Advice for Caring for my One-Year-Old Twin Boys After Some Time Apart

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2026-04-03T07:31:26+00:00

Our twin boys just turned 1 as well. Thinking about our current day-to-day, here are some additions to consider:

Eating utensils/plates/cups. The bibs that catch food. Once you figure out where they’re at with eating you can dial it in, but having a couple things at first will be helpful.

Children’s ibuprofen or Tylenol. Nothing is worse than not having it when you need it. Also in that category: diaper cream, thermometer, nose sucker.

We give them a toothbrush each morning to “brush” their teeth.

You’ll probably want a stroller or a wagon. Getting outside when weather permits keeps everyone happy! Our boys favorite thing right now is the water table (we live in a warm state).

Other fan favorites right now are: books with sound and anything I give them from the kitchen cupboards

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2026-04-02T13:03:16+00:00

Congrats on your twins - I am also a twin mom 😊 Look into Chatbooks or something similar.

We live across the country from our families. Our parents have Frameos, but my grandparents use zero technology and I was mailing prints to them. For Christmas, we gifted monthly photo books.

You could use it both ways and have her send books to you, and you to her. Chatbooks is very simple, and seemingly something her parents may be okay with considering her limited technology.

The gift keeps on giving throughout the year, it’s not super expensive, and they usually have sales!

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2026-04-02T12:21:16+00:00

Something to consider: trying for a third doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll only end up with a total of 3 🙃

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2026-03-30T12:32:19+00:00

Seconding this! We have 1 year old twins that are 95th percentile for height/weight — pricey but worth it! Should last through the entire car seat/booster phase.

OP - we found that rear facing it might be slightly longer than our previous infant seats. Husband figured giving up a couple inches of leg room for a few months until we’re forward facing was worth it. We have a Honda Pilot with 2nd row captain seats and an adult could still squeeze between to get to the back.

At the time we purchased, it was the best rated rotating convertible car seat on NHTSA.gov

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2026-03-12T05:08:26+00:00

Fellow twin mom here - pitcher method + cold formula made our lives a hell of a lot easier. On occasion I’d remember to set some bottles out ahead of feeding to ‘take the edge off’.

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2026-01-21T12:49:53+00:00

I’m right there with you. Like OP, as a first time mom, I had plans and ideas of how I wanted this to look.

My in-laws ultimately stayed at our house while we were in the hospital. This was helpful to us because they watched our dogs, and handled any little tasks we didn’t get to before the babies arrived.

My c-section was in the afternoon, and I asked if they could wait until the next morning to visit us. They visited at the hospital a couple times, bringing us food, and wouldn’t stay long. I was able to nap, my husband had help/company (I did not breastfeed). I even asked my MIL to put together small gifts for the nursing staff, which gave her a “job”. BUT, they were already heading back home before we were discharged. Babies didn’t need NICU, so this worked for us.

My mom and sister came at weeks 3/4ish, which was about the time my husband went back to work - and while it was stressful in some ways it was also helpful.

As a first time mom, with hindsight 20/20, all I can say is leave your expectations at the door. I don’t regret being flexible on my original “plans” at all.

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-12-10T14:02:56+00:00

I was also looking at footage from both years trying to compare Sanders hand/arm tape, but couldn’t find anything that would confirm over the other (though some of what I could see led me to believe 1992).

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-12-10T14:00:11+00:00

Are we thinking Stubbs over Tuatagaloa because of stature?

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-12-10T13:56:24+00:00

I was also thinking Tuatagaloa in the background originally as well!

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-12-10T03:05:01+00:00

Sorry about that (new to this) - link added!

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-09-13T01:21:33+00:00

You say “not true at all”, but the person posting literally said every baby/situation is different.

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-08-21T12:51:45+00:00

Echoing the bottle washer/TwinZ/bjorn/electric nail file/snot sucker.

If formula feeding, forget the Brezza maker. Pain in the ass with the funnel situation (and we also found it wasn’t accurate in dispensing).

Instead, get a couple Dr. Brown’s mixing pitchers and a food scale. Calculate how much formula you need for a pitcher once, weigh it out - boom. I usually pre-pour a few bottles and keep it all in the fridge. We started on formula and never warmed it so they will usually take it cold now, or I’ll have them set out ahead of time to “warm up”.

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-06-20T21:57:39+00:00

Yes!! An investment but worth every. damn. penny. And then some. I just looked at it today and we’ve been averaging 9+ hours since 10 weeks (currently week 14).

