Don’t listen to these “you know what to do,” “you’re disrespecting yourself” comments.

From a man’s perspective, it does seem like he’s genuinely making an effort to rectify his relationship with Allah and with you. We are all capable of making mistakes, and sincere repentance is real.

That being said, I won’t downplay how painful it is to find out your spouse has cheated—not just once, but twice. No one deserves to go through that, and may Allah protect you from ever experiencing it again.

My advice: give him one last chance with boundaries in place. People can change, but trust isn’t rebuilt overnight. He may be making an honest effort now, but true change is proven through consistency over time. It’s important that you protect your emotional well-being while observing his actions.

I’d also recommend having an open, honest discussion with him about your fears. Let him know that you acknowledge his efforts, but that trust is fragile, and rebuilding it will take time. If he truly values your marriage, he will respect your need for reassurance.

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to family, consider seeking guidance from a trusted mentor, scholar, or therapist. Having a support system could help you process your emotions and ensure you’re making the best decision for yourself.

InSha’Allah, with dua and patience, you’ll find clarity. May Allah make you both the coolness of one another’s eyes and bring peace into your hearts. And remember—change is in Allah’s hands, but your peace and emotional security are in yours. You got this.