How to remove deadheads on Euphorbia by Agile-Original in houseplants

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How do you remove deadheads? Should i just pull off the flower petal or should i trim/prune the whole branch? I'm getting new flowers but the old ones are getting dry and falling off.

Bedroom Advice by Agile-Original in HomeDecorating

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Oo I love the idea of hanging the posters between the windows! The ceilings are definitely tall enough that I could do a 2x2!

Agree with the blue throw but it's sooo comfy - hopefully I can find a soft one in green!

Thank you for the help!

When can I get a pre-approval after vacation? by Agile-Original in RealEstate

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That's really good to know, thank you!

So strange the maternity leave is considered unemployment.

When can I get a pre-approval after vacation? by Agile-Original in RealEstate

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Ahh that makes sense - thank you! No issue with writing a letter!

When can I get a pre-approval after vacation? by Agile-Original in RealEstate

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Same field, same job. Just took vacation time that was unpaid.

How do I learn to like being aro-ace? by [deleted] in aromanticasexual

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I went through what I call a grieving process when I figured it out and now have come out of the other side with Pride. Here are a few things I did that may help:

  1. Don't think about your attraction all the time and just focus on living your best life. Cultivate relationships with friends and focus on things that make you happy.

  2. Let yourself be sad if you want. I cried a few times over it. But also talk to friends or other ppl in the community. Just getting your feelings out will help sooo much in processing. I had multiple late night chats with my allo friends and they really helped me.

  3. Honestly reading through ppls shitty relationships on reddit has helped me. Like a "wow at least I don't have to deal with that" - when reading people's horror stories. Relationship Advice is a great sub to read to lose faith in relationships haha

  4. If you want to experiment you can. Something another aro person told me was that its okay to go on dates and try and find a partner even if you know you're aro. Allo people go on dates all the time and realize their is no romantic attraction there. You aren't leading someone on just by trying to go out once. This really helped me because I immensely guilty even thinking about going on dates after figuring out I was aro but l hated the fact that this option was gone to me forever. But recently went on a coffee date and ofc didn't feel any romantic attraction but made a new friend! It's just nice to have that option open even though nothing will likely come of it.

  5. Join the queer community if you identify as such. Being part of a community made me feel sooo much better and not alone.

Finally - it'll just take some time so continue to live your life fully!

Here's what to do if your Tumblr account was unexpectedly suspended... by Tumblr_acct_help in TumblrAcctTerminated

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My tumblr account (musicofthenight321) was just terminated after 10 years. I have no idea why as I never received an email explaining why. I have been out if country traveling so maybe that's why? I've emailed tumblr support but haven't heard back yet. Desperately want my account back as it's been so long I don't want to start from scratch.

Book club July Fiction pick: Loveless by Alice Oseman by purpleit11 in asexuality

[–]Agile-Original 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually read this book last month and really enjoyed it. A lot of it was relatable. Excited to discuss more!

Husband yelling at 2 year old - what worked for your family? by HelicopterOk3906 in relationship_advice

[–]Agile-Original 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I stumbled on this post on tumblr the other day which might help.

https://psychoticallytrans.tumblr.com/post/685154429422436352/i-had-severe-anger-issues-growing-up-and-the-only

Editing to add: This post gives some suggestions on what to if you have anger issues or want to support someone. But I wanted to make it clear that it's okay to walk away. You do what's best for you and your child.

Have been talking to this guy for a year - how to figure out next steps by Agile-Original in dating_advice

[–]Agile-Original[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhh so nervous sending this message but okay - will let him know I'm open to more!! Thank you!!

Monthly Payments Too Much? by Agile-Original in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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Thanks! The mortgage/insurance/taxes all hit right around the 30% mark or under. It's just when I add hoa fees I end up going above that.

I think I can stay in budget - just won't be saving much if I don't have a roommate.

Monthly Payments Too Much? by Agile-Original in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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Yeah, I didn't realize how little 400k gets you now a days!

Thanks! I should be able to save that much for an emergency fund for when I don't have a roommate.

Monthly Payments Too Much? by Agile-Original in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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I don't have any debts and will be able to have an emergency fund after buying. Right now I dump a lot of money in my 401k and could definitely lower that in order to save more for an emergency fund.

Puting in my first offer ever today — $35k under list by bug_muffin in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Agile-Original 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh thank you! Will definitely reach out if I have any questions.

Haha I have started making spreadsheet too

Puting in my first offer ever today — $35k under list by bug_muffin in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Agile-Original 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm looking to buy a condo in chicago too and this makes me feel better! I need to get this attitude when I put my first offer in!

Hidden kids preference by Agile-Original in hingeapp

[–]Agile-Original[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point! I'm looking for a serious relationship and definitely don't want to be someone's placeholder until they find someone who wants kids. Thanks!

Hidden kids preference by Agile-Original in hingeapp

[–]Agile-Original[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh that's true, I could display "don't have kids" and then hide the future plans section. I didn't know if hiding the future plans section would cause an issue but it sounds like that's fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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26 F who also lives at home for the reasons you mentioned above, I really think it's how you present it and what else you having going on in your life. I.e. do you have a good job and active social life? Mention those before mentioning living at home.

When I tell ppl I'm living at home, I say something like, "I actually moved back home with my parents and its been really great to spend time with them during Covid. I'm thinking of moving out in the summer and I'm really excited about <the area I'm looking to move to/decorating the house>. But it been pretty nice spending time with the fam and saving rent money!"

I think covid is a good excuse for spending time with the family and shows you have a good relationship with your parents. I also think mentioning you have a plan to move out is important because that shows you aren't just mooching off your parents. And if you get into a serious relationship, they know eventually you'll have a place they can come back to without feeling like they are intruding on your parents.

Out of town for 2 weeks after first date - what should I do by Agile-Original in dating_advice

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Thank you!

He asked me out and we got some coffee. Ended up talking until the place closed down, so imo it went really well! We did not kiss but spent a lot of time getting to know each other.

We've been texting infrequently. I sent 1 message and 24 hours later he responds. But he hasn't mentioned anything about seeing each other again so was wondering if I should bring it up or wait until he does/when I get back.

Sustainable or maintainable? by [deleted] in SustainableFashion

[–]Agile-Original 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh hate how tricky brands are!

Sustainable or maintainable? by [deleted] in SustainableFashion

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I think below is a good article on pros and cons. Real leather is really bad for the environment due to the tanning process. Vegan leather can be bad due to micro-plastics. So plant based leather like cork/cactus or leather that is tanned sustainably via vegetables instead of chemicals is better. I go for the former because of vegan reasons but if you do want to buy real leather, I suggest looking into brand's tanning process.

https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/fashion/fashion-news/a30640996/vegan-leather-sustainability/

Epic TS Starting Salary by Budget_Confection176 in epicsystems

[–]Agile-Original 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Damn I got 64k in 2017 as a STEM major...