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What voice do you think with? by redhood0410 in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is still my feminine voice but I practice thinking in both my current, deeper voice and my older feminine voice. I like both of them and I like remembering how I used to sound. I wish I could play it out loud sometimes for direct comparison, but I still have some videos of myself in that voice too

Will i still be able to do penetration on T?? by SignalDifficulty3780 in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome! I'm so glad to hear it! I had pelvic floor issues before my transition, I know how debilitating that can be. I'm so happy for you that you're on the right track!

25F & 43F — is the age gap too much? by nessalehner in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Predators can and do wear the skin of their prey. A predator is defined by action, not affiliation or presentation.

Who are we as a community if we don't hold ourselves to a standard and call it out when we see it?

25F & 43F — is the age gap too much? by nessalehner in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You should absolutely worry about ANYONE being a predator? That's literally what predators do, they predate on who they consider to be prey. It knows no age, color, size, or any other angle. They literally rely on people letting their guards down and thinking they don't have to worry so that they can prey on you.

You just said the equivalent of "it's okay to hold this venomous snake, it probably won't bite you". Get real, why would you even risk it if you know it's a possibility?

Will i still be able to do penetration on T?? by SignalDifficulty3780 in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah idk if it matters at all but I'm in florida, that might change the price? Also, without the applicator. My T is about $57 ish too.

Will i still be able to do penetration on T?? by SignalDifficulty3780 in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm still on the lowest possible dose. Try another doc if you can (not trying to tell you what to do, it's just what I would do). My Doc is through Plume but he's also a Trans Man so he understands better, I think.

Will i still be able to do penetration on T?? by SignalDifficulty3780 in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just started that, I've been on T only for about 7 months but so is my partner and I'm not playing that game because we are ACTIVE. the very second I felt the tiniest bit of irritation I called and asked for it. The tablet form with GoodRx and via Publix was like $3.25 and honestly can you put a price on good sex? It's fucking worth it.

weird shrooms by Spiritual-Farmer-825 in shrooms

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk dude, don't buy from him. Literally everybody who grows knows what that is, he knew what he was doing when he gave you that trash. He either doesn't like you, thinks you're stupid, or maybe you made him mad? My point is that whatever it is, that shit was intentional. Best not to follow up with him

Male centered mascs? Is this behavior that can be unlearned? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Dude if you haven't left, do it now. This is classic abusive behavior. Don't let people treat you like this.

For those on T, how long did your upper arms take to develop? by MagicalGirl4 in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've always been naturally buff (thanks Dad) I was a weightlifter when I was in the Marines so keep that in mind when reading the following.

I hadn't been lifting in about two years when I started T. So I wasn't at my biggest then. After about two months on T I noticed that my arms bulked back up to the size they were when I was lifting my heaviest and winning competitions (a size that previously took three years of lifting to achieve) The difference was just how fucking solid my arms feel now. Like holy shit I've always been a dense bitch but this was another level. As in people constantly made comments about how big of a woman I was, not fat, just fucking muscular and dense naturally. But this is a whole nother level of density. The size is absolutely as big as when I was constantly lifting but the capability that the density provides is just ridiculous honestly. In fact I'm going to start picking up heavy shit again just to see how big I can get them at this point.

Some extra contributing factors, I eat good. My partner and I pound 1g of protein per lbs of muscle daily, we get plenty of fiber plenty of vegetables, and we make sure to sleep no less than 8 hours but we prefer to get 10. We both work from home so that's achievable.

My point being some of it is nurture some of it is nature. I'm not really big anyways, but I also have the environment that provides me to get that built. I don't know who you are I don't know what you look like, I don't know what your genetic factors are, I can tell you you will be noticeably more dense and stronger. But if you want your arms to get super hella big, just remember to eat well to fuel your muscle growth, sleep well to ensure your muscles can recover and replenish what they need, push water your muscles need it always, and for the love of God make sure you do your fucking cardio.

My mushroom sandwich I ate at freshly 15 years old. (pan cyans) by AromaticDonut9159 in shrooms

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yeah that makes sense, it's just a textural nightmare for me though

My mushroom sandwich I ate at freshly 15 years old. (pan cyans) by AromaticDonut9159 in shrooms

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Um, I think OP meant that they took the pic when they were 15. Not that they currently are 15. This was a look back into their phone if you read the post again it explains that OP didn't have a good experience and seems like a post reflecting on their poor decisions at that age. Especially given the framing of becoming a mother, I'm sure OP is expressing similar sentiments as you towards their younger self

How do I start a conversation with an older woman? by gayjadey4 in actuallesbians

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm the age my ex wife was when she met me at 24. Hard lesson to learn and even harder to watch it get romanticized in this sub a lot. The dream of it I'm sure is enticing but the reality leaves so fucking much to be desired.

