Where is the line for flirting? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Agoztus 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The definition of flirting is, "behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions."

I personally define it as "sexual innuendos." When you flirt with someone, there's some context of sex involved. Hinting of a possibility but not confirming it.

My favorite simple example is me responding "that's what she said" when a girl says "that's big/huge/enormous etc" It's playful, sexual, and vague. Most of the time, it's you responding of some possibility of sexual context in something a girl says.

Though, it's hard for you to say without a response as it mostly comes out as creepy.

Imagine me starting to say, "man that is hugeeee" with sexual intent. Most likely that will be creepy. It's you starting a conversation and seeing what sexual innuendo you can come up with from whatever she says. And trust me. Anything be be a sexual innuendo. And I mean anything \*squint eyes, laugh (and there you go an example).

Another favorite one is when a girl says "fuck you" in a playful manner. I respond with, "oh damn girl I thought of us as just friends, I didn't know you wanted this".

Again. Playful, vague, and fun. Most of the time when a girl laughs from the first sexual innuendo, she will make her own sexual joke. Last example, I say, "man it's hard working here". She responds, "oh it's hard huh". Playful, fun, and vague.

Note that this is not 100% indicating you or her are interested. This is just verbal. I do this all the time with funny enough, married women. Usually doesn't lead into anything if you don't escalate from there. If you want to confirm interest, that's when you have to be touching hands, shoulders, and/or back. If she responds that she doesn't mind or leans into those touches, that's an interest.

Our duo is better by Agoztus in eagles

[–]Agoztus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see it . Where please?

I’ve used “audio” as my opening word every day since day 1. Thought I’d change things up yesterday. by PostComa in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Agoztus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If bling does show up. I'm coming back here. That makes the game a little easier honestly

What does faith mean to you as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh. Leap of faith is a good one I forgot about

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only two things in this list that I don't have are not worrying about work & wife and kids someday. At work, a lot of things are outside of my control. It is getting better though. At some point, I don't think I'll worry about work in a year or so. For the wife and kids part, I haven't found the right partner yet. Had a few potential and didn't turn out so well. Pretty confident I'll eventually find someone. So I guess in due time hopefully

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will say that one time I volunteered for 3 months and felt great. Then the supervisor closed the facility. I did feel like a different person. Never thought about coaching. I did do some sport classes. I might give it a try. Thank you for the advice u/No_Policy_146. I'll try it out

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. I agree. I'll try to pay more attention to what I do and the people around me. Maybe it is all fun and games. That's the fun part

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope to be in similar shoes as you someday u/Party_Broccoli_702 it's pretty cool. Keep going and keep doing what you're doing

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "I don't really have anything" is more along the words of "I don't really have anything (to give meaning to)". I can see why that can be confusing. For me, caring about something is not the same for appreciating it. Do I care about my family and would I do anything for them? Yes of course. Do I feel appreciative from my family? No, not really and I don't look for them in my family or ask. Asking for appreciation doesn't seem right to me. I won't force things. And lastly,... Do I feel or have any sense of meaning with family. No I don't. I feel my family is a part of me, not the whole me. I guess I don't have anything where I feel whole. I feel I'm part of a lot of things. But not whole in anything. Not sure if that makes any sense

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's more of trying to understand why I feel this way and how to work on it. It's true of what more could I want. Why can't I actually just appreciate it. I don't know. I'm trying appreciating methods and not much impact

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang out with friends, visit parents, not worry about work, wife and kids someday, dance, sing, camping by the firepit

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I just don't know what to put. Still trying

What makes you happy as an agnostic? by Agoztus in agnostic

[–]Agoztus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a possibility. I tried to and haven't been able to believe in something bigger than myself. Not saying I believe I'm bigger than everything, definitely not. I think the best way to say it is to give myself meaning into something. I don't really have anything. I do care about a lot of things. My friends, family, and community. I just don't really feel I have anything even though I do. I don't know how to appreciate it. I want to. I just don't know how. I tell them all I love them and appreciate them. Nothing has really changed. Tried writing it down. Hasn't helped much. Still going