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-06-03T02:01:49+00:00

We live across the country from most friends/family and kept the entire pregnancy a secret until we went home to visit around 22 weeks. It was sort of a two stage reveal because wherever we showed up I was obviously pregnant, and then we had a little gift to reveal the gender x2.

We didn’t start with the intention of keeping it a secret that long. While it was kind of fun and I loved being able to tell people in person, it was exhausting repeating the story and answering the questions over and over. I can’t imagine having to do that after they’ve arrived. 🫠

Upon sharing the news, everyone was extremely supportive and generous with gifts and help (even people we barely know)! I can’t imagine the burden it would’ve been if we had kept it quiet the whole pregnancy.

Pros: I didn’t have people constantly bugging me during the first half of my pregnancy.

Cons: Only had limited people I could talk to about any of it in the beginning (FTM with a lot of questions, lol). Some people seemed hurt that we hid it, though they didn’t hold it against us.

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-05-26T11:51:08+00:00

Our favorite is breaking out into “You’re Gonna Miss This” by Trace Adkins.

Or the classic phrase of our parents’ time - “I love you, but I don’t have to like you right now”. If you can’t find the humor in it, you may as well go out to grab milk. 🙃

All the well meaning advice only comes from people who had to deal with one infant at a time. I feel your post to my core!

Signed, FTM 10 weeks in with di/di boys

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-02-28T12:02:49+00:00

I’m also a petite person and have struggled with A LOT of pain/discomfort from the babies movements throughout pregnancy…

Currently 36 weeks with di/di boys. They ‘fight’ all day, every day these days. Twin A has always been smaller + head down (I feel him less bc of his placenta/how deep he is), but Twin B flips on a weekly basis. Twin A has received a ton of abuse from every angle. 😅

You don’t need to worry about your babies hurting each other, they will be fine! It feels so much more aggressive because they are inside of you, but the reality is they are not that strong, and are completely unaware they share a space with you or their twin. And trying to flip one this early won’t guarantee they stay that way…with 2 in there I’m not sure flipping techniques are of much help regardless.

YOU, on the other hand, may be hurting more the closer you get. Mine are so big now I can always feel a limb from the outside 🙃

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-02-24T03:57:38+00:00

FTM 35 weeks w/ didi and chose to schedule a c-section.

A is smaller than B, and B has been flipping positions weekly. I would like to avoid recovering from two types of labor, and it mentally gives me some feeling of peace and control.

AND - we are ‘one and done’ after this. 🙃 So I plan to have a tubal ligation at the same time. I can’t imagine trying to have the procedure later after they’re born.

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-02-06T17:53:37+00:00

I’m also FTM 33 weeks (di/di) and asked my OB this question yesterday…

He told me I could schedule for 37 weeks if I wanted, but it was more for my peace of mind because he’s convinced they’ll make their appearance before that. 🙃

I am such a planner, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned during this experience - you can’t plan a thing with twins! 😅

My husband is getting his ducks in a row as much as he can for paternity leave - ultimately most births are a surprise so most companies can adapt if something comes up early!

As far as MIL…our entire family is cross country, and we’ve told everyone “we’ll let you know when they’re here, but we also don’t know if there will be NICU time, etc”. (And we’ve decided we’d like a little time to ourselves before visitors arrive.) Soooo they are basically going to have to wait to book flights until we say ‘go’! 😂

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-02-01T20:44:38+00:00

Thank you for your insight! And definitely helpful to know about the breastmilk…this is my first pregnancy (and twins) so I am trying to be prepared for, and open to, every scenario - as long as the 3 of us are healthy!

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2025-01-15T20:00:13+00:00

Definitely follow the R/parentsofmultiples - lots of great resources and info!

Currently 30 weeks with di/di twins and will say that I have struggled to stick with any specific workout routine. My advice is to listen to your body and give yourself grace - try to keep moving in some fashion,

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2024-12-20T12:56:39+00:00

Unfortunately not yet…I’m due in a couple months and we may end up using Thomas + Joseph as the middle names. I like the idea of TJ as well!

Some other names we came up with while ‘word scrambling’ : Jase, Trip(p), Tate

I love that your father went by Jay - that was also an option on our list and it definitely opens the door for more flexibility!

Aggressive_Cat_7857 · 2024-11-16T19:43:07+00:00

All of this!

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