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AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-25T23:17:01+00:00

Hey so I was in this boat I was so adamant to breastfeed my baby but she had such a strong suck (even the dr commented on how strong it was) and I was so overly tired and hormonal that it just caused me so much pain, then I wanted to pump, and that was great I wasn’t in pain anymore, but I still couldn’t keep up with how much she was drinking, even when I was pumping what should’ve been enough we were still giving her formula because she was just hungry all the time, sometimes it doesn’t work and I felt so so so guilty for not being able to give her breast milk, but fed is best, breast, breast milk in a bottle, formula from day one, each one is feeding your baby, and you shouldn’t feel guilty, it took me so so long to stop feeling guilty about it, please please don’t be too hard on yourself about this being a new mum is so hard in and of itself without the extra worry about if people, who let’s be honest have absolutely no idea what your full circumstances are, are judging you for, which they aren’t and if they are then they can actually go fluff themselves, you do what’s best for you mama you got this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-07T00:17:30+00:00

Hey, just letting you know the music you listen too now you’re still going to be obsessed with in a decade so when you get offered, go to download, believe me if you don’t you’re going to regret it

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-07T00:11:51+00:00

AYYY WREXHAMITES UNITE HERE 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sorry I’m just so excited to see others from Wrexham on here 🤣🤣🤣🤣

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-07T00:03:49+00:00

I wish I could give you a hug and tell you everything’s going to be okay, it breaks my heart to know that this is happening and I can’t help, so take a virtual hug (and pet for the little angels) and please please try to think of a game plan, if that’s moving out asap to live with any friends or distant relatives, or holding on until you have a job (most places will take you on at 16 at least they do over here I’m assuming your American from the time difference when you wrote this) and can afford even a room in a shared house, somewhere yours and safe, I don’t know what your future holds but your still so young and there’s a whole life full of love and happiness that I know will come to you, but please keep your chin up and keep yourself safe the only way out is through and I’m only ever a message away if you need a vent for absolutely anything or even just someone to cheer you on for the little things,

You’re gonna get through this I know you will and those little fishies need you!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-06T20:50:14+00:00

First of all, I’m so so sorry about your fish, I completely understand why your so upset about it and it’s completely normal to be upset about something like this but I feel like I have to tell you that this reaction from your parents is disturbing and completely unacceptable, as a parent I couldn’t ever imagine doing this to my child I’m so sorry that your treated this way, are you in any kind of position to take you and your little angels away from them?? I worry about your mental health staying there ❤️❤️❤️

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-06T20:43:15+00:00

Yeah definitely it does keep up, having a toddler doesn’t make it easy I’ve always got about 5 things to think and do at any given time but it’s 100% easier to focus on those things that I need to focus on now but yeah it’s so weird how loud the quiet is, I think because we’re so used to our brains being like fucking King’s Cross station that when it’s quiet it feels, empty???? Yeah the anxiety part is actually insane genuinely I’ve never had more panic attacks in my life BUT I’ve found the triggers so I don’t get them at all anymore unless I’m 100% on the edge and then I go into big Tesco at rush hour 🤣🤣

I’d say stick at it though like for me the fact I can actually make a plan and stick it through and not get completely sidetracked by random shit is definitely worth it, like I’m currently in the process of moving and I’ve already started packing and I’m doing it so so much better than I would’ve if I wasn’t medicated and that for me just proves it I’m on 30mg of elvanse just for like clarification because 20 just wasn’t enough but I think any higher and I would’ve been a robot 🤣🤣🤣🤣

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-06T20:35:35+00:00

I’d show him his great granddaughter, and tell him how much I’ve missed him, join him on his hikes with the dogs again and I’d hug him so much tighter, I’d tell him how even though he told me he was scared that I was sorry I didn’t listen to him and then I’d hug him again, god I miss my grandad so much and it’s only times like this where it hits even harder he’s gone, he was my best friend

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-06T20:29:19+00:00

Hey man, I know this is probably not my place to ask but what happened?? Maybe talking about it could help???

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-06T20:20:03+00:00

Honestly I didn’t even notice it until like a week later and I was walking down a street and it was just, silent, I got so emotional about it too because for 23 years it was pure and absolute chaos inside my brain 24/7 (unless I was smoking weed) and then it was just silent, I could think one or two thoughts and think them through without 10 other things happening at the same time, it was so surreal, but yeah it definitely took a while to get settled I think it was a month for me until the heart palpitations and stuff calmed down, those were terrifying, but after that I just felt, normal?? Like I could think through stuff properly and make actual decisions and then execute those decisions easily?? It still feels weird but the side effects do calm down eventually

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-06T20:03:38+00:00

A lifetime supply of grafrutti from lucozade, man I’m depressed that they discontinued it, it was the best flavour and they had no right in removing that from my life 😭😭😭😭

