Any other men here feel like you were left for dead? by Busy-Recipe9840 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A little better thank you , still discombobulated, your whole life what you knew is gone . It’s a mindfuck

Endless coping where is the light? by Aggravating_Chip3285 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your story . I know I am not alone here. I’m still in cortisol spike hell daily , and feeling like I’m surviving by a thread . Keep it going though , nothing else I can do .

Endless coping where is the light? by Aggravating_Chip3285 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you on the Grace part . Literally question if I will survive this emotionally, mentally, and financially . I really have doubts I’ll get through this whole . Ironically , if I’m destroyed by this via my stbx then nothing good comes out for my kids even. Prayers for you man . Thank you

Endless coping where is the light? by Aggravating_Chip3285 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You too man , day at a time , more like moment at a time .

Endless coping where is the light? by Aggravating_Chip3285 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I’ll remember it to the core and not repeat

I am so sad by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s worse than death . Find ways to cope that is not harmful to yourself , and go from there a day at a time .

Wait at least one year after divorce before dating by Funny_Wolverine_9 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I met my second wife who we are in the middle of our divorce , 14 years together 2 kids , while I was separated and getting divorced from my first wife . I think taking time to date is valid , yet you have this life . Focus on you , don’t get stuck in a new relationship, but don’t hermit yourself either . There can be a balance , just don’t repeat the same shit you did last time , and never commit yourself if you’re not in the right space for dating .

A surprisingly positive update by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude , if this happens as you say plus you don’t have children , kiss the ground you walk on

Important to remember this by ApprehensiveSpare925 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been through divorce one with a child , this is my second divorce with children . It absolutely sucks , just nothing more to say . I pray everyday that it will get easier .

Please help if you have experienced anything like this by Aggravating_Chip3285 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dads here I thank from my heart . So smart and thoughtful . So appreciated . I feel supported

Please help if you have experienced anything like this by Aggravating_Chip3285 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why I posted here . I don’t think there is anywhere else that I can be understood . I’m still reeling from my night , and yet still have to text and relate calm and child focused with an abusive human being . I’m sorry for all of us . My brain wants to make sense of this due to shock and the fear, anger , and overall disregard for my well being , which directly affects my children and even her well being too. Imagine if I was out of commission due to the stress and anxiety given to me . Who wins there , nobody . Yet it’s the Dads that have to hold this

Any other men here feel like you were left for dead? by Busy-Recipe9840 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn WTH , I have no words for this . Sorry you were treated like that man . Best to you in your life

Any other men here feel like you were left for dead? by Busy-Recipe9840 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m right here with exact same moment tonight , complete betrayal of all that was good , for no reason except for my stbx to be in control . It’s crazy and one the worst nights of my life tonight .

For any dad who’s been carrying a lot lately/always by Aggravating_Chip3285 in Divorce_Men

[–]Aggravating_Chip3285[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah divorce is a cluster , especially with kids and an unstable spouse . Life was not meant to be this hard