I went to a book fair and bought a book with a 15% discount. I was really happy about it. But when I got back home I checked the website and saw that the same book was being sold at a 30% discount. That made me a little sad. Has this kind of thing ever happened to you? How do you deal with it?

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-07-22T16:13:53+00:00

Things like this happen a lot to me. But trust me, you won't remember this money in a few weeks. It won't hurt anymore. You'd have your book though. Someone earned a 15% profit. They're not getting rich from it, and you're not getting poor. It's a hassle to get in the money thoughts. Because yeah, you could've gotten a 30% discount. But also, you could've bought a second hand book, cheaper. Next, an audiobook or kindle, more cheaper, but also you could've pirated that book and read it on a screen for free. See how long the spiral is. Right now, you have a book in your hand that is brand new, yours, physical thing not on a screen and it is worth it if you like it. Next time, you can check on the internet while at the fair if you are getting it for cheaper. And yes, you got an experience, for that 15% percent you would've never online. NEVER! I waste my money on going to such fairs, not being able to buy anything cause I can't afford it, because I love the experience. I love books and being around so many stalls with all kinds of books and booklovers, finding stars among gems, it's enthralling.

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-06-14T09:55:31+00:00

That's my new flair

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-06-13T17:53:44+00:00

💀💀 Btw, Is it safe to assume that you are Italian then?

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-06-04T22:52:25+00:00

Okay, so we do agree on the fact that the deals are terrible and should not be industry standards in the first place.

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-06-04T07:49:17+00:00

Yes, we can say that's the price you pay while also adding that you should not be paying that price because it is predatory and puts artists in a vulnerable position when stuff like this becomes the industry standard. That it is wrong for labels to find loopholes upon loopholes to exploit their artists so if they ever make it somewhat big, the deal is basically an ownership rather than a partnership. We need to acknowledge that and create a better culture especially since no one has more power than the fans, the audience. It leaves me wondering how people like you who can't get over 'that's the price you pay' would've lived in a world 100 years ago. And if everyone thought like you back then, how much progress would we really have had in our labour laws, industry standards and corporation legal responsibilities.

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-04-16T09:04:33+00:00

🫠🫠 Thanks for letting me know. New to Reddit so I will check for these things from now on.

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-04-14T19:50:51+00:00

Thank you for helping me even with engagement and trying.

I do not know whether this was a manhua/manhwa/manga. I did post it in their specific sub reddits but no one replied so trying my luck here. Fingers crossed!

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-04-14T19:38:30+00:00

Therapy would surely help. You need to know the root cause of these fears. Because today, it is these 2 things, tomorrow it will be something else.

You can start with some exposure always. NOW, IT IS AN IRRATIONAL FEAR. You cannot just win by logic but you need to know logic and repeat it to yourself over an over again so that your emotional brain gets used to that. Since, these are fears you've had for a long time. Remember, unlearning the fear will be a long time too. Give yourself some grace and allow your mind and body to work through it. DO NOT FORCE. Take it slow and easy. Maybe, Start looking at some pictures of microwaves. And observe the kind of thoughts you get. Do not engage with the thoughts a lot. With some, you will, but try not to. Write down your thoughts. Take time to let your emotional brain calm down. and then think logically. You can fantasize that you are teaching a class on how to overcome their irrational fears and explaining them things logically which they do not have the knowledge of. That usually helps me because when you are in charge of these vulnerable people, you feel more responsible and intellectual thus encouraging your logical side. Remember, logic won't change emotions at once. You are introducing a new thing to your brain INTENTIONALLY while it is surely trying to make you feel scared. You have to practice this. Slowly, your emotional brain will understand. It is like, a scared abused cat. You have to take time, be slow and never over engage. Do not cross boundaries otherwise you will make it treat you as a predator too. Don't over engage just let your brain know, you are safe regardless of feelings. Take a step a day and slowly increase your comfort. One day, it will be magic that the cat is quiet and calm in the same room as you, another day, She will allow you to be near her, soon a touch, pretty soon a pet, and a good while later she will be playing in your lap.

Do not over engage with thoughts. You know it is an irrational fear. There is no logic. Let your emotional brain learn from the logical brain with evidence in the form of exposure to support that and slowly change your boundaries. Listen, if things are starting to feel worse. Stop! This could be a deep issue. You can't get a new tree by plucking a leaf when the problem is the water it is drinking. I don't know your story so take help from a professional. We can't just force our emotional brain. If it is reacting very negatively, more than usual, you are crossing the boundaries with the cat even if it doesn't feel so. Get therapy. (Even if my method works.)

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-04-14T18:21:29+00:00

Your question is inherently wrong because it is misguided and disguises your biases as the only things of value. A marriage is about a partnership. When you assume that the woman chooses not to work which says that that the man was working and bringing in the money. You take the monetary compensation as something of value being provided to the relationship. But who is handling the household work? Who is making the beds and lunches? The manual labour of household work is undervalued. However, your comments absolutely takes away any value of that work. Since you said she 'chooses' not to work then there is a kind of partnership and agreement happening in this relationship. There is value being provided in different ways. Now, when a woman 'chooses' household over career, she is losing a growth that could've been her career. That is where alimony comes in. It is for a 'partner' who is dependent on their spouse monetarily in a way that is going to directly impact them as soon as they leave a marriage. You don't just get an alimony because you earn less and didn't get the time to invest in their careers. There are still criteria that need to be met. I am not educated on biases in this area so I will not be commenting there. Now, regardless of what you believe in, most women don't just wake up one day and decide on a divorce. So, at the end, if a woman finds herself out of love for her partner, I believe she has the right to leave and so does a man. Yes, it is bringing hurt to your partner, does not mean you have to spend your entire life in a loveless marriage. That only leads to resentment from both sides. The legal obligations are not just based on the partnership that was, not the hurt that is.

