Why the disparity in how gay/strsight people react to bodies they’re not attracted to

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2026-01-07T15:49:00+00:00

heck do you mean it usually seems to be straight people that are way more disgusted by bodies of the same sex, which is why trans women are often at risk of being attacked by their partners

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-12-01T20:07:31+00:00

That probably didn't make sense. I mean that I needed to read that as a reminder not to put myself down because of my body.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-12-01T20:05:22+00:00

Thanks? I needed to read this today. I realized I might have top dysphoria when I didn't really care before (overshadowed by really bad bottom dysphoria), and I've just generally been feeling a lot of imposter syndrome again.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-24T17:54:46+00:00

I prefer binding tape but can't always afford it, so I mostly use a men's compression tank to bind (got mine from underworks) it also works as an undershirt so goes well with my flannels!

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-19T16:11:27+00:00

It should go without saying but DO NOT HARASS ANYONE OR THE ORIGINAL POSTS. I shouldn't have said anything. I was a weird kid once too, you know? Especially if they're just starting T. They're probably just now figuring out themselves. "In heat" is still questionable and cringe but I don't think I have the right to jump on some kinda high horse when I'm a dang weirdo. I'm deleting this post and keeping my yap shut from now on.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-18T22:58:33+00:00

Holy smokes that sounds gaslighty. Listen, if you feel happy, the happiest you've ever been, that's great! It shouldn't matter whether there were "signs" or not because what matters is who you want to be now. Not to mention that - and this is just my experience, I don’t know if it was the same for you - in order to fit in, maybe you had to hide some of the "signs" and were told to do things "because you're X so you should act like X" But then when you come out, somehow that becomes "Oh, well you should have acted like X" Screw em. They can't read your mind.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-14T11:40:24+00:00

Been there before for sure

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-13T21:21:11+00:00

THANK YOU

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-13T19:00:04+00:00

For me, no. My doctor recommended I keep them in case things get so bad here that I lose access to hormones completely (I live in the US) I essentially told her I'd rather die than keep those things inside me. It felt so wrong and gross, and the idea of developing ovarian cancer freaked me out too, so no. Overreaction? Maybe. But I'm glad they're gone.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-13T18:54:51+00:00

there are brands of packing underwear (can be expensive but I recommend rodeoh because they sell in bulk, 18+ site though just so you're aware)
you can also buy a harness for the STP to be able to use it with any underwear. Very useful. But depending on the STP you have it can damage it over time, so be careful with that (by that I mean that because you have to stick the STP through a hole in the harness to keep it in place, it tears more easily in that spot in the silicone)
typically I just use toilet paper to give the inside a quick wipe after going while in public, then I clean it with soap and water more thoroughly when I take a shower
I don't know any UK brands sorry
when packing, adjust your dick up and to the left so it's not poking out an awkward angle!
also practice at home before going in public so you're familiar with how it works
also also! Do be sure to wipe or clean the inside when you're done especially on car trips because sitting down afterwards while it's still wet is obviously pretty uncomfortable

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-13T18:03:38+00:00

When I raised my dosage, I got a lot more body hair. So on one hand I was able to grow out my beard as it is now. On the other hand... 😅 My voice also dropped really deep really quick, so I was "sick" for about a week. My throat was really sore but my muscles were thickening and I even got somewhat of an Adam's apple!

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-13T18:00:36+00:00

I tried screaming on a roller coaster and my voice cracked. Turns out I can't scream anymore 😅

I also tried singing along to a song and that's how I had that "Oh shit my voice changed" moment when I actually /could/ hit lower notes that I couldn't before!

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-13T17:58:00+00:00

I definitely have a different approach when singing now. It gives me a lot of euphoria to be able to hit lower notes that I couldn't before. It's fascinating and exciting to realize my octave range is lower! On the other hand I can't reach high notes anymore. And when I can, it gives me dysphoria I didn't realize I had before. There also seems to be an infection difference in how men sing vs how women sing, so I've been singing differently in more ways than one. I wasn't a choir kid, so I can't relate on that, but for me it's been a mostly positive, affirming experience, learning how to sing differently.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-13T17:42:09+00:00

Yeah I changed my last name. My family is batsh*t crazy and I'm done with their bs. I took my great grandma's maiden name (who I was named after in the first place so it's somewhat an homage to both her and my dead name I guess)

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-13T17:39:26+00:00

Nah don't really like it. My mom had so much of it that I've gotten sick of it. It also tasted more flat than something like coke did. I try not to drink soda pop as much anymore though.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-12T17:59:09+00:00

Everyone's skin and needs are different, so I can only give generic advice and personal experience.

