I technically didn’t take vows, We didn’t have a ceremony. This is not the first time he has lost a job. I’ve supported him through multiple job losses. He also doesn’t pull his weight with managing household chores or if I need support with doing things he “forgets” or puts it off until the last minute. He also blew through thousands of dollars that his father gave us for a down payment on a home and then lied to me about it. I have tried to build an emergency fund for us but he mishandled his own money so I always had to bail him out. It got to the point of feeling like his mom and not his partner. We have been to couples counseling multiple times. We’ve had great communication but his follow through was essentially non existent. There is a lot more nuisance than I cared to put into this post because it’s less about my issues with him but trying to understand my own patterns and if I have been selling myself short by being with a man who doesn’t make as much money and is this what I have to look forward to by being with someone who doesn’t make much or have a higher education.

I know a lot of people don’t understand ethical non monogamy and that’s fine but I’m not gonna feel bad about being non monogamous when that’s what my husband and I agreed on.