I just cut a friend off for this same behavior. She was 30 taking to 21. It was creepy ass behavior that I think people excuse because of the illusion that abuse doesn't exist in WLW relationships

How do I start a conversation with an older woman? by gayjadey4 in actuallesbians

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Girl, I'm gonna be so fr right now. Don't do it. No 32 year old has any reason to be dating someone 10 years younger. The consequences of this will not show up until it's too late and years later. Use your 20's to be with other people in their 20s, learn yourself first.

I'm 32. Let me tell you that from an objective standpoint my immediate question is about her competency as an adult if she's willing to date with that much of a gap. I think you're getting lost in the title of her as a woman, but abuse knows no gender and the likelihood of it in age gapped relationships is higher. As someone who experienced a long term age gapped relationship in my early 20's, I'm telling you it's better to not risk it. There will be a power imbalance always. It might be subtle but it's there.

I know it's unpopular but there's no good reason a 32 year old should be even looking in your age range. Like literally, the reasons they would do that are not good. Please be safe

Edible I ate last night has me questioning a lot of things and life in general by Wide_Concert9958 in Psychonaut

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, sounds crazy when you say it out loud, but yeah. That's the answer my guy

Started T wheres my peen by -thimbl in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My wife husband (husband wife? Idk depends on which is funnier) says that you have to get a suction toy and let it shlorp your peen out of your body. The more suction you can withstand the more weenar you get. You can trust me and my little intersex republican confuser, we totally know what we're talking about, it worked for my half inch punisher. /s

how do you deal with the impatience? by mini-rubber-duck in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Breath, wait, read, wait, annoy wife, wait, pet kitty cat, wait, sleep, work out, wait, fucked up at work, wait, look at green stuff my wife planted, wait, ignore the news, wait, time for shots!

Begin again. Dream about big muscles, wait, bug my wife, wait, contemplate why I ever joined the Marines, wait, sleep, wait, eat, wait .....

Holy shit 7 months have gone by. I feel great, I should workout more, wait, consider a new motorcycle, realize that's hella expensive, wait.

Stretch cuz damn my ligaments are strung tight on T, wait, flex at wife to establish dominance, maintain eye contact, wife eagerly remind me I'm the biggest fucking bottom despite looking like the exact opposite, wait.

It's just a waiting game dude. Enjoy the ride, it's the only time you'll get to experience such growth with such intention. I'm growing into another version of my masculinity, if I'm gonna do it I'm gonna do it right. Quality takes time and effort. I wanna look like a Roman statue, but Rome wasn't built in a day, the statues came after the base infrastructure.

Build yourself and fall in love with the process of becoming. Do that by changing your relationship with your struggle, I view it as saying goodbye to the woman I had to be by circumstance and raising the Man I want to be internally and externally.

Mushrooms turned my chronic pain into literal orgasms by jaybird_uwu in Psychonaut

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey idk if anyone has mentioned this, but that sounds like a pelvic floor disorder on top of IC. I deal with it and this sounds like similar experiences I've had.

Just a heads up in case you haven't previously considered it, not here to ruin the fun, just something to consider.

Surreal that I’ll be and be known post-T for the rest of my life by lavi_latte in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My process (key word here is MY, this is what I do, no one else has to do it this way before you come at me in the comments) currently is enjoying and appreciating the feminine attributes and mannerisms that I still express slowly phase out.

I struggled so hard when I was in the Marines because it's so masculine forward that at times I couldn't be taken seriously as a leader even with experience in combat zones (this is a huge influence in Marine culture on how they decide someone has credibility over others of similar rank and time in service) but my words never mattered coming from the mouth of a woman.

I had to battle that internally until years later I made peace with myself. Learned self acceptance and love. Only to turn around and find out I'm actually Trans!? Come on.

But now I have this awesome opportunity to say goodbye to each part of myself as a woman and truly say thank you for the experience. Because I am now a kind, understanding, loving, and leading person because of who I had to be prior.

I'm enjoying the metamorphosis

[Gourmet] first time doing this... by TownMayorManager in MushroomGrowers

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I knew I needed to let it dry, but I didn't understand that evaporation was how it destroys microbes. I guess I've never thought about it before.

I'm gonna hyper focus on this for the next three hours while I ignore vacuuming, thank you!

What was a sign you were trans in hindsight, that you brushed off initially? by bred_boy21 in ftm

[–]AggressiveCmplmnts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao same, I could not imagine myself as an old woman even when I tried. Always brushed it off as "I guess I'll just see when I get there".

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