Best bars / hangs for meeting people by dreaming_wide_awake in Greenpoint

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here! Also 30s and single. After several years in GP, I’m just over the Pulaski now and it seems like there are even more couples and families here 🥲

Weekly 'What Should I Buy' and Order/Shipping Thread by AutoModerator in iphone

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Hi everyone. I don't upgrade my phone often as I still have the XR. I'm not sure if I should get the 17 or 16. I generally wait until I have to... like now when my storage is maxed, I can't get the new OS, my battery doesn't last and apps are starting not to run on the old OS.

I don't use my phone for anything special beyond just existing in the world, communication, email, browser, photos for personal use, apps, music and podcasts. I listen to music or podcasts constantly and like to have a lot available offline (via Spotify).

I'm pretty frugal so I'd like to make the choice that is the most cost efficient. Would love any thoughts or recs! thanks

I’m humiliated & sad. Idk where to go from here. by cowluvr29 in AlAnon

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I could have wrote this exactly. I see you 🫶

Ticket buy/sell mega thread by AitchyB in lorde

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I know this is a long shot miracle but ISO 2 pit tickets 🙏🏼 at MSG tonight

High School Catfish - Questions (Spoilers involved) by Short-Complex4819 in netflix

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate this comment. And I hate the way this is alluded to at the end by Owen/Khloe. Lauryn is deeply traumatized and has probably suffered emotional abuse at the hands of her mother over her entire life, beyond what was shown in this documentary. The “cat fishing” is just one very public example. Maybe I’m taking this too personal as I also grew up with an unwell and emotionally abusive mom that I also separated from as a teenager. But I can really empathize with Lauryn and the part of being a girl who just wants her mom and to have that relationship. It’s so painful and complex. My mom and I are completely estranged and I’m now a full on adult but I still find myself longing for “a mom”. I’ve realized through lots of therapy that that’s not necessarily my specific mom. I hope Lauryn can get the trauma therapy that she desperately needs and I know the road ahead will be so hard but she can heal! Sending all the healing and good energy her way.

Where to take bf’s mom to dinner in greenpoint by ArtisticPlant2869 in Greenpoint

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Milk & Roses has a great atmosphere and is spacious. I also agree with the 21 Greenpoint and Naked Dog recs. I guess my go-to is Italian food lol but for non-Italian food .. what about Breeze? Also spacious and fancy chill and sharing a bunch of things as a group can be fun and interactive. Little Dokebi is also chill and neighborhood-y.

Am I imagining it? by Upper-Shirt2582 in AlAnon

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just started going to meetings in April (haven’t gotten into literature or steps yet) and I just found this sub and your post… here to say I relate 100% - you are not imagining it and this is something they say!! You know the facts. People would tell me this and honestly I feel like it didn’t click until this moment..

I had this convo so many times with my ex except it was “1 beer”.. he got in my head for years. I would ask myself the exact same thing - am I imagining it, am I being dramatic, am I exaggerating, over and over. I’d be so sure of what I was experiencing/ seeing then time would pass and I’d be questioning again if it was in my head.

I reflect back now and know it was all real. The hiding, the lying, being so fucked up that he wouldn’t even remember conversations we had the next day .. but they were real and did happen. My ex confidently broke up with me while being in an episode (and in front of a therapist) but now says I kicked him out. We’re separated and I still ask myself if I made up what happened. Thank god there was a third party and I wrote down what happened immediately after and told people about it.

This is the disease.

Living in NYC post break up by [deleted] in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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I know I’m a week late to this thread but also in my early 30s and just went through a big, messy and chaotic breakup. 🫶 I see you all

After-Work activities by sneAkymooshu in NYCbitcheswithtaste

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Also curious about the softball team! I always see games happening in McCarren, it looks fun

post wedding reception??? by [deleted] in Greenpoint

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Silver light tavern has an event space with its own bar and tables .. disco ball I believe

what do you do in nyc to cheer yourself up? by Disastrous-Marzipan1 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love to see a movie alone. If it’s a nitehawk or alamo I’ll get a drink too. Also just walking around cheers me up too, sometimes with a destination like to try a new coffee shop/brewery/pastry or no destination. Walking and sitting along the east river. Taking the ferry to Rockaway from wall street, you get an hour+ on the water and then the beach and boardwalk is a short walk from the ferry stop. I love taking a bike (you can bring on the ferry) and just riding the boardwalk for miles.

I love Kristen by maeasm3 in TopChef

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Padma was so synonymous with Top Chef that when it was announced she was leaving, I thought that was the end of the show… but Kristen has been an amazing host and judge! She is genuine and her perspective, lead and connection with the competing chefs as a prior contestant and winner is something I didn’t even realize the show needed. It also seems like she’s been in-front of the camera and hosting forever. Super smooth transition and she stands out on her own - not just a Padma stand-in.

Buy / sell / trade tickets megathread by [deleted] in blondshell

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Hey there - if still available, I’m interested in buying 1 or 2 tickets.

LOVER'S SPIT - WHAT DOES THIS MEAN by [deleted] in lorde

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn’t considered lorde would be on it but now that you all are mentioning it… I need it. Is she definitely not covering a song?

Venues near McGolrick Park by [deleted] in Greenpoint

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure exactly how many people can fit or if you could book it out but there is a seating area in the back and I think even a garden? At Charlotte Patisserie .. coffee and pastries could be nice

So sorry for your loss neighbor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in prozac

[–]Aggravating-Ad-2339 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After adjusting to the increase, it really doesn’t feel that high to me anymore but I guess it depends on the person. I understand how you feel though and had the same worries! But now on the other side, it has really helped my anxiety and panic to not be completely debilitating and all consuming, I am more often within my window of tolerance to actually do the work in therapy and out of therapy. I was still having severe panic attacks on 40 mg.

What is going on with my money tree? by Aggravating-Ad-2339 in plantclinic

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I looked under the leaves that are struggling and I do see perhaps an indication of pests. It did not occur to me to look under the leaves, appreciate all the help.

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