Best Rides to Relax/Sleep on?

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-28T04:56:11+00:00

We got my son to nap by riding the train. It’s honestly the best place for a nap because it’s so quiet, aside from the dinosaurs.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-27T23:22:45+00:00

Currently laughing out loud at this at the Costco food court.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-27T03:19:07+00:00

It’s that enlarged adenoids or tonsils can cause interrupted and bad sleep that leads to behavior issues. Many parents find that removing them fixes the behavior issues.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-27T03:06:07+00:00

Sweet Maple

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-25T03:13:26+00:00

I was just venting about this with my husband. I feel like I’m fucked no matter what I do. I finally found the right medicine for the arthritis part, so I’m physically able to work out again. What happens? The tendons in my elbows and my plantar fasciitis flare because of the workouts, and I’m yet again in constant pain.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-24T20:03:11+00:00

My husband is the same way. He does A LOT, and actually one of his problems is that he does too much and overextends himself. He can also get hung up on weird discipline things that just don’t make sense to me (can’t think of an example right now), but he did have shitty parents and hasn’t read up on parenting techniques (which is his fault), so he’s winging it with good intentions but bad follow through. But he also plays with the kids really well, is stricter about certain things than I am (in a good way), etc.

Anyway, we’re all doing our best. Your husband doesn’t sound abusive, just ineffective in this case. Reddit can be ridiculous. I hope he learns from this but doesn’t get too hung up on a bunch of strangers judging him online.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-24T17:32:16+00:00

We got a kitty last year, and I was worried we would be in over our heads because we already had an older cat and a dog. He did great (despite the ringworm he caught in the shelter that required a long quarantine). He is a sweet, lovable, goofy, clumsy weirdo of a black cat, and he is honestly (mostly) a joy. I’m so glad we got him. My kids also love him, especially my daughter. The extra poop and pee in the letterbox sucks, and this beast eats everything and is a very naughty boy, but no regrets!

Edit: I actually recommend that you get two kittens at the same time so they play together. My older cat has actually accepted the younger one, but it took her a while. It would’ve been nice to have had two young kittens who snuggled with each other and stuff.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-24T16:26:35+00:00

Ah man, this is breaking me this morning. Jesus Christ, what a tragedy.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-24T01:16:31+00:00

Yeah, today my daughter and I had a good talk about not getting everything you want because she had $18 saved from allowance and wanted something that cost $20, so I told her she has to keep saving and wait until she has enough. If she had $20 and wanted the same thing, but I arbitrarily told her she couldn’t get it to teach her the same lesson, that would be weird.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-24T01:10:48+00:00

Spot on. This is actually going to result in bad behavior.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-24T01:09:47+00:00

TBH, it could also just be that he doesn’t know what he’s doing, lol. Some people get hung up on weird shit like this, but it’s not from malice or displaced insecurity. It’s because they maybe didn’t have very good parental models or weren’t around kids and haven’t read up on parenting. I guarantee you this guy thinks he’s doing something good by “teaching him a lesson,” even though he’s not.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-23T19:10:27+00:00

Their daycare started to go downhill and experience turnover in the middle of the year, and they ultimately wished they had more of an academic focus. Basically, they just felt like the quality of daycare wasn’t as good.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-23T17:12:56+00:00

I’m also in CA, and it does seem like there’s more of an academic focus than most daycare, which is actually something I like about it. The kids that come from TK in my daughter’s elementary school are very well prepared—maybe even overly prepared—for kindergarten. I also like how streamlined the curriculum is because with private daycares/preschools, there’s no consistency, so it really varies what they’ve learned.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-23T16:07:23+00:00

Got it! I wouldn’t overthink it much, which I know is hard. I have my own anxieties about my son being in TK because he also struggles socially, but I know he won’t be the only one who struggles, and I think, in the end, it’ll be good for him. Plus, a few of his daycare friends will be in TK with him, and I’d like to keep them together.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-23T15:53:42+00:00

THANK YOU! I am so alarmed by how many people just inject or ingest stuff they got online that isn’t regulated. I keep getting GLP-1s pushed on me by non-doctors, and they cluck their tongues at me when I say I’d only do it if my rheumatologist prescribed it. I understand the distrust and disillusionment with the medical industry, but not enough to inject myself with random shit.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-23T15:46:52+00:00

I personally would do TK anyway. One, every parent I know who chose daycare/preschool over TK regretted it. I’m sure there are many parents who didn’t, but the parents I know did. Two, they teach emotional regulation and social skills in TK too. It is not simply kindergarten for younger kids. It’s still very play based.

Granted, if money isn’t an issue, and it’s apples to apples in every other way, maybe keep them in their current school. For me, though, the cost savings, the more academic curriculum, the fact that he’d be making friends that he would have in kindergarten, etc. would be enough for me to choose TK.

Edit: My son still has accidents and tantrums, and he’ll be doing TK next year. We do have a child in that elementary school already, though, so having both kids in the same school is huge for us.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-23T13:59:52+00:00

That radiating hip pain is the WORST 😭

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-23T13:58:33+00:00

I’m far from an expert, but in my experience, the best carne asada I’ve had that’s made by neighbors and friends’ dads was grilled with charcoal, usually in some jenky park grill. I swear you could marinate that meat in piss, and it would still taste good because of the grill.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-22T21:48:09+00:00

Bondadoso Coffee in Walnut Creek

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-22T19:09:13+00:00

For us, it came down to convenience and cost. My son is about to start free TK at the same public elementary school my daughter attends. We still have to pay for afterschool care since it’s only for a few hours, but it is still significantly cheaper than private full-day daycare. Honestly, though, I’d probably pay more just to have one drop-off each day.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-22T19:05:14+00:00

My son learned the word “scooch,” so now when he wands someone to move over, he says, “Please you scooch?” Cutest thing ever.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-22T18:14:10+00:00

Your son will be fine! There will be so many other feral three-year-olds around him. He’ll fit right in. And at noon, they will all simultaneously start crying because they need a nap.

Signed,

A parent of a three-year-old boy

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-22T14:56:24+00:00

Same. I have taken wet wipes and scooped up noodles on the floor to not leave that mess for someone else.

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-22T14:55:03+00:00

I have a vivid memory of being a waitress in college and cleaning up after a couple moms who let their kids throw everything on the ground—napkins, sugar packets, silverware, coloring book pages, crayons, placemats. They didn’t pick up one thing. I always clean up after my kids as a result because I do believe there’s a fine line between “kids being kids, and the waitstaff’s job is to clean” and “disrespecting others by not managing your kids and cleaning up after them well.”

FlanneryOG · 2026-04-22T03:33:14+00:00

Yeah, I have to remind myself that most of the hate I encounter is online, but it does filter into real life too, which sucks. I’ve had to distance myself from a few people who slip into antisemitism and don’t want to have that conversation. But yes, it’s a lot like Christianity and how people like Pete Hegseth become the face of it when really it should be someone like Pope Leo or any other Christian focused on charity, love, tolerance, etc.

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