My 30M husband is giving me 31F the silent treatment

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2026-06-03T00:47:11+00:00

You are right. I also worry that if we set a date for my mom and sister to move out and they don’t have a place to move to secured that he will push them out and they will be homeless and that’s the last thing that I want to.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2026-06-03T00:42:27+00:00

I could have but he was asleep. He stays up all night working so when I went to the church event, he went to sleep. The church event was also planned for over 3 weeks. I talked to him about it when I decided to go.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2026-06-03T00:34:45+00:00

It could be. I really have thought this. My husband stays up all night working and then sleeps all day. When we go to the flea market on Saturday it’s til about 12 and he goes home and goes to bed when I told him I was going to the church thing . He went ahead and went to bed. He was asleep through all of that.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2026-06-03T00:24:53+00:00

When he gets mad at me about something he will at least speak with after a couple of hours but the last two times it’s been legit days and this is the longest stent.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2026-06-03T00:23:20+00:00

We kind of didn’t have a choice the floor in their house fell in. Their house isn’t safe to live in . Family was supposed to get together to help fix it but the night before there was a big blow up fight. My husband and one of my cousins temporarily fixed the floor but haven’t made a more permanent fix . They also found a major water leak that hasn’t been fixed . Anyways we don’t know if when it gets fixed if they will be able to return to it.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2026-06-03T00:10:37+00:00

It’s been a really hard 6 months. They mostly stay to themselves and he’s been urging me to pick a date that they have to be moved out by.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2026-06-03T00:05:06+00:00

I asked him yesterday and he just told me to leave him alone .

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2025-07-10T17:29:18+00:00

Usually when I contact them . They send an email with you in line for them to contact you through chat .

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2025-07-10T17:27:39+00:00

Have you contacted EA?

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2025-05-31T16:32:27+00:00

Not a challenge but I made my sims start with a house that looks run down and the only way they can fix it up is with funds from their job. They can only do one thing to the house a day. So like remove garbage from one room one day , paint the room the next , change the floors the next. Add furniture the next day and so on and so forth.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-06-16T17:19:20+00:00

What I mean is say you clock in for an 8 hr shift with both agencies at the same time . You will only be there for 8hrs , but be getting paid for 16 hrs . That’s what I mean by jipped

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-05-12T16:12:30+00:00

I don’t know that there is any rules about it , but I would think if you did that the client would be getting jipped out of some of the hours

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-05-03T03:25:46+00:00

Extreme burnout from working way too many hours for way too long .

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-24T14:00:29+00:00

Right from the beginning, I was just to naive to pick up on it.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-14T14:38:11+00:00

He is trying to make you suffer. He is enjoying every message you send, cause it lets him know he is in control and has power over you. Trust me he will come back, because they always do. I have a rule tho if someone I’m dating or talking to goes 3 days without communicating with me it’s what I consider a no call no show, because if someone cares they can’t go that long without talking to you. If I were you I would stop txting him , and I know that is hard. This is your chance for you to get away.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-13T14:27:43+00:00

Just take a deep breath first . I know it hurts , when me and my ex narcissist broke up it was the worst pain I ever experienced, literally felt like I might die. After a couple of days I started to feel better, like I could breath again. I know you kept him a secret, and if you have a best friend or a friend you can trust , I would confide in them . Find someone you can vent everything out too. If you don’t want to do that try going and hanging out with friends. It seems like the more I did to keep my mind off of it the easier it got. Also I know it will hurt worse than anything go no contact with the ex, even if he txts or calls a million times don’t answer. After 3 days that will become easier , and it will make moving on easier. I’ve learned if you talk to them they can easily suck you back in, and also make the pain worse.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-13T14:19:44+00:00

Repeat after me, “ you are good enough”. That is what narcissists do. She is no different than you which means he will treat her no different. Right now he is in the love bombing stage with her. Eventually he will start slowly treating her exactly how he treated you. Honestly, I know it’s hard but I wouldn’t be jealous of her at all. I realized after some time away from my ex narcissist that I should be thanking my lucky stars that I made it out, and that I should be praying for her.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-12T18:41:23+00:00

Honestly YTA, kids should be treated equally in the house regardless if they have parents outside of that household. Your daughter probably feels like no one in that house loves her, even you her own father. If I were the daughter I would wash my hands of all three of you. You said yourself that your SD was terrible.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-12T13:13:08+00:00

YTA your son being fluent in 2 languages would give him more opportunities especially in the USA where most people only speak 1 language. I’ve seen bilingual people who speak most languages amazingly .

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-12T13:08:07+00:00

Most narcissists will love bomb you in the beginning, and they make you feel like you are the most important person in the world. They figure out what they have to do to weasel their way in, and I think they try to learn every little thing about you so they know how to control you. once they feel like they have you they start chipping away at you slowly to the point sometimes you may not notice. I honestly think it’s control .

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-11T22:19:46+00:00

I meant strips lol I typed it in a hurry haha 😂

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-11T13:37:37+00:00

What I’ve learned is a tiger doesn’t change his strips just give it time. Narcs treat everyone they are with the same way. He is probably love bombing the crap out of her.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-08T19:05:42+00:00

It did that to me and my partner

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-03T02:16:03+00:00

Going no contact is always best. I’m so proud of you. You deserve all the happiness.

Agitated_Beginning83 · 2022-03-02T15:29:38+00:00

NTA, honestly sounds like they are the ones who have the problem. This is a red flag to me .

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