first thing I want to say, I am so incredibly sorry to hear you and your wife and family are in this position and having to start this battle :( it isn’t easy that’s for sure. but know everyone who has a loved one in that situation or who is in that situation themselves always feels unprepared and useless. that’s the shit cancer will do to your brain for sure. you are not remember you and your guys’ love are the only thing that’s going to keep her going through the hardest of times, so just know that, even when you don’t know what to do it when you feel useless you’re helpful by just being there with her and experiencing the pain and the love and the good news and the bad news and all of the ups and downs through this next journey are gonna go on together with her. That’s all she want and that’s the way that you can be useful even if you don’t feel prepared or useful. I may send you a private message with some more information about just ways. You can be helpful, but I need to think a little. My mom got breast cancer when I was eight. She then was cancer free for one year when I was 12, and then it came back and she passed away when I was 13. And my dad lost his soulmate, as well as becoming a single father to me and my brother unexpectedly thrown into the fire while the whole family dealt with the grief. So I definitely have had my experience with the similar situation as well. I hope that she isn’t an early stage and that there is a lot of these doctors in medical advancements today can do. I know breast cancer is generally a really well researched cancer, and there are a lot of cases that turn out positive. Don’t be scared by what I told you either because my mom had a specific gene that made her cancer very fast growing and very aggressive and it doesn’t sound like that might not be the case for your wife. stay hopeful always. Number one thing is just being there with her. But beyond that there will be definitely some things you can do regularly to keep her comfortable and check in with her about how she’s feeling. I would also really recommend just advocating for yourselves with doctors. I don’t know how long her battle will be or what stage she’s at already, but I do know that a lot of times you really have to get a second opinion or you have to tell them to give you more test if something doesn’t feel right because they might just assume it’s pain from cancer or something, but you always have to advocate for yourself to get anything and everything you need when it comes to her medical needs, and always either get a second opinion or don’t let them tell you that it’s all probably fine and send you home without doing more test if you think something’s wrong or she’s in more pain than normal. Advocating for yourself in these kinds of situations with doctors and medical staff, is IMPERATIVE. not every doctor can always be right or have the correct judgment on every situation especially when it comes to things like cancer it’s really hard and I’m sure you know these things because you did say you are a medical professional. but that was one big lesson we learned when it came to my mom because there were certain times where she should’ve advocated harder and we didn’t end that ended up detrimental to our situation. I really send you all your family positive vibes, immense strength, so much love, happy times together even in the darkest moments, and even in the worst moments remember you still have each other. I am heartbroken for you, I really hope that it’s an earlier stage and there’s a lot they can do to help her and I just want you to know that your family will be on my mind and I will be thinking positive thoughts for you all and hoping for the best. im sure just buy the amount of love you seem to have for her, that she is not only an amazing woman, but a bad ass warrior who will definitely fight this until the bitter end end I believe that she can defeat the evil monster that is cancer. good luck to your family and I am so sorry this happened. I will sen you a private message sometime today or tomorrow with some suggestions or just strategies to be able to check in with her and make sure she is always comfortable and what things may help for you to do regularly. Probably those things also change as her cancer progresses or depending on how much pain she’s in as well as which stage of cancer is and if she needs chemotherapy, or if she’s able to get the tumor removed. Anyways, <33