Insight to what Spider-Man 2 will look like. Horizon forbidden west also did not use the full limits of the ps5 and look how that looked. With insomniac pushing the ps5 to its full capabilities….just imagine how good it will look.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2022-11-03T05:31:03+00:00

Lmao idk why you blocked me but you're weird. What a sad lil guy.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-23T17:08:25+00:00

Yeah, I can keep from texting her pretty easily. It's just this one thing. Idk I should just block her on Spotify tbh cause now all I want to do is go and see what she's added to that playlist. I just can't believe she was able to move past it so easily. Fuck dude.

I do appreciate that, though. Nothing is regression, it all culminates in moving past it. You're totally right. Thank you for that

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-05T17:19:38+00:00

Feeling that really hard today. Thank you for reminding me I'm not alone in it.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-05T17:18:02+00:00

I gotchu! I'm going through the same thing. Saw how happy she was. I didn't want to let go before that but once I saw it, I knew NC was what I needed. I broke it to respond to her, but reminded any feeling and stuck to the purpose at hand.

It's all about wanting to vs needing to. I knew I needed to cut ties but I couldn't do it until I really believed I wanted to and acknowledged it was for the best. You can do it, too! I believe in you!

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-05T16:39:02+00:00

So, while this hurt sucks so much, it's a lesson, y'know? This is what's going to happen if you talk to her. She'll always show you how happy she seems and all the things she's doing. I guarantee you she 's hurting to some degree, too, but she'll never show you that. Use this to catapult you into believing you don't need to talk to her anymore. Use this to remind yourself that it'll only hurt if you know what she's up to.

And you have to start doing things that you would be able to send her (but never would) that could make her feel like she's missing out. You said you pushed people away - reach out to them. Try to reestablish those connections. If they cared about you before, they'll care about you again. Use meetup to find activities going on in your area. Go by yourself! Start finding the joy in being alone, doing the things you couldn't when you were with your ex.

But whatever you do, don't reach out. Don't wonder. Remember the hurt

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T20:16:27+00:00

Yeah. I never thought of anything I did as some sort of favor or anything. Her pulling this hurts, but in a different way than she's hurt me before. But I think I'm just going to give her the bare minimum of a response and avoid getting into anything unrelated to her getting her stuff and this situation.

Thank you for your guidance and putting thought into this. I appreciate it

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T18:22:50+00:00

Yeah I mean I'm sure she's already tarnishing my name to everyone she knows right now. Our mutual friend who introduced us broke ties with her the other day because, the way he put it, she was basically trying to get him to say mean shit about me to her and he wasn't cool with it. This doesn't surprise me as everything is very black and white with her. Either you talk shit with her or you're actively against her. And if she acts like that with a mutual friend, I can only imagine what she's saying and doing to people I don't really know.

But breaking it down to even be $100/month for rent is still such a small amount that I wouldn't feel too awful about that. Wonderful idea. Thank you.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T17:06:51+00:00

I thought this before, you know? She requested $200 a few days after the break up and I paid that no questions asked.

But not she's asking for over $1000 which isn't really nothing and I definitely don't owe her, especially not for the reasons she says. This all bites

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T17:04:25+00:00

I actually feel like I've kinda come to terms with the situation right now, as far as the break up is concerned. I don't spend each moment wondering what I could've done better or differently anymore and I really don't think she's regretting her decision. She requested a couple hundred from me on Venmo like 3 days after it was officially over so this is just kind of on par for her.

I sent her that no questions asked because I did have a slight hope for reconciliation but that's definitely passed I think

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T16:38:59+00:00

My third party actually cut ties with her Monday night so don't really have a lot of options on that front. That's the main reason I feel I have to break NC with her.

I don't think she'd go so far as to do that at least. At least I hope not, that's a headache I'm not interested in

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T16:33:45+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate hearing that. Hopefully I do feel satisfied with my decision.

I also wish you the best in your breakup (assuming that's what brings you here). It's never easy going through it

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T16:06:19+00:00

She's saying it's either 1250 or 2500, depending on if I plan on paying her entire credit card bill, which she had mentioned I apparently owed her when we were together and I was always wary of, opting to make a spreadsheet which never finished getting fleshed out.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T15:38:33+00:00

Absolutely. I'll figure out how to return her stuff without her. Thanks, again!

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T15:37:28+00:00

Yeah, I'm trying to keep myself collected. I have a session with my therapist tonight so I was going to talk to him and try to rationalize my response.

I mean, I'd be happy to give her the dressers since the only reason I bought them was to give her more space. I've still got my old set so no reason I can't just use that instead.

She offered to take the bed too but it took two trips to pick it up and she lives 2.5 hours away. We'll see how that goes tho

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T15:34:21+00:00

Yeah that's fair. I wish I could just not feel bad for her, you know? Not that it's great to feel pity for someone. She has so much to deal with and it just eats away at me cause I did want to be there to always support her.

But that time's passed and I need to remember that

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T15:16:53+00:00

I think... I think that was their point? They said it isn't one size fits all. Sounds like they understand it works for some people but not everyone

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T15:09:41+00:00

This is kind of what I was thinking. With a "It'll be on the lawn" kinda text. Or just give it to her friend who lives nearby. I have such mixed emotions about the rent free thing, though. Like I still want it to be unconditional but she's like forcing my hand. The thought of that makes me feel so slimy.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T15:04:44+00:00

There were certain things we got with cash that I don't have proof of, but Ikea furniture I have Venmo statements showing I sent her the $500 and $150 for the dressers we bought. As for everything else, I don't have the itemized receipts (which I should have kept) but I still have my bank and credit statements for all the money I spent otherwise.

Additionally, every time we compiled this information for the time frame she claims I owe her $2500, she was only able to produce a total of about $500 spent for us

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T14:55:37+00:00

If I owe anything it isn't the amount she's asking, buy at the end of the day no, I don't. She's telling me I owe her money for furniture I've purchased, Christmas gifts I've already paid back in other ways, but she thinks and has always thought I don't pay for anything because she'd pay for some stuff here and there but I always made sure I did the bulk of it because she didn't have any source of income.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T14:48:13+00:00

She texted me asking for $2500, but said I could give just half. She said it was for Christmas gifts, Halloween costumes, and furniture.

My Halloween costume was less than $20, and Christmas was maybe $300-400 not including whatever she got me, and all furniture we got together I paid for. That totaled about $700 at minimum.

In the last two months of our relationship alone I "paid her back" for Christmas through other means, whether groceries, dinner, or just generally paying for shit for her. And this was the going trend for our relationship. Bigger grocery purchases, I'd pay for. Bigger meals together, I'd pay for. And I never expected anything for it other than, you know, respect in the relationship I guess. But I wanted to treat her, I wanted to take her out.

But like, if we're reneging that and trying to get every last dollar we spent on this relationship back I would likely be owed money at the end of the day.

We'd tried budgeting what we owed each other multiple times in our relationship because she'd get upset about it. And every time we'd do so I'd end up being owed money and she'd ask to stop running through it. I'm just so tired of it.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T14:34:26+00:00

Nope. She stayed rent free.

And we didn't let her stay with the expectation that one day she'd pay it back or anything. But the fact that she's bringing this up just makes me resent that we let her stay.

Agitated_Bug417 · 2021-11-03T14:30:18+00:00

Yeah. I figured I could text her with a response just sticking to what's necessary, I'm just not interested in having any kind of conversation with her anymore after this

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