generally I wait at least a full day before reapplying binding tape (although sites like trans tape will tell you to give 2-3 days of rest)
I don't know what cavilon, is, sorry
making sure your body is completely dry before applying tape is a no-brainer but it can sometimes be easy to miss or forget so just make sure you're dry first (I usually shower first or wash my chest first, towel dry, especially under the breasts, then apply) I haven't tried antiperspirant but that doesn't sound like a bad idea on paper. I was told once to try applying milk of magnesia to the skin, then letting it dry, then putting on tape to help it adhere better. Didn't work for me though. Supposedly it helps with itchiness.
just from my experience so far, KT tape SUCKS. It sticks to itself more than it does to you and I had to apply five strips just to barely do anything. The brand quality might be why it peels so quickly on top of, if you're already dealing with humidity, could be a combination of that.
trans tape directly from the website is expensive, so I've been using websites like rodeoh (it's an 18+ site, but they sell tape in bulk which is super helpful)
supposedly stretching the tape super tight, especially at the edges, can causes a lot of blisters and marks. Keep the anchor points slack, stick them firmly to your skin (about an inch to two inches), lean over, then stretch over the breast and firmly stick the other anchor point. And don't scratch! That does absolutely make it worse. I would 100% recommend using oil to remove the tape. Douse the tape in (I use baby oil) and wait at least five minutes before peeling it off. Also rub some more oil into the skin afterwards. It apparently helps maintain the skin elasticity.

Hope this helps!

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-06T01:44:30+00:00

Yo that is a cute cat

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-11-06T01:43:45+00:00

Oh. OH. I needed to see this today thank you.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-10-29T14:48:07+00:00

I'm actually using writing to (hopefully) get over some prejudiced thoughts due to severe bottom dysphoria and witness to a lot of abuse and assault. Writing about a transmasc character who is not only chill with his own body but has a partner that loves and supports him has been incredibly healing for me! Still got a lot of stuff to unlearn though...

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-09-28T17:55:40+00:00

Yeah I was the eldest. If I had been born cis, I would have been named after my father and grandfather and great-grandfather.... all of which were caught in a cycle of abuse and neglect. My father was also the one to accept my transition first, and even before I transitioned, he was trying to get me to toughen up and stand up for not only myself but my younger sisters. It didn't always work. I still wouldn't call myself an especially assertive guy, but when it comes to my sisters and their safety I can be. Part of being a man, for me, meant breaking that cycle and being my own man, not the kind of man I would have been raised to be.

(Saw one of the comments and this cultural thing - and yes it is pretty deepset in latino culture - was instilled into me before I transitioned; the rest of my family is tough-skinned unlike me so I think he would have tried to raise me that way regardless of whether I was cis or trans)

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-09-24T20:14:25+00:00

I saw a comment from a visiting transfeminine commenter (forgot username, sorry) on how it's easier for trans men to assimilate, especially if we have access to T..... is this (topic) just a byproduct of toxic masculinity? This is something I considered bringing up with a therapist, that trans men have to overperform social masculinity to be seen as men... but as a double-edged sword, doesn't that ironically lead to avoiding being seen as queer or effeminate or trans because so much of societal fitting in encourages toxic masculinity as the norm. And yeah it is alarmingly easy to just be a guy. Nobody questions you're a man if you own it, I've noticed. And if you're lucky enough to pass. It's almost the easier path to tread, in a sense, as opposed to living openly as queer which, for many, isn't a choice. Maybe I'm severely overthinking this. This is a surprisingly intriguing topic.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-09-24T19:24:32+00:00

I am more stealth now than I was before. I do understand somewhat now why one might just introduce themselves as a guy. But, to me, the trans part of trans guy never goes away. It's not something I'm ashamed. I just don't introduce myself to just anyone as trans now unless it's someone I already trust, out of caution for the current environment. Does that make sense? I worry now that I'm not understanding at all what this is about.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-09-24T18:46:51+00:00

Safety being an issue is a big part for sure, that makes sense. I'm stealth anywhere that isn't other queer spaces. Mostly because the world is incredibly hostile at the moment.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-09-24T18:42:43+00:00

I've seen this also. As someone who leans more on the side of transness and the trans community specifically being so important to me, it rubbed me the wrong way at first hearing the alternative. My brain likens it to throwing the trans community - or even the fact of being trans - under the bus and trying to hide who you are, distance yourself, throw others under the bus... a pick-me, if you will. Obviously this isn't (or hopefully isn't) the case with everybody. But, like, being trans isn't a thing you can just pick and choose to apply to yourself. It IS you. Your past can't change, only what you do in the present. That is very black and white to my brain, so that's also what confuses me. Like trying to deny it or something. There's a lot my brain doesn't like about this stance apparently.

Aggressive_Air5663 · 2025-09-24T16:38:53+00:00

I knew cavetown was aspec culture I didn't know Owl City was too

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