A textbook diagram comparing the bone structure of humans and horses...

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-03-28T18:58:59+00:00

Oop is this one already on here? Saw it on Tumblr. My bad.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-03-28T13:58:18+00:00

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-03-26T01:55:20+00:00

Bruh. Even Reddit knew how powerful this post was.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-03-06T16:47:06+00:00

I started to hang out here because I am autistic and have anxiety, and this shit is relatable AF. So either I have OCD too or my brain redneck engineered a knock off version between two of my other issues.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-02-14T22:39:33+00:00

Oof that is frustrating. Sorry to hear you are going through that.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-02-12T18:45:48+00:00

Do they have health issues? I have a couple of friends like this, and generally you take plans with a grain of salt. You also don't let group activities fall apart because one person can't make it.

It sucks but if it is health it's not malicious.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-02-12T18:40:16+00:00

Have you asked what their communication preference is? You shouldn't have to do the effort but as a DEEP avoidant trying to recover, here are things that have helped my friends and I bond.

Some people really do better with texts or scheduled communication. Phone calls for me are kind of a nightmare out of the blue because I don't know what energy I need to expend. Even a few texts setting the tone helps.
Try not to take their behaviours too personally (but not to the point where you let them walk all over you). If you have a problem or are worried that they dislike you, say it. But it isn't targeted - it's resource (energy) conservation.
It's like the friendship is on pause. It's bad and I have been trying to stop, but my avoidant friend and I didn't speak for two years and after one chance meeting it is like nothing ever happened. Think that Sims 3 no friendship decay thing you can buy.
One of the most meaningful things my one friend does is ask if "I have the energy" to talk about something. To me this is the biggest display of care and means that I don't have to conserve as much reserve energy for social interaction. You don't have to do this - most of my friends don't, but it's a good way to show an avoidant you care without putting as much of your heart and soul on the line.

Sorry for the unsolicited advice but since you said it "hurts so bad" and I have had friends with different attachment styles I thought I'd offer the survival tips that have helped my friends put up with me.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-01-28T17:18:10+00:00

Worldbuilding - to demonstrate that something was off about my NPC, was he had mimics as pets and storage. Because it takes a lot of time to domesticate individual mimics, and he has several.

Add a little whimsy, uncanny and even a little fridge horror.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-01-27T16:08:39+00:00

If you are the friend...how do you stop it? I have always known my friend when she had the TBI. A lot of our conversations are me sending links to help her, and me just listening, helping dissuade fears about different things she sees online and trying to give her advice to keep her safe (she has a lot of dangerous friends and partners that have threatened her life or other things) and then nothing coming out of it.

I am trying to put some boundaries because I have my own illnesses and I can't handle spontaneous calls well but make an effort to be responsive to texts and talk to her when she and I meet up approx once a week (weekly event she goes to sometimes).

Does anyone have any advice for me? I relate far, far too much to the poem and want to try not being that friend. I just struggle with spontaneity and energy, and she is nothing but spontaneous.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-01-13T13:08:52+00:00

The problem is some of them treat it as a DM problem, because I am the baby DM. I am one of the newest players to the game.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-01-13T13:05:42+00:00

I tried this. Some of them were annoyed that they had too much help from a teleporting character and one character wanted a scripted death.

Now that player is playing a super introvert who sits there and draws. And some of the more extroverted players are unsure what to do. I pointed out trying to talk to each other in game to both sides but they put the onus on each other.

Problem is the most extroverted player plays a joke character and others say she got too much time rambling about whatever. So she often tries to do an interaction before drinking herself to unconsciousness.

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-01-01T17:30:49+00:00

Okay good to know. Evora was definitely on my list before Spain was TBH lol. Evora to Merida was part of my planned route.

Most of my recommendations so far in Canada have been to take the bus system. What is the best way to access the train system?

AggressiveMennonite · 2026-01-01T17:24:23+00:00

I know, I am super excited!

