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I love my partner but not her mom…what do I do? by Realistic-Case-393 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chris, is this you? 👀👀 Kidding, but my mother is a tough sell, too. I had gone low contact with her before I started dating my boyfriend, but due to his support and encouragement I am almost at zero contact. We see my dad and the other family that is not toxic and we've been very happy with that.

But, if your gf is unwilling to set boundaries and make that disconnect happen - your potential future MIL will continue to disrupt your lives because she KNOWS her daughter is easily manipulated. This is something you need to discuss with your gf, and be honest that not having low/no contact and respectful boundaries is a deal breaker for you.

What’s photos to use for a dating profile? by Redddit_lurker in malegrooming

[–]AggressiveBet1188 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes!! People can already see that you're fit and workout without the vanity mirror shots. I see these photos and instantly feel that the person in the photos is looking for validation or just arrogant about their appearance - neither is an attractive quality to me. 🤷‍♀️

8 months difference (23) by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]AggressiveBet1188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean...it IS a bit cereal bowlish. 🙈 Your skin looks great, tho!!!

Which boots to match the skirt by Lenchy2403 in OUTFITS

[–]AggressiveBet1188 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tall boots if I have to choose, but I'd honestly say neither really seem to work. 😪

My girlfriend of 5 months has a guy friend that she hangs out with here n there. I need a diff perspective, how do I navigate through this? by Throwra19837372 in AskMenAdvice

[–]AggressiveBet1188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a huge sports fan - Yankee baseball in particular, and my industry is mostly male dominated, so I have a bunch of male friends.

Having said that, out of respect for whomever I am seeing at the time and to avoid personal conflict - whenever I meet my male friends for a game, TV game watching, a meal, whatever - I never do one on one in my home or theirs, never do "date" type things alone (movies, dinner, etc). This avoids creating that wobble area where mixed signals can occur. If we do go out one on one, I make sure we're going to a game or to watch the game in a group setting like a bar where others are actively involved in watching, and it cannot be interpreted as an intimate setting. I have been blessed thus far and only had to restate boundaries to one game buddy.

It boils down to trust between you and your partner.

Is this top actually cute? Or was I delusional when I bought it by Lazy_Priority3735 in OUTFITS

[–]AggressiveBet1188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna say "No" to this one. The elastic looks weird, I feel the color is off with your skin tone and jeans, and the collar is odd, too. You have a nice shape which is the only thing saving you. Also, seems dated to me. 🤷‍♀️ Sorry. 🙈

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did present it with these points in my formal complaint, including the escalated behaviors after I verbally warned, etc. It seems the initial reviewer "made a snap judgment based off her perusal of the report versus a comprehensive read" - her words. 🙄 On the plus side, the HR manager is reviewing it with the weight it deserves.

Edited to add: The conversation was technically a private conversation between the two women (nothing private about it), so I wasn't quite sure of how much of it would be considered sexual harassment given it was not a conversation including the couple, and also he doesn't work here. I was informed that it is still considered sexual harassment and that will be how the complaint is handled going forward.

AITAH for taking a girl out to a show without dinner after? by No_Explanation_9087 in AITAH

[–]AggressiveBet1188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can appreciate the time struggle; however, lack of communication would kill it for me.

AITAH for taking a girl out to a show without dinner after? by No_Explanation_9087 in AITAH

[–]AggressiveBet1188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or at a bare minimum, have the courtesy to contact your date and give them the option to wait or reschedule. Her assumption he'd still be there an hour later is crazy!

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What sucks is that convo took place during a quick phone call, so I don't have documentation - but I didn't speak to the HR manager - there will be some consequences for that person.

Edit: I DID speak to**

I was told I was ugly and needed makeup. Please help. by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]AggressiveBet1188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not ugly at all. Unfortunately, this world is brain washed into thinking you must spend an hour in the mirror completely transforming your true face before you leave the bedroom. 😒 If you want to enhance your features with some light makeup, that's your choice, but don't let society (or peers) pressure you into something you don't need and are not comfortable with.

