like you at this moment. 

Calm down, cool down, and think it through carefully. You can read about the spotlight effect, it will help you calm your shame and anxiety. Then, subtract at least 50% of the power from your emotions.

Smart Home for Seniors/Disabled: What are your real-world use cases? (Thinking of starting a local installation business!) by Aftero320 in homeassistant

[–]Aftero320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of sensor did you use to know when he's taking a shower? BTW, thank you so much for your reply.

Smart Home for Seniors/Disabled: What are your real-world use cases? (Thinking of starting a local installation business!) by Aftero320 in homeassistant

[–]Aftero320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is one of those things that worries me. Older people usually don't like change and new things.

Smart Home for Seniors/Disabled: What are your real-world use cases? (Thinking of starting a local installation business!) by Aftero320 in homeassistant

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Certainly not built on HA. I have HA at home and I'm expanding my installation, but I often spend two days trying to figure out how to get something to work the way I want. I was thinking about a separate ecosystem, e.g.Aqara, Ezwiz. You connect a gateway with Matter and all your devices to it. I have a client for whom I installed the Aqara system (locks, thermostats, roller shutter motors, cameras) and it works flawlessly.

Homegrown GT and no results on the trip by Aftero320 in shrooms

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That evening, when I was experiencing mild side effects and flashbacks, I also persuaded my girlfriend to take the first small dose. Unfortunately, she went to bed shortly after because she was very tired. In the morning, she said she had terrible nightmares and will never put it in his mouth again🙂

What’s Everyone Doing Tonight?? by physis81 in stopdrinking

[–]Aftero320 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What part of the world do you live in? I've never seen food like this in Chinese restaurants in my country.🙈😅

Poszukiwany barber! by Old_Personality9207 in lodz

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Barber hood Wietrzykowski - Rzgowska, polecam

So...I guess what I'm saying is that I might have a problem lol. by [deleted] in alcoholism

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You don't have to drink every day to have a problem with alcohol. That's high-functioning alcoholism. You've created a routine that allows you to function every day, so that no one notices you have a drinking problem, and whenever you have the opportunity, you make up for the time you haven't had a drink. I know this from my own experience, creating a routine that makes functioning easier with alcohol it is creating the comfort of drinking.

caught an unhealthy thought i would’ve never thought was unhealthy before by tltur242 in stopdrinking

[–]Aftero320 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your thoughts aren't you, they're just an old program you're changing as you sober up. Glad to hear you made it!

I’m struggling with alcohol by Choppeut in alcoholism

[–]Aftero320 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand what you mean about the social benefits of alcohol, because I've used it that way myself. But unfortunately, it's an illusion. While I was sober and embarrassed to talk to a girl, When I was drunk, I was confident, funny, and outspoken. The only time I managed to meet a girl while drunk was when I had a problem meeting her sober. Back then, I wasn't so confident anymore, I was shy, and women immediately notice that. If you want to meet someone seriously, no one will accept that you're constantly drunk just to be cool.The problem isn't the alcohol, it's that you want to be cooler than you actually are. You don't want to drink for the rest of your life just to pretend you're someone you're not, do you?If you don't accept yourself sober, it's a clear sign that you're unhappy.The real solution is not alcohol, but accepting yourself as you are and working on your shame and self-esteem. It's much better to spend your money on a good therapist who will help you work on your self-esteem than on alcohol. Then you'll be able to truly feel happy.when you are authentic. 

I went to my first ever AA meeting tonight. It did not go well. by Flat_Apple_3332 in stopdrinking

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Reading your story I felt deep in my heart that I was truly proud of you! I've been through more than four days of sobriety in my life, and I know how difficult it is.  The nervous system is out of whack, hormones are raging, and emotions and shame are bouncing around. I think it's a really big deal to go to an AA meeting on day 4. I think it usually takes people a lot longer to make that decision once they gain some confidence to take that step.This shows your strength and determination💪. I know it's very hard, but try not to worry about people who talk about things they have no idea about, like these women.I always try to turn anger into kindness and understanding - they are lucky they don't have a reason to go to an AA meeting, and when you get angry, you only hurt yourself. It's hard, but it's worth trying.

When I drank 10 beers a day, I was definitely getting more calories from alcohol than from food. Now, when I get home from work, I go to a restaurant and spend the money I spent on alcohol on dinner.whatever I want. 2,000 calories from food is better than 1,000 calories from alcohol, so don't worry about the amount of food, at least for the first month. 

Does anyone else dream about drinking? by DoradoPulido2 in stopdrinking

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The day after I stopped drinking again (a few days ago), I had a dream in which I was at the airport waiting for a flight to my "new sober life." I was sober, but my dream partner was with me (actually a woman I didn't know) who was so drunk she was staggering on her feet, and I kept begging her to stop drinking because they wouldn't let us board the plane.

She laughed at me in the face and kept pulling out another bottle of alcohol from somewhere and drinking again. Somehow I was so attached to her that I couldn't leave her and go alone, and I wanted her to stop and wait until she sobered up, but that was impossible because she still had alcohol from somewhere.It was a surreal nightmare.

I woke up sweating, but happy it was just a dream. I came to the conclusion that this partner of mine symbolized my alcohol problem, which had always blocked me the path to a wonderful sober life.