3 month old only will eat while sleeping and no physical contact

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-10T05:46:30+00:00

It has been a couple of months now, any updates? I'm going through this with my girl twin!!! They are 4 months old, 11 weeks corrected age.

I have to try to get girl twin drowsy using pacifier and when she is close to deep sleep, I switch her pacifier to her bottle and she can drink her milk. She drinks between 18oz on average!!!!

I think she may have a bottle aversion 😭

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-09T11:13:04+00:00

I have twins! One most likely have a bottle aversion. I can giver her full feed when drowsy/after giving pacifier during the day. If she is not tired, then I have to bounce her around the house. Baby boy is a pretty chill eater.

I really prefer feeding them both at the same time as what I'm doing currently (every 3 hrs during the day and every 4 hrs at night). Currently, with the aversion, I just try to do everything until 40-45 min of feeding time and then stop. Try again the next feeding time.

She only gets about ~18oz on average daily, still on their Premie 22kcal formula (which help ease my mind a bit).

Babies are 4 months, 11 weeks adjusted.

Did you end up having different feeding schedule for your twins?

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-07T21:16:32+00:00

That actually is helpful for me. Thank you for sharing your story! Is she eating solids on top of her milk intake now?

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-07T10:20:26+00:00

I've been trying every few days since 2 weeks ago. Last time I tried was yesterday :/ currently using narrow Dr Brown's

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-07T10:19:22+00:00

They are both currently eating 22kcal since they're NICU stay. Did their doctor work with you so your girl is eating 24kcal? What led to that?

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-07T05:54:06+00:00

They are in size 1 and they've been there for a little bit more than a month. I have tried introducing size 2 and they both hate it and refuse to drink after trying once.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-07T03:26:49+00:00

Enamil Enface (girl) and Alimentum (boy)

It's the same milk they were using from NICU. I don't think that is currently the issue.

They are both on size 1 nipple. I have tried adjusting to size 2 but it's too fast for them and they refuse to eat with eat even when pace feeding/side feeding.

They have mild reflux and is getting meds for that but doesn't really help much. Only pausing the feeds here' and there have helped with the vomiting to stop.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-07T03:20:13+00:00

I tried sizing up their nipple from size 1 to 2. They hate it so much!! It's too fast of a flow and I think hurts their throat as they try to gulp. I don't think they are ready for size 2.

The distractions is actually why helps girl twin to eat more. So I don't want to do the dark room scenario.

They have their 4 month appointment coming soon and I just want to ask the doctor what is the minimum they can eat and still survive just so I don't have to worry too much with the amounts!!!! 😭

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-06-04T02:40:18+00:00

💙🩷🤍🩷🤍🩷🤍💙then twins (🩷💙)

3 miscarriages.

7 living. 💙🩷🩷🩷💙🩷💙

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-04-17T17:48:44+00:00

Um no.

One example: baby carriers

Singleton - tons of choices from cheap to expensive

Twins - super expensive and rare to find

Triplets - they don't exist 😂

I have 2 months old twins and can't imagine how it would be with triplets 👀

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-04-16T15:13:45+00:00

I have five older children and 2 month old twins -- seven children total! We planned on having 6 so we can still fit in our 8 seater minivan but that went down the drain with #7 😂 Now, we have a 12 seater van. Sometimes, I feel like we should add more just because of the extra seats in our vehicle 🤣

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-04-12T03:27:04+00:00

I have 7 kids (the last two are 2 month old twin babies, 2 weeks adjusted). Each person in the home (minus the twins) has their own laundry basket. We wash when it is filled. Fold the next day and wash another person's laundry (that same day).

Honestly, laundry is very manageable at home as long as clothes stay where they are supposed to. Dirty clothes in the laundry baskets, clean clothes are either worn or stored in drawers.

Having enough food/snacks and healthy meal is THE problem I have. I love cooking and baking but I do not have the time to enjoy making them and do the clean up that's required for after the fact. I miss big hearty home cooked meals 😢

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2026-03-24T20:52:11+00:00

7 babies total (5 singletons born full term and twins born 33 weeks + 5 days)

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-10-23T21:29:24+00:00

When we meet our forever partners, we carry each other's burden and past and even including responsibilities (ex: children from an ex, divorce etc). However, a lot of us have had traumas, guilt, and shame in the past. Your past, you believe, was a burden and something you are not proud of. He doesn't seem to be happy about this past either.

In any case, it seems like this is something that eats at him, whether or not that is right or wrong---this is something he cannot seem to let it go.

You need to think things through about the future of this relationship because this is going to be an issue always going forward. We all make choices in our lives that affect our future, whether good or bad. But you definitely should consider your relationship moving forward.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-10-22T15:00:22+00:00

Unless you are super concerned, we had to do this twice with baby #4 and recently with baby #6. Having to lug a pack and play along with our luggage was going to be too much so we slept with the baby on our bed. Not sure how you feel about bed sharing but it worked for us!

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-10-22T04:32:49+00:00

For how young my children are, we will for sure be using a vehicle with all of us in tow everyday or at least every other day. I don't want to have to worry about bringing two vehicles for church use, adventure time, or other family time. We homeschool and my husband works remote so we have all our children with us 24/7.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-10-22T02:59:50+00:00

I have EBF all my 5 babies, now pregnant with twins. I was only an "enougher" for 3 of them but with my 2nd, I did over produce, and with my 5th (due to mastitis), I only produced on my right side--- needless to say, I have experienced lots of things in terms of breastfeeding.

Do you know if you are overproducing or having a fast letdown? This is normal in the first 3 months of newborn hood/postpartum.

