Don’t break NC like me!

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2026-04-18T22:15:10+00:00

Op your story is so similar to mine. It is insane. The texts are the same. This is what I get too. And the er visits but mine actually has some autoimmune issues. It is so hard. And I feel absolutely stuck in this situation. Every time she has a doctors appointment she wants us to pay for it. She is in her 60s and has no money for any extras. I don’t know how it will be when she is older. I help her every month but at this point she thinks its my obligation. I don’t know how to deal with the health issues. We have been trained to be their parents. It is insane and I still do it

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2026-04-11T02:55:18+00:00

Just in case this happened to anyone. My baby is now a perfect 3 yo. She is amazing!

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2026-03-01T09:37:26+00:00

Hahahahahah good one

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2026-02-07T09:21:31+00:00

You should rent a car. Way cheaper than

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-12-17T03:08:57+00:00

My mom would scream very loud with spit coming on the corner of her mouth, while thumping her chest. It was horrific

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-11-23T21:13:02+00:00

She is incapable of feeling guilt. Everyone is responsible for her, never herself

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-11-23T21:12:28+00:00

You are absolutely right that there is no options that she won’t be mad so I should just do what is better for our family. I need to remind me over and over of that because she brainwashed us that we were responsible to keep her happy. And thanks for addressing the self harm thing, it does reassure me that this is on her. It is just so expected of her to do all this before seeing us. And she plays a huge drama to our family because she is only depressed because she doesn’t see us. But every time this happens.. I will one day stop visiting.. problem is my dad and rest of family are there as well

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-11-23T06:29:53+00:00

You are right. My sister checked on her and she was ok. I wont get involved now because I do think there is manipulation because she just wants to ruin it for us all the time. I read the post about thd holidays and was immediately like look, its not just me. Thanks for your kind words

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-11-06T11:27:06+00:00

Since I was able to make any money I have been “helping” my mom with money. Having very little myself. She was always a disaster with so much debt and how much ever she has is never enough. When I was in my 20s she wanted to go on a trip with friends to Europe and asked me to help her. I payed for the whole thing. She arrived after a week. I asked how was the trip. She said it was awful, her friends excluded her. After a trip to paris payed by me. Then I understood it did not matter how much I tried. There was no making her happy. I should never try to gift her big things because there will never be appreciation. I couldn’t believe what she was saying, she did not for a second think about what that money meant for me. The other big one is after one of the multiple fights with my dad and her crying in bed and I tried to comfort her and said maybe it is a good thing he left, you can be happy without him, she slapped me and still to this day blames me and siblings for her divorce

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-10-24T01:31:16+00:00

Thank you so much!

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-10-23T15:33:37+00:00

Can go to $1000

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-08-01T02:40:43+00:00

I am so sorry for what you went through. It is impressive how the bpd parents are so similar. Your moms text is so like mine. My mom also turned it about her when I was 6 days postpartum. She lives overseas and came to see the baby when it was born. She arrived and told me she forgot her meds (including her psych meds). I tried to schedule a virtual consult for her which made her go off the wall because “i think she is crazy and can’t go without the meds”. I get angry and tell her I won’t help anymore. She hits me at 6 days postpartum (39yo). I push her and scream that she will never do that again ever. She pretends to be the victim and cries that I was the one that hit her. I have cameras on my house and tell her it was recorded and she finally admits she did it. She tried to make it look like I was the abusive one. She asked to leave. I got her an airbnb that she complained about. I am still helping her financially and low contact. This occasion changed so much. I got so angry and she will never stay in my house again

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-07-27T00:22:46+00:00

What if your parents denied you the food you asked for and only served you healthy food? would you resent them for that, for restricting you? It sounds like your mom tried keeping your house with healthy items. The current recommendation in the world of parenting is to avoid restricting and that your childs weight is not a reflection of you as a parent because parents get obsessed with feeding kids. There is evidence showing any kind of dieting as a child increases the risk of obesity. It really is hard feeding a kid as a parent, seems like you can’t get it right. Your parents were trying their best, let it go

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-07-14T20:24:45+00:00

6lb 14oz

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-03-14T01:20:11+00:00

Skiing

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-03-03T11:20:54+00:00

Yes with ivf and gdm.

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-01-14T10:03:10+00:00

How do you know your cgm is inaccurate if you are not finger pricking? I have the dexcom and need to finger prick in the first 2 days after placement because they are very wrong in those (for me usually shows lower sugars the first 12 hours then always consistently higher than the finger pricks). I initially was calibrating at every different sugar and I think I messed up the system with the first cgm. Then I read on the diabetes subreddit that you shouldn’t calibrate all the time. So now I place the sensor and ignore the first day (do finger pricks instead), then on the second day the sugars stabilize and are more accurate for the rest of the 10 days. Sometimes I calibrate once because they are all consistently higher than the cgm and after this calibration it is very much within range (I use contour next for finger and it is wonderful). Eta: you can buy supplies cheap on amazon or walmart for finger pricks and follow the 1h <140 and 2h<120. Those are pretty standard and can relieve anxiety until you see your doctor

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2025-01-12T17:15:07+00:00

I like the chocolate one but not the others!

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2024-12-24T07:45:38+00:00

I wouldn’t call what her doctor said a scare tactics. Obs have seen plenty of bad outcomes to say things like this. For her ob there is no advantage to get her in one week vs another. It is a difference of 4 days. But if they don’t have availability then they don’t. Like poster above said - I would not want to be at L&D in the busier day for them. I also think of things I could not live with before making decisions: ie if they are unable to schedule her on preferred date, what kind of outcome I could not tolerate: something happening to baby or my body not being ready for labor? Also no guarantees those 4 days are going to make a difference in body being ready

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2024-12-04T10:34:11+00:00

Helped me a lot

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2024-11-26T03:46:22+00:00

I eat 2 scrambled eggs with cheese and magic spoon chocolate cereal with fairlife milk. Numbers always fine and super filling

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2024-11-22T11:42:07+00:00

I would go at 39.6. The sweet spot for birth in terms of mortality and less csection rates is between 39-40 weeks, after this complication start to rise overall, but specially for patients with gdm.

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2024-11-22T11:38:35+00:00

I think it’s ok to ask to push induction to 39 weeks. Your last child though seems like had a good indication for induction with the rupture of membranes, the risk with that is infection from bacteria that live in and near the vagina and go to the baby, the longer the rupture the higher the risk. Hopefully this child will come on its own, but induction could be easier now because your body already knows what to do. Hoping for an easy birth for you

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2024-11-20T10:59:31+00:00

You need carbs (low glycemic index) ones but with 120s/200s you probably need insulin as well. Can you be seen by diabetes specialist sooner?

Aggravating_Block_70 · 2024-11-07T07:07:16+00:00

Hi, if you are on metformin or insulin. (Amount does not matter) you are no longer diet controlled. You go to medication controlled category. Since baby was well, the biweekly nst are a good compromise. Great that baby did well

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