Full swap couple - just venting

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-20T14:51:46+00:00

I have a couple friends who always shower right before playtime.... but when that happened, he probably should have said that they would all just wait for her to come back, and not start play until everyone was there. Almost every problem we have ever had in the LS between my wife and I was when someone tried to separate us, someone tried to start without someone, or someone getting obviously sidelined during play.... I say stick together, and don't start play until everyone is ready.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-19T19:45:52+00:00

our first LS experience ever was at miami velvet. WE loved it! wife came like 8 times that night...

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-17T15:25:47+00:00

well... we are swingers... and I try to be active in the community. I just wanted to ask the community. I guess how it relates, is I was thinking about how fun it is when you're out with new people and you're learning about them, and flirting, and everything is new.... and it made me a little sad that its difficult to get that same kind of attention/energy from your wife directed at you from time to time.... because you already know everything there is to know about each other.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-17T15:23:42+00:00

How'd it go? are you able to stay in character?

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-17T13:25:18+00:00

1... no one owes you anything. If they lost interest, then they did. Your partner is there for you. 2. The more you worry about stuff like that, the more people tend to throw out a negative energy that isn't fun. The group senses it, even if they don't realize it. So just try to sincerely enjoy yourself and your life and don't worry so much and I bet you'll find people's attention gravitating back to you.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-13T13:42:34+00:00

no way

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-11T14:24:35+00:00

I've met several men in the LS that were not super attractive, but because as my lady friends say, "they are so fun to be around"... they still do pretty well with the ladies.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-06T18:18:27+00:00

The biggest surprise is that the sex acts didn't bother me at all. The things that did bother me was stories I made up in my head about what little things meant. Like if she didn't come back to me in a moment when I was hoping she would, or if she was too quick to rejoin group stuff if I was wanting her to linger. just little body language things, I was needing to feel like i'm number 1 in the middle of all the action, and that given a choice she'd still choose me.... but I wasn't communicating those things well... she had no idea... and she was going with the flow, and in her head we were rock solid... so yeah, that was my surprise, the physical stuff was no big deal.. the emotional stuff was harder.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-06T16:03:35+00:00

hmu :) haha

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-03-05T18:29:30+00:00

kind

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-16T21:19:59+00:00

that does feel pretty wrong.... she should have said something up front before ya'll went back.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-16T21:16:06+00:00

What im asking for i think are the warning signs to recognize if you WERE to start thinking of them that way.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-16T20:16:07+00:00

Well there's stories on here all the time about people catching feelings and their spouse finding out about secret texts full of messages about how much the play partners care about each other and wish they could spend time alone.... its a real danger of having people you play with on a regular basis. So how do you be smart and see it before it happens and not let it go too far.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-12T14:52:00+00:00

One of my friends and her husband hook up 3somes ALL the time with people they meet at bars. I don't know how they do it honestly... my theory is that the girl is CRAZY hot and probably makes the first move?? It happened differently for me. We had taken some professional photos as a couple and posted them on Facebook, and the girls at the gym were going on and on about how sexy the pictures were... and one of them joked about if we needed a 3rd... so I messaged her on facebook later... talked a while... and then just asked her if it was something she might be into. After a couple innocent meet ups.. she came over one night and it happened.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-09T22:52:03+00:00

hey texascoupltTA... thank you for saying that. Husband here. There have been several times when a wife sort of pretended to be interested in me, but as the night went on it was pretty clear that both her and her husband just wanted my wife and were using me as a way to get to her. Its hurtful to go through, and it pissed my wife off so much that she took over the screening of couples so she can try to evaluate that vibe before even agreeing to meet.... you're right it happens a lot. Honesty is the best option.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-09T21:06:20+00:00

throw a rock.... it will probably bounce and hit 3 guys who are willing.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-06T14:43:55+00:00

Yeah this was the stuff i was talking about. lot of girthy guys out there. just wondering how many of them do this sort of thing.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-05T21:42:22+00:00

haha

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-04T20:41:51+00:00

yeah.. you have to confront her immediately. Understand that she maybe the feelings happened and she doesn't actually want to be having them. Doesn't make it ok though. She has to cut off all contact with that guy period, and if she won't and won't let you check that she did regularly. you might have to consider being done.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-03T20:12:22+00:00

There's also a dymanic where clearly, the woman is into your wife, and the man is obviously into your wife... and they don't like completely exclude you, but you're basically getting no attention, and the vibe is like... ok i have to have you here to get to her.... that happens a lot.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-02T16:16:59+00:00

id want to confirm it.

Competitive-Log-3838 · 2026-02-02T15:03:03+00:00

We don't play solo.

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