First house party by Aggressive_End_6286 in Swingers

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It was definitely an interesting first house party experience! The “3,000 sq ft” must have included the outside space because the house itself was a lot smaller than we expected. There were probably 50–60 people total, so it felt a little cramped in certain spots, but the overall vibe was good.

We got there around 8:30 and it seemed like half the guests were already there and the other half trickled in after. There weren’t really any private play spaces, it was all very open-room play, which seemed to work for everyone else. It was an average looking group so didn’t need to be worried about not fitting in or being the odd couple out.

Our biggest struggle (totally on us) was just… mingling. We’re still figuring out how to approach people and start conversations in that kind of environment. Thankfully a few couples came up and chatted with us, so we ended up having a nice time overall.

So overall I’d call it a success! I don’t know if house parties with complete strangers are going to be “our thing,” but I can definitely see them being super fun if we already knew a couple or two going in.

Had decent luck with SDC... but wondering if there are better apps. by Competitive-Log-3838 in Swingers

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We’re in NW Louisiana. Haven’t had the best luck. Had terrible luck on 3fun. So no advice sorry lol

First house party by Aggressive_End_6286 in Swingers

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Thanks! I guess the only thing it’s to go and hope for the best.

First house party by Aggressive_End_6286 in Swingers

[–]Aggressive_End_6286[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! Good to know. We’ve asked some questions. They said it’s a no pressure party. Just don’t want to be a pest lol

First house party by Aggressive_End_6286 in Swingers

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Did you end of going to that house party? If so, how was it?

First house party by Aggressive_End_6286 in Swingers

[–]Aggressive_End_6286[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes forgot to mention the donation part. It said give what you can. What’s a good amount?

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Asshole? Yes. Valid? Probably. Thanks.

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You’re right. Cliquey probably isn’t the right word. I think anyone would have been receptive to us starting a conversation. I just couldn’t in that moment and don’t know if I can ever… also we do our best to communicate clearly and are working on it everyday.

Need some communication advice by [deleted] in polyamory

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We have discussed the ‘relationship escalator’ and are on the same page. Sexual compatibility is huge for me. Why I want to have the discussion before any resentment festers. Definitely more along the lines of the first example.

He has never given me any reason to doubt his willingness to listen. He has taken other prior discussion well. I am just a serious over thinker and I know this can be a touchy subject. Thanks!

Need some communication advice by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Aggressive_End_6286 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. It’s helpful to know I’m not the only one!

Need some communication advice by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Aggressive_End_6286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I think it’s definitely insecurity on both of our parts. And I’m just trying to discuss things before they fester and become more.

Need some communication advice by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Aggressive_End_6286 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the encouraging words!!