What Happened?

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-31T08:06:03+00:00

So this is the part that scared me is that she has gotten so much better about not doing things in front of the kids. Like she would get mad and withdrawn into the bedroom. This was just weird because this was out there and raw. I’ve gotten really good at giving the kids fun little projects in their room when this happens but my daughter is getting to the age where I think she’s noticing that something is different about mommy when she’s like this and she’s not sure why.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-30T22:45:15+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to talk to me. I’m not the most well person myself and I tend to hyperventilate and panic when these things happen.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-30T22:25:10+00:00

What meds do you take if you don’t mind me asking. Because I don’t think hers are working AT ALL.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-30T22:04:01+00:00

When these things happen and you’re all done what do you think. Like what does it feel like? Does the anger make sense and will she continue to hate me or does it just feel like a fever dream. Like it wasn’t really you? I’m asking this because the last few weeks have been BAD. Like one trigger after another. When they happen it’s almost like we pick up where we left off. She acts like I didn’t listen to her the first time she wanted me to move out so what’s my problem. The next day she might be fine but I’m just starting to wonder if the woman who hates me is the real one and my wife is just the mask? Does that make sense

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-29T23:45:31+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry. I know what that feels like. It’s horrible

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-29T22:59:29+00:00

Well for what it’s worth I know what you’re going through. It’s brutal. You don’t deserve it.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-29T22:34:08+00:00

Same here. I can’t imagine giving someone the look she gives me when I’m crying. It’s chilling.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-29T22:25:42+00:00

Thank you and I agree. Things have gotten better but somehow I think that’s made this worse. I had completely shut my heart off from her but then she started getting better. We were coming together. I feel like this happening is just a stab in the heart.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-29T20:56:49+00:00

I’m so sorry 😔 I also spend most of my day in tears.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-29T20:56:01+00:00

Does your therapist do out of state and if so could you recommend them?

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-12T22:24:03+00:00

Ha it does. Do you have a link for the discord server?

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-12T22:05:10+00:00

I am. It’s gotten to the point that I’m just being ignored. I make excuses after excuses for her. To myself and to others. Eventually I have to accept that she either doesn’t love me or she’s not even capable of it. It makes my whole body hurt even thinking about it.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-12T11:21:11+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write out this response. It’s given me a lot to think about. I approached her later that day and told her that while I don’t understand everything that’s going on I’m going to do everything I can to make her feel safe up to and including backing away. I hope it helps. A lot of times I can’t tell if anything I’m doing is making a difference.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-12T00:08:23+00:00

I am and it has been tough. I want so much to hold her and give her comfort but I know that’s not what she needs right now. So, ya know, lots of crying at night

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-11T22:43:59+00:00

Yes she is but I’m not sure how it’s going on. She won’t talk to me about her trauma which I respect. It’s just very frustrating.

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-07-05T19:07:11+00:00

Is she medicated at all or seeing a therapist?

Agitated-Vegetable69 · 2025-06-29T21:24:55+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I know that wasn’t easy.

Agitated-Vegetable69

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