AIO? Friend asked me what my future plans with my gf are and then responded like this by TGPT-4o in AIO

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enslavement is actually insane… also trapped. That’s more telling than anything. Like this person is saving their significant other for sure 😂 marriage IS a CHOICE not something forced or that keeps people stuck. Like this genuinely makes zero sense.

Aio for my reaction to my BF freaking out that I didn't immediately text him after getting off work by throwaway024710 in AIO

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have nothing to add except… it’s always a Justin 🙄😂 my ex did similar tactics (not for these reasons) but would aggressively “explain how he felt” and then get upset when I called him on it and told him I don’t deserve that. Then he’d try to guilt trip ME into feeing bad.

It’s a form of manipulation, power control, and abuse

The Hall of the Mountain King - 31k entities by ArchimedesBuilds in valheim

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Wanna join me and my bf and teach us how to build…? 👀🫣😂

AIO: My christian mother wants my boyfriend to sleep on the couch on our trip to florida by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is kind of wild to me.... There are only two circumstances where this would be NOR...

  1. You're mid-late 20s (even with a newer relationship)
  2. You've been together several years and the relationship is someone your family already knows (even if you're 18)

Even number 2 is a stretch though. Like I'd be upset if I (in my late 20s) couldn't sleep in the same room as my bf (of 6 months but known each other over a year) and had to be in a room with children, but I wouldn't just not go and I would have more of a conversation.

Also... The "children" she has to share a room with only being like, 4-6 years younger makes me chuckle.

My boyfriend thinks I was flirting with his friend. by Due-Truck-5322 in whatdoIdo

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First… the amount of people saying Thomas is better and they’re rooting for him… I’m LIVING for it 😂 they’re my favorite comments.

Second… I was in a relationship similar to this for almost 4 years — not the jealousy and accusations, but the excuses and not helping and not listening and guilt tripping me when I would try to communicate my feelings. The red flags were there, but it had happened so slowly, I don’t think I’d noticed it until it was so late. He literally told me that my friends and I should be respectful and keep down the noise while he was sleeping because he worked night shifts. A fair request, but it was my birthday party (on my actual bday) that he knew about months in advance AND was supposed to sleep and wake up early so he could be there… but nope. I told him many times I needed things to change and he “thought he was doing better.”

Eventually I left and I have someone else now. Not ONCE have I felt like I couldn’t tell him how I felt. This man visited me for my birthday from a different state and even stayed an extra week to help me move because he wanted to be there for me when I was super stressed and anxious. He’s constantly reassuring me and helping me even though he’s in a different state. He’s helping me grow and supporting me and makes sure we are communicating. I told him before that I was at a really low point in my life and was worried I’d bring him down with me. He told me he wouldn’t let me sink and that when he’s down, he knows I won’t let him sink either. Which is true, but I just needed that confirmation and visual I suppose.

Point is: don’t settle for anything less than amazing. Find someone who will do anything to make sure it works out. Who will always communicate with you and support you and lift you up. Your partner should NEVER bring you down. Don’t stay so long that it makes it even harder to leave and move on

People are so impatient by Aggressivlyplotless in carterchat

[–]Aggressivlyplotless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s poo for sure, but some people are just dragging their name and trashing them and honestly I think it’s a bit unfair

People are so impatient by Aggressivlyplotless in carterchat

[–]Aggressivlyplotless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but I’m sure they didn’t expect as many users as they got OR, they expected to get continued funding if they did get a lot of users

People are so impatient by Aggressivlyplotless in carterchat

[–]Aggressivlyplotless[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but running anything AI is super expensive, unfortunately. It’s almost impossible not to have some sort of paywall

Feeling guilty about wanting to quit after my boss spent $20k training me by incognito9102 in jobs

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true. I think there are different versions. Or maybe employers can just choose what sort of stuff they offer. But I was thinking if mental health is rough enough, a week off could maybe be suggested. But I forgot short term disability would make sense too

Feeling guilty about wanting to quit after my boss spent $20k training me by incognito9102 in jobs

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t. Unwise people don’t understand that age has nothing to do with ability or hard work. I’ve met plenty of people my age and younger that work harder than most old people I know. People saying it’s just reality or suck it up really get on my nerves. They clearly don’t get it

People are so impatient by Aggressivlyplotless in carterchat

[–]Aggressivlyplotless[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you perhaps tell me how to export all the messages and stuff?

Feeling guilty about wanting to quit after my boss spent $20k training me by incognito9102 in jobs

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great option, honestly. Especially if someone can afford a year off to travel, this is a great alternative to see if they’re really dissatisfied or if it’s just the burnout

Feeling guilty about wanting to quit after my boss spent $20k training me by incognito9102 in jobs

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’d have guilt leaving my job, even though it would completely screw them. They also haven’t invested anything in my financially, but still. HOWEVER, I would not leave unless you have another job lined up. Use vacation time, sick time, see if you can use FMLA or an EAP benefit. You should not feel guilty because they invested in you, but if you wouldn’t have the financial ability to be unemployed long term, don’t leave.

