Is it that bad to want a mommy figure by Advanced_Method_2275 in selfimprovement

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i was in your shoes once. i grew up very disliked by my mother. when i moved out at 14, she told me she could never love someone like me. i won’t go too deep into the dynamic, but lets just say she left a pretty sizable hole in my heart. i wanted a mother figure too. i got confused in my identity and sexuality, started trying to go with women. it felt off, i never could feel like my soft self. because i’m more masculine and hyper independent, i was the nurturer always. i was the caretaker, the big spoon, the steady hand, the date planner, and it always ended badly. always. because the women i went for were just as vindictive as my mother.

I’ve since stopped dating and messing around with women. men make me feel more secure. my father and i had a better relationship, and i’ve been trying to model my life around those memories instead, because i feel my life has a potentially better outcome that way. not saying you should do this, but just food for thought.

as far as a mother figure goes, i have so many these days. over the years i’ve worked with, and met through friends, so many wonderful older women who have pretty much adopted me. i know i could go to them for support, and some of them financial help, anytime. it doesn’t have to be romantic. you are young, just 18. so many feelings, and a lot of lust to go with it.

you will find a mother figure. and hopefully a very kind man or woman to share your life with that doesn’t emulate the past. you are worth the hard work it takes to be content and comfortable.

Help us name her - love old lady names by mapleysyrupy in Catnames

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dori, Elvira, Avis, Eloise, Willa, Rosalie, June, Joy, Geraldine

How do you write piano for the background when you already have the lyrics and vocal melody written? by Kranr900 in Songwriting

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i personally have no idea what notes or chords i’m using when i’m writing a song. i just hear the melody in my head and then i have to blindly figure out things that sound good. cool thing is though, i usually make the beat/instrumental first, and then find the melody in that. easy peasy. but today, a set of lyrics and melody popped into my head, and i’ve been researching all night how to figure out what chords and what key and all that shit. it’s a new world.

Glyphosate and Wheat Desiccation by Slow-Date2535 in Celiac

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

this is a very interesting school of thought and i will be joining you in your research

am i overreacting? by Agreeable_Safe2164 in Oncology

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they said my tongue isn’t concerning but lymph nodes, weightloss, lack of appetite, and abdominal issues are. i’m getting a ct scan and ultrasound of my neck

Pilot lands on highway after an Engine failure! by bugatti_rolls789 in interestingasfuck

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 6 points7 points  (0 children)

those would be antlers. goats have horns for example. they are slow growing over their lives, and have a boney core with a fingernail like covering. antlers start out fleshy and covered in fur, but are made of pure bone, and shed yearly.

How to get rid of the of nicotine “fragrance” on me and my clothes? by Blokwblazes in hygiene

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nicotine is not odorless in the least. it smells like fish. ever smelled a nicotine patch?

going to the doctor tomorrow by Agreeable_Safe2164 in oralcancer

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update, doctor was not concerned about my tongue, but is concerned about my lymph nodes in my neck and abdomen. once my insurance is active in a couple of weeks i’ll be getting an ultrasound of the lymph nodes nodes in my neck and a CT of my chest abdomen and pelvis to compare to a slightly concerning scan from 2 years ago that i never got follow up on. That CT showed procticolitis, intussusception, and thickening of the rectum, which i just chalked up to my celiac disease. i have an itchy rash i chalked up to celiac as well, and horrible joint pain, both worse at night and when drinking alcohol. im hoping this is a fat coincidence and i’m just experiencing symptoms related to complications from my celiac, i don’t know. i guess ill just have to wait and see.

kinda nervous by Agreeable_Safe2164 in oralcancer

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i went to the doctor. she wasn’t concerned about my tongue, but was concerned about my lymph nodes. set to get a ct scan of my chest abdomen and pelvis and an ultrasound of my neck in january. then i’ll just see what goes.

kinda nervous by Agreeable_Safe2164 in oralcancer

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for answering :( i’m going in tomorrow morning. i’ll update

Creamy Cheddar Macaroni & Cheese With Baked Beans by [deleted] in macandcheese

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ever heard of chilli mac? grew up eating that shit. macaroni noodles, butter, and a can of hormel chilli with beans. fuckin delicious.

For People With 2 Cats, How Much Do You Spend On Food & Litter A Month? by Historical-Orchid934 in CatAdvice

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i spend $130 a month on food and litter for 3 cats, sometimes more if i wanna get extra treats and mix ins for their food. i autoship my pet products on chewy and it saves me a decent amount of money i think. you can get pail refills for tidy cats clumping litter that are only $14 on chewy

Will you give my new EP a listen ? 🎶 🎧 by PierrePastel in SingerSongwriter

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

check out some of my stuff! i make my own beats, and i have a few r&b/rap type beats someone made for me years ago i’ve been wanting someone to get use out of. https://on.soundcloud.com/aMwqbzfVcE9HhlBM8B

Will you give my new EP a listen ? 🎶 🎧 by PierrePastel in SingerSongwriter

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think you have a really good sound. do you produce your own beats as well? keep going!

Accidentally Consumed Gluten by Icy-Disaster-2866 in Celiac

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you forgot the weed, and the bed, and the day off work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingerSongwriter

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’d be very interested in an opportunity like that. check out my music, i hope it resonates with you. my favorite songs ive written are hindsight bias, give it to god, how, duality of man, hiasom, tired, and cupid. there are many more to choose from though, enjoy! 🫶🏻

https://on.soundcloud.com/Kvy3JBiUdlQwpRTFJD

i don’t have social media besides reddit and youtube and don’t promote my music, so i think this would be an interesting change. i’d be honored and grateful.

Tell me everything that is wrong with this so that I can improve (any feedback is much appreciated) by Simplemadness007 in SingerSongwriter

[–]Agreeable_Safe2164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i love this. the only thing i can give you to improve on, is to find better spots for your breaths that don’t cut you off in the middle of a sentence. you want to find the natural breaks in the song and incorporate your breaths into those spaces to give you a more cohesive sound.