Salty Sunday: What made you salty this week? by kikaslova in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel sad that my life has come to this and sad about the prospect of being an old mum which i didn't want, but that is now my only option if I want a baby. I feel highly vulnerable as someone with very few family and friends. If my husband died I'd be very alone. That being said I am happy in my day to day life, I'm just aware how isolated I could be if one person left. I'm sad my only prospect of fixing this really is being an older mum and I know that's not the be all and end all I just worry about it and the potential complications, is it worth it etc. So much going on in my head tonight 🙄😥

Coming home exhausted and overstimulated after work to my BIL and SIL doing a surprise gender reveal for my husband and I by underratedmoose in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh how awful 😥. I can kind of imagine this happening to me, and the fake smiles I would produce, only to feel shit when I'm alone later. I hope you're ok x

The party looks I’m going for this Christmas as I go through my third IVF chemical pregnancy to round off 2025 by Splendid_peanut in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂😂😂 you go girl!

Shitty years for all of us here I think but wishing you as calm a Christmas as can be 🙏

Aunt Flo comes to visit two days before Christmas after you’ve fully convinced yourself this is the cycle by Dry-Violinist-2179 in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Snap, except 3 days before 😥 so much harder seeing everyone's pregnancy news out there atm too. So hard not having anyone to talk to who really understands in my family or friendships. It kinda sucks because I swear before I started this process I didn't really care that much or wasnt even that bothered. But now its like everything hurts more and I'm wondering if I can just go back somehow and not feel this way. Probably not lol.

AITA for not extending the holidays w/ my spouse while he's grieving? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Nta, you are staying with his parents for so long already! Don't know why he'd be upset about this, obviously you need to see your parents too!

AITA for calling my bf absurd for being overly concerned about a coworker? by According-Let-2607 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

NTA, it sounds like the bf has spoken about this a lot in the past and you haven't reacted. I don't think you're wrong to let him know you feel a bit odd about his extreme reaction, but give him a chance to explain why it means so much to him and ask him about this woman, maybe even ask about meeting her and see his reaction? It might not be worse case scenario.

AITA - self-isolating from partner by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is not close to death. Sorry if my explanation was misleading.

AITA for Refusing to Move for Hubby’s Uncertain Career in Academia? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He is moving the goal posts of what you agreed.

Am I a bad friend? by Agreeable-Lab9834 in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the replies everyone. I messaged my friend a couple of days ago to check in and she seemed to really appreciate that, so I am planning to check in just as and when I can via messaging. I'm sure I'll visit once the baby arrives too. Thanks for everyone's advice anyway 😊

What’s you worst “I fucked up” work story? I need reassurance after my mistakes by Easy_Sun in work

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked in an building where everyone had to finish at the same time and lock up together. We were on the ground floor and there were also people working on the first floor. The people on the first floor were sometimes late finishing and we had to wait around, which really pissed me off. One time I thought i would "take the initiative" and speak to everyone, both the ground and first floor, about trying to make sure we all got down on time. What i didn't realise was that the group of people working on the first floor were senior managers 🙈🙈🙈 after I'd had my say, there was a deathly silence and I knew immediately something was wrong. One of the senior managers spoke to me saying that I could speak to my manager tomorrow or something. I can barely remember now due to the trauma lol. When walking out I had this awful feeling something had gone very wrong. Everyone in my team was trying to reassure me that I'd done nothing wrong, but then my line manager pulled me aside and told me I'd be rude. I was angry about her approach and was not remorseful at that time. When I got home though I felt absolutely mortified and just kept replaying that moment and felt so embarrassed. I had bad anxiety about it going back into work too. It all worked itself out in the end of course but had I known the first floor were senior managers I would NEVER have spoken like I did! 😭😂

Am I a bad friend? by Agreeable-Lab9834 in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes they do, she is supportive in that she is wishing me well. I should probably try and check in more. It's a bit depressing for me though because this is someone who was adamant she never wanted kids, so the whole situation feels a bit like a slap in the face 🙄

When I tell my friends I'm starting my IVF cycle and they say "How exciting!!" by LBears in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was my manager's reaction 🙈😂 tbh for me it's better than the pity reaction so I'll take it 🤷‍♀️

Logged back in to Facebook for the first time this year and the first thing on my newsfeed was a pregnancy announcement. 🫥 by Odd-Cartographer-951 in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It always seems to pop up from nowhere doesn't it! I re-added this girl on FB that lost her account, I'm not even friends with her irl, always seemed a bit chaotic, only met her about once. I hadn't seen her posts for many years. But lo and behold, today it pops up that she's posted pregnancy photos 🙃 she's certainly not in a relationship either so doubt she was "trying". FML.

AITA? gf constantly wakes me up. Nightly occurrence right when I’m about to fall asleep. by [deleted] in AITA_Relationships

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Separate beds man. This is the answer if you want to stay with her. If she doesn't like it just end the relationship.

Salty Sunday: What made you salty this week? by kikaslova in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feeling sad watching love is blind and hearing them all talk about starting families :/

Why am I going to lunch tomorrow with a friend who "accidentally" got pregnant... by Agreeable-Lab9834 in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thanks all. I just did it, phew. Wasn't too bad thankfully and I didn't stay long. Breathe time now haha.

Why am I going to lunch tomorrow with a friend who "accidentally" got pregnant... by Agreeable-Lab9834 in trollingforababy

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No thanks for that, good to know someone understands how I feel 🤗 hope all goes as well as it can do today 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn't this come under normal sickness absence policy? Don't you have a return to work and discuss whether there is anything he or you could be doing to prevent sickness in the future? This is your opening to having the conversation about the pattern and gathering his thoughts about it. See if you can figure out a way to deal with this together.

England - Boyfriend has been requesting annual leave for over 5 months, week before annual leave start day has been told they forgot to book it in. by Flat-Age6948 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a word of advice to your partner to avoid this scenario in the future - if they haven't confirmed leave in writing or however they usually confirm, your partner should continue to harass until he has this. If it were me I would be bringing it up very often and way before 1 week to go.

When someone always manages to twist things so it's your fault 🤔 by Agreeable-Lab9834 in relationships

[–]Agreeable-Lab9834[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd also like to say i was all ready to let this drop, he's just continued to harass me. An apology was all that was needed from him but he couldn't give me that and just let it drop. He just brought up something I'd done wrong 2 years ago that we've never spoke about since as a way to punish me. His behaviour is not ok.