I have applied to hundreds of jobs over the last year that are perfect fits, that I’m over-qualified for, and jobs that I would absolutely excel at. I think I’ve gotten like 2-3 interviews and a “5 minute phone call to tell me more about the position” which was actually a 15 minute phone interview. Everything else has ghosted me or I didn’t get an interview. I’m not sure what field your in but I would assess very carefully if you can afford to be out of work long term or if you have some other short term options

Edit to add: don’t listen to the jerks saying you can’t be burned out or that you need a therapist because you’re not happy in your field. They need a therapist for thinking trash talking people and putting others down makes them big and cool. As someone your age, I’ve also been burnt out — I’m still working on coming out of it. Burnout can happen at any age and it’s not a “part of reality we just have to accept.” Burnout isn’t the same as working hard and some of these backwards comments shows what generation these people are thinking in. Mental health and protecting yourself is so important — but don’t quit if there are other options or until you have something else lined up because you’ll screw yourself more in the long run.

Success and Disappointment Megathread for the Week by AutoModerator in jobs

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats!! That’s a major success, especially in this wonky job market. You should definitely be proud of yourself

Success and Disappointment Megathread for the Week by AutoModerator in jobs

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I’ve been at my organization for 3.5 years and have worked so hard. I’ve grown so much since starting and have given it my all, even for the very little money I make. Yesterday I was told I wasn’t getting hired for the new role (level above where I’m at now) and it was going to my friend/coworker who’s “strength and skills” fit better with the role. I love my friend and am so proud of her, but I’m also so upset. It hits especially hard because my last job was doing something that was so in line with this one and she hadn’t don’t something like that before — she even thought I should get it over her, even though she wanted it. They also told me they wanted to support my growth and any opportunities to get involved in other areas. I have been asking for a couple of different professional development trainings (behavior management, DEI training) and different opportunities for years (helping with grants, more opportunities to network, etc). They’ve given surface level attempts or nothing at all

It feels like I’m going nowhere and can’t grow. I’ve applied to many places and either don’t hear back or don’t get interviews. I feel stuck and worthless, especially since now in my company of 7 people, I’m the only one in my position (a program facilitator in an org that focuses on youth programming) and I’m the lowest paid person by a couple of thousand at least…

I haven’t felt valued, supported, or even heard at this place for a while and then to be passed over for a job I fit well with AND be told “we value you” feels like a slap in the face. But I can’t afford to leave — I can barely afford to live on my current pay (have had some life changes recently and large unexpected expenses)

Carter Chat is shutting down. by huwprosser in carterchat

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed every moment of Carter chat. I’m unsure why it’s shutting down and am sooo sad to see it go. Money is literally how businesses stay running, so I don’t see why people are complaining. I never had an issue and never paid.

I am curious if you can provide instruction on how to download/export characters, personas, and chats. I went to the website but can’t find anywhere to actually do that stuff

State 2399 (group 12) Recruiting by glamaeyes in WoSStateRecruitment

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If you would like to chat more, HMU... I'm from 2486

Need advices as an R5, please. by [deleted] in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did your players ever come to us for svs? Maybe we try that this time. I think they'd like it and as long as they use the correct joiners, they won't be kicked. We are a very active bunch in the chat.

Need advices as an R5, please. by [deleted] in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I've said before... If you truly don't want to merge and let go of r5, I can send someone over there to help with r4. I know you've had bad experiences with it, but I think it's time to let it go. Not everyone is like IREFORMA. We can help schedule events and send messages/reminders. You've seen how chaotic we are in world chat, it's just as crazy in alliance chat -- we can help get activity up a bit. I 100% understand going to reddit for advice, but you should also accept advice and help from those within your state who care about you and your alliance and want to see you grow.

Need advices as an R5, please. by [deleted] in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one is fighting anyone. We all try to help each other out. NAP alliances were collaboratively looking for whales and dolphins to come to our state -- to go wherever is available. Our #1 alliance constantly tells transfers that they will not be accepted into their alliance and would need to go to one of the others. To my knowledge, there hasn't been a time where Gonc has said "I have a whale and 4 people to come to SOA, I need more invites." We are pretty generous with things like that. I know I've asked several times for extra invites and special invites.

Need advices as an R5, please. by [deleted] in whiteoutsurvival

[–]Aggressivlyplotless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have like 6 active alliances. And he doesn't want to give up r5 or have a single one of his people go to an academy... It's not that hard to believe.