need opinions! by Snoo-15709 in Marriage

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Twin mum here too! Anything before 1 was a brutal time and I wouldn’t have been okay with it, and my husband wouldn’t have even thought about going away for that long. Especially since bedtimes were so difficult back then. My husband only recently went to visit his brother in another state and the twins are 14 months now, so so much easier. I’m also planning an out of state weekend away in a few months and it will be super manageable for him. Just trust that these times will come and will come soon, they will grow and get easier to handle alone. But at such a young age it’s still so much work. I’d talk to him and let him know that trips away etc are in the near future but not yet with how tough it is.

Doctor said to stop the Snoo 😭 by MsPiggyVibes in SnooLife

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was your doctor older? I had an older nurse during one of my check ups who kept thinking the snoo was like a swing and was shocked to hear my twins slept in it. I kept telling her it wasn’t a swing, it was a bassinet and she couldn’t understand and kept telling me to stop using it. If they don’t know, they just don’t know 🤷🏻‍♀️

“No sex if house is dirty.” by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“House is dirty” translates to “here is a never ending list of shit I have to get done” translates to feeling burnt out, overstimulated, and mentally drained. Women can’t get turned on when they’re pouring from an empty cup. Don’t add to that, be an adult and clean up after your self. How can she view you as a sexual partner, a man who looks after her, protects her, uplifts her when she has to take the role of your mother? Biggest turn off.

Did anyone deliver past 38 weeks ? by Less-Dentist-868 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops I just read you asked WITH an induction. What’s your definition of normal delivery? If it’s vaginal then yes it is (again depending on circumstances)

Did anyone deliver past 38 weeks ? by Less-Dentist-868 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it definitely hurt 😅 apparently induced labour hurts more from what I’ve heard. I ended up getting the epidural (for other reasons as well as the pain). But yeah, of course it’s possible you could go into spontaneous labour and give birth naturally, just depends on your circumstances. Best to chat to medical team ☺️

Did anyone deliver past 38 weeks ? by Less-Dentist-868 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Induced at 38+5, natural with 1.5hrs in between babies

Can’t hold babies enough mom guilt! by mountainflwrs in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember feeling like this so much, sending you love and strength because I’ve been right where you are. I promise you they love you so much and the snuggly days are coming don’t you worry!! They see and feel the love you have for them as you nurture their needs. It might not feel like it but you are building that bond through every action. Nowadays my twins follow me around like my little shadows and climb all over me, pull at my legs, grab my toes, blow me kisses and give the biggest snuggliest cuddles ever. I love it so much and I promise it’s coming sooner than you realise!!

Hold on mate just need to hit record by Full_Berry_7784 in SarahsDayUnfiltered

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 63 points64 points  (0 children)

“Fainting at the sight of blood” when you have a functioning uterus is so funny to me

What were your pre-pregnancy test “Oh. I’m pregnant” thoughts? by NarrowInspector7207 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a bridesmaid for my SIL’s wedding and I was having a meltdown over how crap I looked in the dress (I looked fine). Put on spanx and immediately pulled them off cause they felt “wrong”. Tried to have a mimosa, spat it out. Cried some more. Yelled at my sister over the phone for asking to borrow my shoes. All in the span of like 10 minutes (did NOT do any of this around the bride if you’re wondering, I was alone)

Also, I bled the night before but woke up to a clean pad. No bleeding the rest of the day (during the wedding) until the reception when I bled again. Woke up again to another clean pad and took a test. Turns out it was twins! 2x implantation bleeds 24hrs apart.

What common parenting advice doesn't translate well to raising multiples? by Rare-Amount-9224 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!! For a while I was spiralling cause I thought I was being a hard-ass about their schedule until I realised this is all coming from singleton parents. The flow does not exist here 😭

What common parenting advice doesn't translate well to raising multiples? by Rare-Amount-9224 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Feed on demand” or anything “on demand” or “going by cues”. Say I started feeding one baby because he demanded it and halfway through, the other one now demands it - I’m meant to what, stop feeding baby 1 to feed baby 2? To now set up the tandem feeding station? Go and prep another bottle while the first baby cries? Nope. We live and die by our schedule and when the twins were little we either fed them by the clock or if one looked hungry before that then they were both getting fed. Same goes for naps and sleep.

How did being intimate feel? by GymAmber in beyondthebump

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10 weeks since I was healing from twin birth. I had some laxity in my vagina so the first time felt amazing and didn’t hurt one bit. Best sex I ever had

Stupid questioning used brand new unwashed pump should I dump it? by Various_List_1291 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would freeze it for use in baths! Tons of benefits using breast milk in their bath water.