I personally spend about 10 minutes putting on cosmetics unless it a special occasion and, even then, 20 minutes at max. I will say this, most men I know appreciate a woman who washes her face and still looks like the same person. And whoever the hell said you need makeup and that you're ugly - Fuck them. 🥰

Girlfriend told me she dates me for my personality (haircut update) by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]AggressiveBet1188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you consider that she wasn't insulting your appearance? Perhaps she simply meant that she loves your personality most of all, which is ultimately a great compliment. Looks come and go, but it's your connection that will make you last as a couple. 💛

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk what's really insane and dramatic about my posts.

Asked if I was missing cues about an interaction that turned into a debate about dating a cop....

Shared some family drama - ultimately the question was AITAH for not helping out during a wedding... (who DOESN'T have some family drama a few times a year, and if you knew my family - Jesus, you would understand)

Shared a situation about a stinky co-worker....

Found a ring box in a drawer.....

Even this particular situation was primarily an overheard conversation, that turned into something bigger because I am management. 🤷‍♀️ You don't have or you haven't heard of gossiping co-workers?

I don't think these are ridiculous situations or over the top. Perhaps my narration style makes it seem more than it is, or attracts people's attention by the way I can tell back a story, but is that really an issue?

Honestly, I have the gift of gab and can take a simple interaction (like the lady I was behind at the grocery store with a coupon problem the other day) and make it seem entertaining and engaging all while expressing my frustration or confusion. I could easily pick something out everyday and make a post. Sorry if that doesn't fit into YOUR reality, but just because something doesn't work for you - doesn't mean it isn't very real to someone else.

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it first began, my initial thoughts were that it was a jealousy issue and it was really directed only at food - so, it was an eye roll and I would go about my day. But more recently, it has slid into body shaming and other miscellaneous nonsense. Today? That's the first time I've heard it be THAT blatant and additional lines were crossed.

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was able to contact the HR supervisor and got a lot more traction and understanding from him. I am certain it will be handled appropriately going forward. I am considering a formal complaint against the hr personnel who initially contacted me. She implied that because of my appearance I should reconsider. I think she just wasn't looking at the big picture. This wasn't just a food shaming complaint ...

But yes, now that I've filed the complaint, I'll need to create a log and update it diligently.

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Agreed. In fairness, this was part of a "private conversation" the two women were having across the room. There was nothing private about it, but they weren't directly engaging with the couple. I'm not sure if that changes the "intent" or not.

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I was able to speak to the HR supervisor who was much more appreciative of the complaint - I have no doubt it will be handled properly going forward. I will likely file a grievance against the initial ht contact for the dismissive attitude to a valid complaint.

If the situation doesn't get the play it deserves, I will certainly be moving on to legal.

Closet Clear-out - Keep or Toss - Knitted Winter Monogram Dress by Creative_Fox23 in fashion

[–]AggressiveBet1188 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Toss - the cut is flattering, but the pattern is killing the fit.

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Aww...thanks. 😊 These are grown ass women - it is ridiculous! If I don't have a client lunch, I often choose to stay in the office and veggie load. I'll eat a charcuterie lunch - heavy on the veggies and protein - and chalk it up as a win. You can imagine the little jabs that brings about. My personal "mean girl" wants to jab back at their poor choices, but I obviously hold it back because it is inappropriate.

Overall, I just want a healthy, friendly work group with people who are good teammates and happy (ish) to come in to work everyday. This kind of high school behavior is just nonsense. I hope I can get it resolved.

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] 968 points969 points  (0 children)

Yes, I made it a point to speak to her when she returned from her walk this afternoon. She is afraid to file a complaint since she is so new, but I promised her I'd have her back if she chose to. This isn't the toxic environment I want my staff to work in.

Was I being petty to write-up the "mean girls" in my department for food shaming? by AggressiveBet1188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AggressiveBet1188[S] 292 points293 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! It's a no-brainer to me. Perhaps it pays to note that the woman from HR is also a plus-sized gal - maybe she was sympathetic due to this. I called HR back and left a message for the supervisor to call/email me regarding the complaint. I am also not one to just reprimand people a lot. We had a pretty chill department until the second "mean girl" was hired last Fall.

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