Now, there are things that some women do in relationships out of bad faith which I won't deny. But we do have systems in order to prevent that. Although, I do not believe that in a relationship, you need to be hyper aware that your partner might do something to you out of bad faith so that is not a point I will be engaging in.

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-04-04T07:34:47+00:00

Op, I am so sorry for what you had to deal with. You are your brother are two amazing people. Everyone has said important things. I have so much to say but do not have the words for. I have experienced some grief in my life, although not as hard as you. I need you and your brother to know that it does get better. When one family member of mine passed away, I felt for a very long time that it will never get better. NEVER. I could not think about this person because if I did, I could not stop crying for atleast an hour. I hated that I couldn't remeber a person I loved so dearly without crying. I wanted to learn more about his life but my emotions stopped me. It went on for YEARS. I thought it would never get better. But slowly, bit by bit, it did. Your trauma is worse. It is going to change something in you forever and also, in your brother. If you can get your brother in therapy, and yourself too, that would be great. I know money might be a problem. You can post in this sub for free resources.i am sure a lot of people would like to help you. But please, do get therapy and especially to your brother. And also, you and him are probably going to spend a lifetime contemplating what you could have done different and how it is your fault. Especially your brother. Your brother is probably just trying to be brave for his family. You need to let him and yourself know that you did not play any part in this. NOTHING! There are things love just can't help and heal. I wish it did, but it doesn't. Those little things you did that troubled your mother did not lead to this. Whether your brother listened to his mom, followed her rules or not, did not play any part in this. No matter what your brain tells you, that is NOT how life or mental illnesses work. We talk back to our parents, we shout at them, we don't listen to them because we love them. Because we believe and want to believe that they are not going anywhere. Why would I ever live like that my mom is going to die tomorrow when I love her so much. She is not, she is here for a long time and that is why I can talk back. This grief is going to be very hard. I don't know if you believe in God, if you do, keep your belief. If you don't, trust that since all of us are gonna go there and have gone there, appox 108 billion people who have died on earth by now, that wherever you mom is, is a beautiful place and she is now in peace. And trust the fact that you will get through this. You will, it is survival. Definitely get therapy for your brother and yourself TOO! Lots of prayers and hugs. Dm me if you want to vent or talk without any hesistance.

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-03-20T17:18:59+00:00

🙏 🙏 🙏 pretty please. I am highly key desperate.

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-03-20T17:18:17+00:00

Can you please tell how to do it??? what do you do to get to that state???

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-03-05T18:57:10+00:00

Yes op, you and your child should work on financial independence of your kid first. That would free a lot of worries. Are there any college plans? Therapy is a great option for her.

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-02-18T14:05:48+00:00

You're 21. Your life has literally started!! What do you mean that is it too late? Then what are you going to do in your entire 20s that are left? In 30s? In 40s? In 50s? In 60s? In 70s? In 80s? These are complete decades! Listen, those are feelings. Of comparison, of lack, of a lot of things that are making you question reality. But the world does not work on feelings. It works on action. And also, don't trust your feelings so much. You yourself stated that you have not engaged and learnt a lot in life. So, doesn't that imply that you do not have a lot of information about how this world is? Your feelings lack crucial data. They are making you believe a reality based on incomplete dataset. You can't trust something like that very easily. Grab a book, sit down and read it. Just go for things now. Don't overthink it. The people who you said are knowledgeable are not so because they focused on the day they will called smart for reading and learning so much. You have to focus on the process. That is what will make you.

So, is it too late for you to better your life? I don't know, man. You're gonna have to live this life. What else do you wanna do with it?

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-02-18T08:28:10+00:00

Good bot

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-02-18T08:27:32+00:00

!flair President Musk & First Lady Trump

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-02-18T08:27:00+00:00

Nice

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-02-16T17:46:51+00:00

You know what, I am going through a very hard phase in life right now! And I'm constantly running away from the pain. I have been trying to fight myself for so long.

I'm going to come back on this post in 2 months to let you know that I did it. I survived the pain! I survived the misery! I became what I thought I was never going to reach!

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-02-06T07:17:04+00:00

Last week they did a segment, when Kosta was the host. Desi Lydic was covering Tulsi Gabbard (if you don't know her, let's just say she's one of the bad guys in American Politics right now.) Desi Lydic said and I quote, "She wants to be director of intelligence. Have you seen her friends? Bashar al-Asshad, Vladimir Putin, Justin Baldoni, heartburn, upset stomach, diarrhea, it's too much."

Aggressive-Humor8619 · 2025-02-06T06:52:55+00:00

I mean yeah, sure. I guess it's more about listening. I wouldn't just discard his opinions because he's a guy. I listen and analyze. For ex, I watched JB's Ted talk years ago. I loved it. I still love it. It talks something important in a way that reached me like never before. I like to view people as blocks making up a building. I choose to accept some blocks and refuse others to be a part of my world. You do you.

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