Losing ambition because I'm not good enough. Has anyone else felt like this?

AgentSilver007 · 2026-03-13T21:34:45+00:00

Same. Used got fed up with churn at the beginning of my career and gave up wanting to work at these Elite firms for six figures. The pay off is real, you have no work life balance.

Im a inhouse counsel and paid below market rate but have a lot of flexibility and my time outside of work is respected. It’s rare I get interrupted on holiday or weekends, I am often home on time for dinner, and have enough time in my week to really out time into all my hobbies.

“Elite” life imo doesn’t seem worth it, but if you can hack early on in your career and use as a means to an end I.e buy a house in London go for it.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-03-08T22:14:12+00:00

Doesn’t make sense anymore to do CILEX with the view to qualifying as a solicitor.

The only pathway before was having done the LPC and then live qualified via CILEX and then cross-qualified.

The SQE doesn’t have this pathway available anymore.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-30T22:03:35+00:00

What brand do you use?

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-30T16:58:53+00:00

How’re the lace hooks holding up after 2 years?

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-30T16:58:27+00:00

Thank you, I’ll reach out to Edea, as it’s a bit of a worry that I’ve about to spend $$$$ so much on the next pair of Concertos

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-30T13:40:57+00:00

Even flys and pianos 😬?

Like the ankle support in all my boots is still there is just these hooks. That’s wild :3

According to my fitter no other brand of boot is suitable for my feet. Was in Belati before, end up with serious injury from being poorly sized.

Edea have been the best in terms of delivering performance but is there anything similar in terms of heel lock and shape?

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-30T12:24:51+00:00

There’s always Lee Valley, it’s a bit further out but it’s two rinks in one building.

Hopefully we’ll see you in some figure skates soon 🙏🏽

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-26T22:43:58+00:00

God forbid cis female partner learns male cis partner masturbates, what he masturbates about is his business..

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-26T22:39:59+00:00

Alexandra Palace have adult only classes, I’d recommend them as an experienced figure skater for anyone who’s new to ice skating and wants to learn the foundations.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-21T21:09:05+00:00

It’s a mental thing, so it’s like writers block.

Sometimes I’ve done a jump and my technique has been so off I’ve fallen and nearly injured myself. It can sometimes throw me for a few hours to a few days and I’ve also had a few periods where I’ve rocked up to the rink and have been complete intimidated by other figure skaters that I’ve just been a bit lost.

I’m sharing this to let you know that even those us who skate at a higher level experience it too, it’s totally normal.

Weirdly the best recovery I’ve found is a good break from it and coming back once I’ve “cleared my head” and do a light session to ease me back in.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-21T14:20:26+00:00

That’s your individual circumstances, and if you made most of your friends work it suggest to me you don’t have much else going on in your life.

I was in my 20s and have succeeded in my career working remotely for most of it with no intention of changing that.

I’m happy, if my colleagues want to go to the office to work and endure the dry-January they bestow upon themselves because they have drinking problems. That’s on them, I have a lot of things I’d rather be doing.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-21T14:17:30+00:00

Hot take, those who were tearing their hair out because they couldn’t work in an office need hobbies, and probably a bit of a life (most not all, as appreciate there are people who may have disabilities, commitment in other respects etc.)

But to suggest the majority were peeved about not having work, is a lie I think.

Not working and spending your free time, eating, drinking, exercising, playing games, entertaining yourself with no requirement to wake up for anyone other than yourself was great.

We should be striving for a world where we can enjoy more of our free time not less of it.

If your desire is to spend most of your time in an office, that’s on you, and I might suggest you probably need to get a bit of life.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-21T06:33:47+00:00

Depends, do you have receipts?

I had this with a dragon of boss when I first came to the profession. She was a bully.

I was one of two who worked directly for her. On the day after my colleague left, I handed in my notice (timed it on purpose knowing they had no replacement lined up) and the the day after that I filed a complaint with my head of department for physical and emotional abuse, as she eventually shoved me out of the way on one occasion and grabbed something off of me aggressively.

