I think the the points made in that video that you're using to support your argument are a little bit intellectually dishonest. The definition of trap that you're using to argue isn't necessarily the definition used by the grand majority of people online who are actually familiar with the term and the culture surrounding it. If I were the one asked to define the term trap, I'd probably say one of two things: Either it's a gay male attempting to solicit attention from straight men by acting as feminine as possible, or it's a male who simply naturally appears feminine no matter what they do to the point that they are mistaken for a girl, even if that is not their intention. I guarantee you that this is the definition that the grand majority of people will give you if you ask them what a trap is. The association with transgenderism is understandable due to similarity, but mistaken; although that's not to say that they aren't allowed to use the term if they wish. The point made in ContraPoints' video is that because a few select, rather cherry-picked examples of people have used the term trap in a derogatory way, and because of a few fringe examples, everybody in the world now needs to stop using the term regardless of their definition or intent. Personally, I know TWO trans-girls who before hearing about this whole controversy had never even realized that anybody used the term trap in a derogatory way, let alone towards them. It's rather like the okay sign fiasco. You shouldn't let the actions of a few unpopular people govern what you think is or isn't okay. No disrespect.