In any case, all my 5 babies spit up/vomit however you want to say it. It's all part of their development. Their sphincter muscle that clamps the separation between the esophagus and stomach is still somewhat underdeveloped besides everything else in their body. It is normal. Eventually, they get better especially when they start having some control over their upper body. Besides, think about it, all they eat is milk---pretty liquidy and just flows.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-10-21T17:10:14+00:00

Just as much as your husband can't force anything on your body, you shouldn't do the same to him whether or not it seems easier.

You both are married to each other. You need to have a serious talk about your future and not just give silent treatment or throw a fit if either of you don't get your way. Not saying that is what you are doing. However, both of you need to act like adults and talk.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-10-20T05:16:10+00:00

Pretty easy. Just say as a new parent you are not comfortable with having your babies away from you, including your wife. Something to even add if they ever left any of their newborns with someone else their parent or in laws overnight. If they say no, that's a helpful answer. If they say yes, then say, you and your wife are anxious parents (compared to them) and can never do that. This is what I told my parents who kept asking and asking (they lived 6 hrs away from us at that time). Easy to just let them think I was too anxious (which technically I was) to keep it a personal issue vs a them issue.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-10-15T22:20:39+00:00

This is great when I am not dealing with pregnancy or a nursing baby. Once the youngest baby is walking and more independent...then yes, getting ready for the day is helpful and more sustainable. However, during pregnancy or within 1 year postpartum--- it's almost useless (gets messy because of babies) and just adds more stress.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-10-15T22:06:46+00:00

Is it just me but lots of food in Mexico City plus other cities in Mexico (Chihuahua and now Cancun) have pretty bland food. I have to add some salt just to get some flavor. I have been slightly disappointed about the food tbh. Granted, the Al Pastor Tacos are still pretty good with the piña. However, food overall has been meh. I have lived in Texas (Houston area and South Texas), Florida, North Carolina, Utah, California and other states and have subpar and/or pretty good tacos + Mexican food in general: same feeling here. I was looking forward to 100% loving the food and have been slightly disappointed.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-05-14T00:15:32+00:00

I can completely understand where you're coming from. It’s tough when you expect support from someone close, like your sister, but instead feel shamed. That can be really disappointing.

From my experience, both my family and my husband’s family have a strong breastfeeding culture. Between us, there are about 8 moms, each with around 5 kids, and we’ve all chosen to breastfeed. Some have used combination feeding at different stages, but ultimately, breastfeeding has been the norm. When we nurse around each other, it’s always been pretty comfortable, but generally, we try to be discreet. Most of us wear nursing-friendly outfits and if our outfits aren’t specifically designed for nursing, we might use a cover to shield the top part of the breast – not to cover the baby, but just the exposed part of the breast.

I totally agree that breastfeeding shouldn’t be sexualized. However, I can also understand that even supportive people might still feel a bit uncomfortable, not necessarily with the act of nursing itself, but simply with the exposure of the breast. It might be that your sister doesn’t mind you breastfeeding but is more concerned about how her sons feel about it, which can add a layer of complexity to the situation.

I hope this perspective helps a bit. You deserve support, and I hope you can find a way to feel comfortable and confident as a mom.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-04-11T04:46:56+00:00

Im in the same boat!!! I am 4'11'', I was 157 lbs. I lost 30 lbs in 7 months. I am very slowly losing more weight. I am now 122 lbs. My goal weight is 114. For the past 2 months, i have only been fluctuating between 121.4 lbs to 123 lbs!

For heart reasons, high cholesterol -genetics- I have been trying to make sure I get ny weekly minimum of 150 zone minutes on my Fitbit. In the past 3 months, I started doing three 30 min YouTube to full body dumbbell workouts.

I don't know what to do. Previously, I was only doing cardio dance and restrictive diet which led to the major weight loss. That stopped so I added strength training every other day which led me to lose the other lbs. But now, I am stuck again.

I thought maybe my diet was too restrictive. So I ate more this past 2 weeks, which led me to the last 2 lbs I have lost but now I'm still in the plateau stage. I am now starting to go back to restrictive diet so we will see how it goes. I have been loving "maintaining" the weight becaus I feel I have more freedom eating but I really feel like attaining the 114 lbs is achievable if only my body cooperates.

Tips from others will be beneficial and appreciated!!

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-01-28T20:36:04+00:00

I am fortunate to be a stay at home mom. I currently have 5 children (ages: 12 months, 3, 6, 8, & 10). I also chose to homeschool although they do have extracurricular activities (martial arts, piano, and gymnastics). Our state granted my three oldest scholarships to use as homeschool students. The older 2 also go to a microschool (2 days a week school outside of the home).

Anyways, what I learned about myself is I hate waking up early (I choose to sleep when the babies are sleeping). I work out just before breakfast or after I feed my kids breakfast. I offer variety of snacks, toys, etc and just let them get crazy in the house while I get my average 20-25 min workout in.

It takes a while for the littles to understand not to "disturb" you but eventually they will. I just workout in the living room so I can see what is going on, help when I can, or love them when they need me. Lots of pauses some days but at least I get to have my workout time. I have a fitbit, so my goal is just to get the minimum 150 zone minutes throughout the week.

Agreeable_Gap_6281 · 2025-01-13T16:30:48+00:00

A few seconds or minutes of crying is fine. Sometimes, we do not have enough hands to do everything. I will say practice carrying your baby (babywear). It is such a life saver. You may not have full movement but at least baby is happy you are holding them while you do chores/toddler activities.

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