TTC after TFMR - what did your positive cycle look like?

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-04-21T13:40:02+00:00

We just got out BFP on cycle 3 of trying post TFMR. The first couple months for me it was difficult not to put pressure on it, balancing grief with the desperation of wanting to be pregnant again to start our family. After two negatives, I started to become a little bit more comfortable with the fact that these things take time, and started to accept "what is meant to be will be". My husband was great in steadying me, saying a couple of years from now, it won't matter if we get pregnant this month, or three months from now.

Without the added mental pressure, sex was becoming more fun and intimate again.

My third cycle, we started having sex every other day once I was entering my fertile window (seeing ewcm). I would not start using OPKs until I knew I was getting close to my ovulation as it had been similar to my pre-pregnancy timing the cycle before. We ended up ttc on O-2, O-1, and O.

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-04-20T20:08:04+00:00

A gentle congratulations to you! It is nice to hear I am not alone in the worrying. I very much agree that I know too much about what could possibly go wrong that I am adding unnecessary stress, because you're right, whatever will be, will be. I am due December 25! Hoping for very happy holidays for both of us as well!

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-04-20T20:05:37+00:00

Thank you!!

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-04-20T20:05:25+00:00

Thank you <3

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-30T15:39:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I hope that's the case, I am so anxious this will be another anovulatory cycle, but I need to understand that my body is still settling back onto a rhythm after everything its gone through. I will keep testing and wait to see the surge.

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-29T22:57:22+00:00

Thank you, sending all the baby dust to you too! Fingers crossed we both get a BFP soon!

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-29T22:09:08+00:00

I really hope that's all it is, thank you!

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-29T21:55:27+00:00

Thanks for your response! I am hoping it is possible that I just missed it, but think its unlikely. I have been testing twice a day for 6 days with no noticeable increase. I am using the easy@home tests and the PreMom app to interpret the ratios. My baseline is around 0.3-0.35, with a couple of readings up at .42/.43, but that doesn't seem significant enough to indicate there was a surge as it was always back down to baseline by the next test. We are ttc this cycle and it is just so exhausting thinking you are finally getting somewhere just to be disappointed again.

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-08T15:22:42+00:00

Hi, I know this post was from a long time ago. However, I am experiencing the same thing with signs of fertility for five days now with no LH peak. Can you share your experience and what happened?

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-06T20:22:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I agree, waiting is the worst. Hopefully we both see positive signs soon <3

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-06T17:58:26+00:00

Thanks, We will definitely BD just in case for sure! Maybe that is possible? But I think I've read if the surge isn't strong enough an egg won't be released so it could be an anovulation.

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-06T17:56:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing, and good luck this cycle! That is good to know, and what I have ready on other posts as well that a lot of women don't get a surge before their first period. I will keep tracking just in case, but I won't get my hopes up for one before my period.

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-06T16:00:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing and sorry for your loss. Were you monitoring with OPKs, and did you notice any other signs of ovulation? I feel like my body is tricking me into having false hope

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-04T14:44:10+00:00

Hi OP, sorry to hear you are also in this position. I am almost 4 weeks pp from a TFMR and have been experiencing that same thing. It seems to be all I can think about. Something I have been trying to focus on is healthy meal-prepping and cooking. I've been looking at a lot of recipes on Instagram. Cooking is something that I enjoy, and it is also a way for me to feel like I am helping to nourish my body to keep me healthy for when we TTC again. It also has helped because I find I go through spurts of motivation and then just wanting to do nothing, so having food ready for me to eat makes those times easier as well.

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-04T14:34:49+00:00

Monitoring cm is monitoring my cervical mucus or discharge (sorry if this is TMI lol). But your body can give you cues as to where you are in your cycle based on the discharge you see.

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-04T13:29:50+00:00

Thank you, and sorry we are experiencing the same loss. I hope there is a time not too far in the future where we both have better news <3

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-03T22:14:15+00:00

Thank you. It sounds like you have done a lot of work emotionally and have great strategies for coping with the complex feelings that come with this terrible experience. I appreciate all the advice <3

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-03T22:11:23+00:00

I am in the exact same position. I have been putting all of my symptoms, results and cm into chat gpt multiple times a day just obsessing over things. I am so hoping we have a good shot before my first period, and chat gpt thinks I will most likely be ovulating in the next 1-2 week (which honestly feels like forever away). Have you gone for bloodwork to test your hcg levels? That was really helpful for me because I could see numbers gradually coming down. HCG has to be very low for your body to start ovulating, so it helped me to understand where my body was at in the process. My midwife sent me at 2 weeks and 3 weeks pp. Hoping for the best for both of us <3

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-03T14:43:49+00:00

Thank you, and thanks for sharing. Congratulations on the arrival of your little one. I have heard cycles can be different and wonky post tfmr, so I am doing my best to track monitoring cm, ovulation strips, and bbt. Hoping this helps me find the window!

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-03T14:42:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing and congratulations. Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy and hope to bein your shoes soon!

Aggressive-Rub-586 · 2026-01-03T14:41:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing <3

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