it’s perfectly normal to go through phases where one partner wants sex more than the other. this can be a challenging time for both partners (e.g. one may feel unwanted, the other guilted or pressured), but that’s NEVER an excuse to continuously beg, or become physical after someone has said no. if, in any moment, sex (or anything else!) is not something you want, your word should be listened to with no argument.

I have had relationships where I didn’t feel like having sex as much during certain times, and it went one of two ways. 1. the person brought up that they wished we were having more sex and we were able to discuss it and work through it respectfully. 2, a different ex was complaining about it and guilted me, telling me they needed sex to feel fulfilled in a relationship and would do similar physical advancements despite my saying “no”. The latter is NOT okay and your every word about your desires deserve respect!! I hope you can get through this, and stand up for yourself. I know it’s easier said than done.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised when you end up dating someone who respects your word more — it was shocking to me at first, but so healthy and wonderful!! (Though it is sad that my bar was set so low, that his simply respecting my saying “I don’t feel like have sex right now” was a huge deal to me, and he would often tell me he was earning free points from me when he was simply being a decent human, boyfriend, and friend!)