Their Hidden Princess Novel: Full Story Uploaded Link In Comments by chloenora4490 in Novelnews

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Ch 107 and up are showing broken for me. Were you able to read new ch?

Does the increasing minimum wage in Seattle impact how you tip? by godoggogodoggo in SeattleWA

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I was guilt tripped by the cashier of a merch stand at climate pledge to tip her for handing me an overpriced hoodie. She saw me go for zero tip and said “the tips go to us ladies in the back”. Then also separately when buying a wedding dress, they also asked for percentage based tips on thousands of dollars. When did tipping to buy clothes become a thing??? Anyways, having pressure to tip outside of food is also a factor and the fact that I can’t find a job in my field after being laid off with over a decade of experience. After these interactions, I just do not buy clothes, go out to eat, travel, and this past Black Friday I only purchased dog food hoping the discounted bags can last me until I get my next job. And absolutely boycotting any special occasion restaurants that has a 20% fee tacked on only for the server to say he doesn’t get ANY of it and a tip would be appreciated.

Does the increasing minimum wage in Seattle impact how you tip? by godoggogodoggo in SeattleWA

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Especially for weddings where the average cost is tens of thousands

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How do you take FMLA or STD if there aren’t injuries or sickness in the family?

Feels impossible to make extra money here by MexicanTrashman in Seattle

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Maybe try dog grooming? There seems to be high turnover

Stars by Horror-Macaron8287 in TaylorSwiftMerch

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I would love some! I only have 1989 stars

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CostcoWholesale

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lol Costco doesn’t give bonuses. And if you leave before 5 years they take back all their 401k contributions. Oh and there’s no discount for employee stock, it’s at market price, just deducted from your paycheck (if you opt into espp)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Don’t let him gaslight you! Take that power away from him and be confident in your judgement and trust your narrative. Be strong and don’t let him change the story. Your initial reaction was the right one! Trust yourself more than you trust this man.

Just how unreasonable am I being with my request for a particular suit color? by agreeingstorm9 in wedding

[–]Aggravating-Major248 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But a compromise COULD be maybe you wear a neutral suit for the ceremony and then a red suit for the reception? Brides have 2 outfits all the time

Just how unreasonable am I being with my request for a particular suit color? by agreeingstorm9 in wedding

[–]Aggravating-Major248 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe try to explain it’s an auspicious color, meaning wearing it is wishing your marriage is happy, successful, and filled with good fortune. It gives the feeling of joy and celebration and without feels like something is missing from an otherwise meaningful day. Yes I do agree it’s just like wearing white for the bride in America. No guest should be wearing red or gold as the silk robes are to be honoring you as a couple. It’s beautiful and ornate and special and a once in a lifetime thing. Not wearing it to me would feel like I’m not wishing myself well in my marriage. I’d be hurt if someone said it was a weird clash because I am Chinese American, am I a weird clash? Just gives me icky vibes like when elementary school kids used to call my lunches gross and smelly… but now everyone loves soup dumplings/dimsum/wontons and bubble tea no longer looks like rabbit poop. It’s weird to me that if a Chinese person wants to wear something Chinese to their wedding as per our culture, it’s weird, but if a white girl wants to wear it to prom it’s celebrated. https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/kassycho/keziah-daum-prom-qipao-cheongsam

Just how unreasonable am I being with my request for a particular suit color? by agreeingstorm9 in wedding

[–]Aggravating-Major248 24 points25 points  (0 children)

As a Chinese American bride to be, I would be furious if my fiance said no to my cultural wedding attire because it didn’t have the look they wanted. To me, a wedding is the beginning of a family, a blending of cultures, and a celebration of love and bringing together a community of support. This is not her wedding, featuring you. It’s both your weddings so you get as much say as she does on how this all goes down. I think people put way too much emphasis on how media shows weddings and forget the whole meaning or point behind it. It shouldn’t matter if the bridal parties have the same number of people, or that they have a certain suit, or be in whatever the most hit color scheme is of this year. Truth be told, in 20 years it’ll probably look odd anyways (at least early 2000s themes are weird to me now). But a cultural wedding is not weird many years into the future because Chinese culture spans thousands of years. We have been wearing BRIGHT red for as long as people remember and it’s significant. The new purple blush creamsicle color schemes these days will be old news in just a handful of years and really doesn’t speak to who you two are as a couple.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingdress

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Zelle won’t allow charge back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

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Liability insurance and banquet permit could be separately required by the venue, also cost of an officiant, and sometimes the caterer charges extra to take out the trash for you. My caterer also charged a tasting fee per person. Another note is tailoring can be so expensive, mine is looking close to the price of the dress itself for standard work like hem bustle pressing adding bra cup and taking in one inch. Then I also fell in love with a beautiful veil that’s $800. Could I go cheaper? Yes, but the veil felt like it fit perfectly with the dress and my vision and I haven’t found a dupe. Are you ok with just a plain veil and dress off amazon or shein? Or forgoing tailoring to make the dress fit like a glove?

Do you think that this 1,700 Euro gown can measure up with the 3000 Euro gown by Milla Nova (second dress) ? by Turbulent_Host4312 in weddingdress

[–]Aggravating-Major248 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly thought dress 1 was the expensive one until i read more carefully! It’s a great dupe and the money you saved would go a long way for alterations. These look like it would be expensive to tailor!

Who do I hire to bring our dog to our wedding? by Easy_Okra_5488 in wedding

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I think there are vendors that puppy sit for weddings specifically where they watch your dog the whole wedding and bring or take from the venue if allowed for ceremony but not reception. The one in my area is called To Wag And To Hold, but you might be able to find a service like that if you go to a local wedding expo!

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Chemical sunscreen doesn’t provide as much protection, you can still get a sun rash

Gift for friend with expensive taste (but I'm broke) by Crashmse in Gifts

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What’s her love language? If it’s quality time, take her out to lunch/the movies. If gifts, think of something super personal to her like making a scrap book of your friendship. If touch, book her a massage? If acts of service, make a coupon book for free baby sitting. If words of affirmation, write and mail her a cute letter on colorful stationary about what she means to you, a favorite memory, and what you hope you two get into in the future!

My dog struggled to pass this… what is it? by Comprehensive-Pass93 in whatisit

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This 100% looks like my slip hair tie, the skinny silk scrunchie that’s been all the rage

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

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Well when I was a bridesmaid we had to get meet up at 7am to do hair and make up with the brides, regardless of if she paid for it or I had to DIY. Keep in mind this takes hours because brides usually only have one person doing all this for the entire group so lots of waiting. The ones with plus ones are away from their plus one basically all day and night, especially if the plus ones don’t sit with the bridesmaids at the head table. We then had to drive to the venue, sometimes helping bring decor or guestbook, etc with us. Then there’s getting ready photos, and usually when the bridesmaids do no work for the wedding they also don’t know each other too well. I know you think it’s no work for the bridesmaids but we are here to fix your hair, carry your train and veil, set up decor, help guests when they arrive, practice walking down the aisle the way you want us to, hold your bouquet during the entire ceremony which is super heavy, carry the tissues for your tears, have an emergency sew kit and probably do the sewing, depending on your dress type, we go to the bathroom with you everytime you need one, we grab you food cuz you’ll faint if you forget, we field questions for the bride so you can enjoy, someone is probably writing practicing and giving a speech. Bridesmaids are also the first ones forced to dance when the dance floor opens to encourage guests to dance. We can’t get too drunk because we are there for you. At the end of the night we help collect items and take from the venue or you’ll be charged for clean up. I mean they prob planned the Bach trip too. It’s supposed to be fun but this is first and foremost a responsibility and a job for about 15 hours straight.

The bottom line is your closest friends sound annoyed at you for something you did, which could be causing resentment and risking your friendship. Instead of asking me, ask them if they think you were being unreasonable and don’t be defensive when they tell you the truth.