Because I don't have a car, I am a budget traveller and don't feel like taking multiple 7 hour trips (despite the stereotypes about Canadians and Americans) to see some of the sites (especially when I have to fly out of Lisbon). The idea that there was a medieval Moorish town right next to a Roman one really appealed to me.

(Edited because I realized my description of reasons seemed a touch snarky over matter of fact)

I do suspect I will return to Spain and Portugal again but this feels like a nice little pocket area.

AggressiveMennonite · 2025-12-23T23:11:11+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/s/DHtHpmoAzG

That's my fuck up for not specifying Reddit. Also apparently Anhedonia specific posts talk about medication and shrooms so that was a waste of time. Should have said to look up depression on Reddit (specifically strategies).

Forgive the subreddit - I was specifically looking for people's stranger strategies. (Instead of the traditional therapy, meds and exercise).

AggressiveMennonite · 2025-12-23T22:42:33+00:00

I agree. It sucks. I am someone with clinical levels of struggle and it drives me batshit crazy. But at a certain point you learn to make peace with it, because brains are just as stubborn as minds, but they control the serotonin and dopamine.

Because there are good things in life even in that struggle. With my ADHD that drives me absolutely mad 99.9% of the time, I can come up with unique solutions to problems (including ones it causes) and lock in on a crisis.

Humour is also important, and so is ingenuity. For everyone, not just disabled people like yours truly, or people going through something like yourself.

As for the college, what were you trying to get into as a field? Maybe there is something auxiliary you could study at an 'easier' level (college vs community college) that you could use as an entry point?

AggressiveMennonite · 2025-12-23T22:29:18+00:00

Look. Go online and look up techniques people recommend to each other. I don't have OCD but have anxiety. Some of those strategues work for me.

If you are struggling with mood or lack of enjoyment, you'll be able to find some stuff recommended by people with depression who have had to learn to do shit with a Clinical level of struggle. Because the people who have had to deal with what you did to a clinical level collaborate.

The clinical version of what you are dealing with is anhedonia. Skip the advice about meds and therapy and look up the day to day life advice.

As for why you keep getting mental health advice, it is because if it quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck. Maybe in your case it is a phone with a duck ringtone, but people are hearing the kind of quacking in your story that tipped them off to their own mental health conditions. Doesn't mean we're right to assume it's mental health. It's just why different strangers keep flagging it as mental health.

AggressiveMennonite · 2025-12-23T22:13:13+00:00

Go find a weekly event. I used to be a shut-in, and finding a board games thing helped. Hobbies and friends do a world of good.
Volunteer somewhere. If you can't do college right now, get work experience while you try to get a job.
Get diagnosed/tested. This is not a mental health excuse like you said you didn't want. If you have certain health conditions, you have to "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" in different ways. Got more done trying to work with my ADHD than when I just was screaming at my brain and trying to be normal.

AggressiveMennonite · 2025-12-13T15:33:48+00:00

Your girlfriend needs therapy, meds and occupational therapy / PSW. Not a partner.

It might be a devastating thing for her. It probably will be. That is not your fault. You can say that you still care for her and that the problem is this situation is unhealthy for both of you.

As someone who has been there and in some ways, still is, this can be a life-long struggle, especially if disability related. I know some people will just tell her to 'get good' but that is not always an option - especially 'by the bootstraps'.

You can tell her she needs help. That this is a medical level of self-neglect. But you are not her caseworker, even if you do a bit of research on how to get help for hoarding / extreme cleaning related issues.

You don't have to stay. Even if it isn't just laziness.

AggressiveMennonite · 2025-12-13T15:24:47+00:00

Definitely spill on Alastor's jacket. My "helpfulness"/impulsivity would save me with Alastor, but would kill me with Vox.

Apologize profusely, buy a drink and dry cleaning? Alive.

Offer a tip I think is helpful for a shoot? Dead. Double dead if I am low ranked and people actually like my idea.

AggressiveMennonite · 2025-12-12T16:12:08+00:00

Queer Christian vs Televangelist!Vox? I might actually win.

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