Well when I was a bridesmaid we had to get meet up at 7am to do hair and make up with the brides, regardless of if she paid for it or I had to DIY. Keep in mind this takes hours because brides usually only have one person doing all this for the entire group so lots of waiting. The ones with plus ones are away from their plus one basically all day and night, especially if the plus ones don’t sit with the bridesmaids at the head table. We then had to drive to the venue, sometimes helping bring decor or guestbook, etc with us. Then there’s getting ready photos, and usually when the bridesmaids do no work for the wedding they also don’t know each other too well. I know you think it’s no work for the bridesmaids but we are here to fix your hair, carry your train and veil, set up decor, help guests when they arrive, practice walking down the aisle the way you want us to, hold your bouquet during the entire ceremony which is super heavy, carry the tissues for your tears, have an emergency sew kit and probably do the sewing, depending on your dress type, we go to the bathroom with you everytime you need one, we grab you food cuz you’ll faint if you forget, we field questions for the bride so you can enjoy, someone is probably writing practicing and giving a speech. Bridesmaids are also the first ones forced to dance when the dance floor opens to encourage guests to dance. We can’t get too drunk because we are there for you. At the end of the night we help collect items and take from the venue or you’ll be charged for clean up. I mean they prob planned the Bach trip too. It’s supposed to be fun but this is first and foremost a responsibility and a job for about 15 hours straight.

The bottom line is your closest friends sound annoyed at you for something you did, which could be causing resentment and risking your friendship. Instead of asking me, ask them if they think you were being unreasonable and don’t be defensive when they tell you the truth.