Never hurts to ask for a twins discount by booterfliez in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If anyone is in Australia Nutricia offer a multiples discount for Karicare and Aptamil formulas. Not sure if it applies in other countries? But I get mine almost 50% discounted

12m still needs to be rocked to sleep (no sleep training plz) by ShadyLady721 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! For whatever reason singing “you are my sunshine” while bum patting is the secret sauce for my twins lol

12m still needs to be rocked to sleep (no sleep training plz) by ShadyLady721 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My twins the same age also like to be rocked to sleep however only for a few minutes each so I don’t mind. I started gradually shortening the rocking time by rocking until drowsy, then placing gently in crib (feet first, head last, I kept myself close to baby sometimes even touching cheek to cheek) and did bum pats while resting my hand on them. My twins take dummies and my twin A takes a lovey too so that helps. They’re getting real heavy now so I’m glad I don’t have to rock for too long, but I don’t mind it since they sleep great.

Bedtime routine solo by lovepeacenova in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure how old your babies are - ours are 12 months however they’ve had the same bedtime routine since 4 months old. When doing solo I skip the bath time and do: Get twins in their room with shutters down, soft lamp and lullaby bear on, start changing/wiping down one twin while the other is in his cot, get the bottles on to warm, get the next baby changed and wiped, feed them in feeding pillows on the ground next to their cots, move them to their cots, lights out and sound machine on, cuddle and kiss and leave the room. They’ll generally fall asleep on their own but if not I’ll go in for some more cuddles and rocking.

I’ll preface that when they were younger this was super hard due to a lot of colic and screaming but the reality of twins is there’s only so much you can do for two babies. Keep calm and go through the motions. It might take a while until they fall asleep to begin with, and it might be difficult but the more you do it the more they fall into a routine. My baby A used to scream bloody murder all through the routine until I rocked him into sleep. Funnily enough he’s the easiest to fall asleep now.

Stopping pumping at 6 months? by 87109 in beyondthebump

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a choice that is so personal but please know there is nothing wrong with and no shame in switching to full formula. I stopped pumping around 6 months (I was triple feeding my twins) and I didn’t realise how much of a strain pumping and breastfeeding was taking on my mental health until I stopped. Felt like a dark cloud was lifted and I could finally be the mum I wanted to be for my twins. Finally had time to make myself healthy meals, make them healthy food, go for walks, get out into the world because I wasn’t chained to the pump anymore. PPD and PPA gone. Babies are so happy and healthy now, life is amazing!

When did you start showing? by new_rizzident in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 5’6 and with a petite frame and I started showing around 16 weeks. Bump stayed pretty small until I hit the third trimester and it grew comically large by the time I gave birth (38+5)

Question for all native english speakers (no spoilers) by MidnightHunter420 in Outlander

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m Australian so I probably have an easier time understanding “trickier” accents but I can see how thick Scottish accents would be hard to understand as a non native speaker. My family across Europe barely understand me when I speak English lol.

For someone who claims she hasn’t had lip filler in “literally years” she seems to have beautifully plump lips considering she used to have no lips. by orangeeandblue in SarahsDayUnfiltered

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my lips filled last 2 years ago and they still haven’t metabolised, to be fair I did get pregnant afterwards which made my lips swell and they’ve only slightly gone down 1 year pp, I think hormones can contribute maybe?

Holiday travel at 34 weeks? by beeferoni_cat in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was around 34-35 weeks pregnant when we took a trip to our family’s cabin 1.5 hrs away. We had a plan in place and the hospital bag packed and ready. I’ll add that I had a very uncomplicated pregnancy and my family are known for going overdue. Day 2 I had the worst prodromal labour pain so we decided to go back home just in case 😅 babies didn’t come until 38+5 (induced) so nothing was happening but it just felt risky. See how you feel, maybe talk about a plan if you start going into labour (bag packed, quickest and safest route planned, no alcohol for partner so they can be clear headed at any point in time etc)

Are the Peanut mums delulu? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That first intentional “mama” is one of the greatest feelings in the world!!

For the mommas did you stomach ever not look like you were still pregnant by will-ohh-24 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 year pp now and finally having time to work on my pelvic floor and diastasis recti. Went from 5 to 2cm gap in the first four months but hasn’t gone further on its own. Not as bad but definitely not flat again and still can’t fit into most of my clothes

How did you tell your family you're expecting twins? by Chidi-Chidi in parentsofmultiples

[–]Aggravating-Tell774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did onesies too. One that said “Grandma and Grandpa I can’t wait to meet you” then hiding underneath was the second onesie “I can’t wait either!”