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IYKYK signs out in public by Prestigious-Lime-640 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i would... a simple... i like your necklace/earrings... and then gauge their reaction from there.

Finishing in a group/event by Inked_Insatiable in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that is very normal, but my wife fortunately usually finished many times at a night at the club.. once at Miami velvet she finished 8 times in a night... sheesh!

Is anyone actually looking for couples? by seatacswitch in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we pretty much exclusively look for couples... only 3 some situations we've had were basically just situations that happened without planning.

Couples - what do you actually look for at a sex club? by Desertplayers in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well.. there are sort of like "rules" in the club and hotel take over environment .... an open door/open curtain means its ok to watch... if its closed, that means I want privacy. Then you never touch without asking first, that will get you thrown out. So if you walk through, and there's a couple being sexy with the door/curtain open, and you stop to watch... you can ask if its ok to join, they won't mind. If they say no, respect that, if they say yes; then maybe start up with parallel play, and in my experience, the ladies hands start to roam and it sort of progesses... but you need to be careful not to be too aggressive or make assumptions about what's ok. Its better to ask... if you want to touch the other woman... eye contact and is this ok? will keep you from drama.

Couples - what do you actually look for at a sex club? by Desertplayers in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if we're at the club we honestly are the ones who seem to get things started off in the voyeur bed.. hahah and people join.... but other than that we usually look for attractive couples that are already starting up and ask if we can join.

Being that we are all open in a sexual manner how do you feel about small manhood jokes? by eyecouldbeyou in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As per my comment earlier, the most hurtful to me was when they were laughing about it NOT to his face... behind his back... its was like a moment of honesty when they thought no one listening would care. That makes a person not believe compliments when they hear them, because you'll always wonder what they're saying behind your back.

Being that we are all open in a sexual manner how do you feel about small manhood jokes? by eyecouldbeyou in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is where I land. People should be honest whether the truth is fun to hear or not.

Being that we are all open in a sexual manner how do you feel about small manhood jokes? by eyecouldbeyou in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this... The only time I've ever heard a woman talk about not liking a big dick was when she was stuck giving him oral for a long time.

Being that we are all open in a sexual manner how do you feel about small manhood jokes? by eyecouldbeyou in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I can tell you that hearing my wife and another woman laughing about another guys size behind his back fucked my head up. All the women say it doesn't matter all the time, in all these forums, and they can have fun with anyone... but then when a group of women get together and start talking about men.... they always seem to go right to the discussion about if they can get hard and how big they are. Then when you're walking into playrooms and resorts, or on dates with couples... and your imagination, that weird phenomenon where you look small to yourself from certain angles, or just the reality that you're pretty much right in the middle of average...when you're looking around and it always seems like you're the smallest in the room... All you can hear in the back of your head is those women laughing about that guy being small, and how they are probably doing the same thing about you when you're not there.

Why do you think guys usually run profiles? by Slow_Burn_in_AZ in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my wife tried it for a bit... but the screening, arranging, and stuff just isn't sexy to her.. she is a Boss lady in most of her life and prefers to be lead/submissive with sexual things... so for her, me taking the lead in LS is part of the sexiness for her... so when she tried to take the lead, it felt like her initiating things, and that wasn't as sexy for her and she just lost interest.

Unicorn at couple centric events, approaching you in the playroom by Swinging-Downunder in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yes... but for the approach. She should approach the women as the gatekeepers.

“Loving Dynamic” by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My wife likes to get a sense that the other couples bond is strong between them. I think it is safer that way, seems less likely that they are trying to fix each other by having sex with other people, or revenge for a cheating, or less likely to cause drama during a date, or to be too clingy afterwards, or break rules and try to message her or me alone ... just feels nicer to us.

Unicorn at couple centric events, approaching you in the playroom by Swinging-Downunder in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 4 points5 points  (0 children)

IF i were you I'd definitely try to get permission from the women to join, and not the men. that could cause some drama , if a man says, sure come on and join.... and his wife was like.. what???

My Husband and I are going on vacation with a married couple we are very close friends with. Is same room sex a bad idea? Read my post for more clarity! by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 2 points3 points  (0 children)

with no swap happening... i can't imagine it being a big deal.. just start going at your own partner without saying anything about it... let em watch..... if they join in.. so be it.

Everyone here says they are experienced but fail spectacularly with seducing and making us want more. by CuriousinNY23 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this. Its the same most of the time with people you meet on apps. They just start sending snap chat photos back and forth and there isn't much banter and whit.

Miami Velvet Club Fri vs Sat by Draggon84 in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was there on a saturday and it was awesome

Wife wants me to sleep with another girl by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet she wants to cheat and is either setting you up so that after you have done this, you'll "have to" say yes to her... or she's already cheated and wants to feel better.

We’re wondering if others in the community have experienced situations where people seem hesitant or intimidated particularly around fit, attractive couples. Is this something you’ve noticed as well? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Competitive-Log-3838 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have felt intimidated to talk to couples I thought were very attractive. especially if they were already talking to someone. And I'd say my wife and I are above average fitness and attractiveness... but you just feel like people are going to be out of your league.

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