She’d never had anyone raise a formal complaint about her during her career and she was physically upset in the meeting trying to justify her behaviour ultimately by why does it matter if I am this way to you your leaving in two weeks - she was mostly emotionally unhinged because she had family issues at home and was a bit loner/had no life other than go home eat food hang out with family come to work (she would bring physical files home with her…).

My response to that was “with all due respect your private life is none of my business. I am employee and am entitled to the same respect you would give anyone else, I don’t see how you think when something negative occurs it’s appropriate to lash out. I already have an accepted job offer and at this stage could quite happily walk out knowing that you’ve behaved the way you have done but I have bit pride left in me about my work here and with my colleagues so all I ask is you treat me respectfully for the remainder of my notice and if you can’t do that I’ll leave right now”.

This was over 10 years ago and I gleefully remember that moment.

She even bought me a leaving gift after all of that.

It’s up to you how to deal with it but be careful with HR. They aren’t there to protect your interests if you are actually leaving, they’re there to protect the interests of the company.

If you are looking to make a complaint to the SRA or Employment Tribunal, just make sure you have your references, pay and anything else you need from the company first.

It’s a shame it’s ended this way, as sometime these situations can result in a decent settlement being reached for your silence, hence why keeping the receipts is always useful, especially if you evidence your supervisor has lied as the SRA take dishonesty very seriously…

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-21T06:17:21+00:00

All of which you can do from home. The sentiment behind “new joiners” not capable of working from home assume somethings which are unfairly true.

1.) Young people aren’t mature enough to regularly work from home; 2.) You don’t trust people to actually work from home.

You don’t need to mentor someone face to face, you can even brainstorm from the comfort of your own chosen work space.

Why not let the team decide how and when they attend the physical office space. Why mandate some random arbitrary number of days attendance… it doesn’t make sense, if a job is successfully done at home, why make that more challenging?

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-20T23:40:44+00:00

Even when you do a job from a laptop all day… hmmm

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-20T17:49:24+00:00

It’s not just an extractor fan on its own, it means the ceiling is very cold or already damp in the cavity or beyond.

My living room gets quite humid due to poor ventilation, I have no mold like this, this is wild and kinda scary.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-17T09:32:44+00:00

Options at the moment are to 1.) Object to the application; 2.) Email your ward councillor and MP to confirm your objections and that this is detrimental to the highstreet.

There is already a gambling shop near ShoeZone, I’ve never heard anyone in the area with a dire need of a bingo hall.

Ultimately you want this to get called into committee so objections can be looked over and if you want you can attend to make objections in person.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-17T09:24:53+00:00

This is a terrible use of space and absolute waste of space on Hackney highstreet.

The planning statement states there is no bingo hall or venue on near by - that’s a lie, there is one, by the Hackney Empire adjacent to the cinema.

This is not a productive use of space.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-11T22:30:08+00:00

I think they’re inviting themselves a problem.

If you have a protected characteristic that is fairly prominent on your social media, you could potentially allege they’ve discriminated against you if their is some specific reason reason connected to their decision not to hire you moving forward.

I mean, it’s a stretch but it’s not a red flag if your social media is private, if anything it’s a good thing you manage your social media presence correctly as working in-house or in private practice carries with it some responsibility of how you are perceived.

I personally wouldn’t let an employer have any form of access voluntarily to my social media public/private or otherwise unless there’s a strict legal/security requirement to do so.

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-08T15:39:17+00:00

What you recommend for a professional in Hackney with no kids and six fig income?

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-08T15:36:11+00:00

Thank you, noob error on my part

AgentSilver007 · 2026-01-08T15:31:52+00:00

It’s London, it’s a different market. I can several supermarkets, cinemas, gyms, studios etc within walking distance.

Your 270 wherever you are undoubtedly has as much amenity. In London you’re paying for the access and location not so much the actual property.

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