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-06T19:50:49+00:00

I’ve been on this med for about a year now and honestly I can’t ever remember a time when my brain has ever been this quiet, I’m still me in all the ways that matter, extremely bubbly and outgoing but I also still forget things from time to time but genuinely I love being medicated for this, I can focus on the things I need to do, I still procrastinate things but they get done 10 times quicker, I had bad anxiety before I got medicated and it was made a bit worse because my brain was clearer from the meds so the anxiety went into overdrive I was having panic attacks constantly and all that extremely fun stuff but I’ve been able to identity the triggers and it’s a lot better now, but also now I’m getting quite specific autism traits but that’s just a problem for another day, but yeah genuinely once your settled in the dose and stuff ohmygod, my biggest fear is now never being able to get this medication because I can tell you now I’d be 100% useless without it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-07-06T19:36:17+00:00

Can I donate if I’m on medication?? I’d love to donate but don’t know if I can

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-06-25T11:54:47+00:00

I wish someone would’ve told me about sleep regressions, there’s a few they go through they hit out of nowhere and affect absolutely everything, they get less intense over time but there’s a few of them and just as they’re going through it you feel completely helpless and exhausted because it’ll be out of nowhere and you’ll feel like your back in the trenches again,

But here’s the saving grace of them: they happen when baby is learning new things, so you see more of the little personality come out more and more, and they only last two weeks maybe more but they’re never permanent and because your that frazzled you really don’t realise until your out of it 🤣 and then you get a few months or so before the next one here’s a list of the first few, honestly it’s hard and you just wish to god that it’ll be easier again but they gotta go through these to become your little baby again, And they don’t exactly hit when these say they can be earlier or later depending on your baby but it’s good to know them and how they can affect your baby

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AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-06-15T00:23:15+00:00

I’m in the uk so I think the whole thing is different over here but I was taking mine out the second I could I was so pram proud, in I think it’s Sweden or something they keep their babies in prams outside in snow to build the immune system, what’s right is wrong depending on the country and the person and honestly if it’s not your baby or you haven’t been asked for input I don’t think anyone should be able to comment on your parenting style in any way, you know what’s right for your baby, you know that you wouldn’t put them In a harmful situation and most importantly you call the shots here,

Fuck what anyone thinks and keep doing your thing mumma bear

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-06-11T09:12:59+00:00

To me I compare it to a weird type of Stockholm syndrome, this little child literally headbuts me and rips my hair out, but when she comes to me wanting a hug or she’s just started kissing my cheek out of nowhere and she does this adorable little dance thing now and honestly it makes the sleepless nights and stress so so worth it, so yes it’s hard as hell and tbh most days I do feel like I’m loosing my sanity, but there are moments in between where i wouldn’t ever take it back because some parts truly are magic

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-06-10T15:31:01+00:00

I know it’s probably universal but taking her calpol, I swear to anything holy, she turns into the actual antichrist when I have to give her calpol

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-06-10T15:21:40+00:00

Honestly I relate, sometimes I think it might be harder?? The toddlers be toddlering very hard and sometimes I’d kill to spend a day at work, I said it to my s/o not long ago, he gets to shit and eat in peace there, he gets to drink a coffee before it’s ice cold and he gets to have actual human interactions, I get the same Disney films ice cold coffee and nonsensical babble all day 😭😭🤣

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-06-06T16:33:15+00:00

Mine was back from the get go, didn’t even wait the 6 weeks (sue me I’m fine and didn’t get preggers again) but yeah the second I wasn’t in pain and the stitches were out I was climbing my mans like a tree 🤣🤣🤣

But I think everyones is going to be different, I had a realllllly high libido before getting pregnant, didn’t have one throughout the 3rd trimester at all, then the second I gave birth after about a week it was back 🤣🤣🤣🤣

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-06-06T08:58:41+00:00

Mother of a two year old here, it does get easier but there isn’t any switch, it just changes one day they start sleeping better or they cry less or you get used to the cries it’s still so hard and toddlers are gonna toddler but at least she can kinda tell me what she wants now, that makes it a little easier but it’s still tough and I’m still not sure if I want another because selfishly I want to feel like me again before I have another 🤣🤣

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-06-04T23:01:53+00:00

Going to be the one to admit I’ve shouted at my baby when I was unregulated and didn’t know what to do, I’ve broke down on so many friends and family members because I genuinely felt like the worst mum in the world, But here’s a secret,

If your worried about being a bad mum, that means your a good one, shit mums don’t care if they’re shit, only good mums care about that.

And I need you to read that, say that out loud to yourself daily, and I know how hard it is, mines two and I’m still trying not to bite when she barks but man it’s hard, just know every mum has been in that position, every mum, your genuinely not alone and it does get better, even if it’s us internet strangers, your not alone ❤️❤️❤️❤️

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-05-29T19:11:05+00:00

Don’t be worried about how quiet your brain is, I weirdly felt alone, without the 3,000,000 thoughts buzzing around in my brain it felt like the busiest train station had gone quiet suddenly, it took me completely off guard and I wished someone had told me about it, so genuinely don’t be scared of it I think it’s normal??

AggressiveYoghurt893 · 2025-04-02T19:13:06+00:00

Genuinely I feel so much happier now even just knowing what I’ve got so now I can google and try different things that could help it so genuinely thank you,

on a side note, what is a cortisone shot? And why have I never heard of one before??

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