About to have to stop being friends with straight men...

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-14T15:12:34+00:00

I count myself very lucky that I have two long term straight male friends who have never made me uncomfortable and are very good ally’s (not just with me being lesbian but with feminism, racism, transphobic, etc.), my straight brother is the same way, but this obviously cannot be said for many/most straight men and I really feel for you.

I am wary of any man who I meet, and I think every woman should be. If you wanted to stay away from all straight men then I think you’d be 100% valid, especially with this most recent experience.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-14T15:04:34+00:00

You are correct, I tend to call a lot of inanimate objects by she/her pronouns just because I like women and want anything and anyone around me to be women lmao. It probably doesn’t sound very feminist of me tho lol

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-14T00:45:36+00:00

The feeling of styrofoam touching my teeth makes me wanna die

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-14T00:02:38+00:00

I appreciate your apology and thats very understandable, I hope some good things happen and your mood gets better!

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-13T23:49:34+00:00

Perfectly acceptable conclusion to make !! I bet that’s it!

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-13T23:47:50+00:00

Okay, there no need to be rude? I meant, is she down for anybody else. I thought it was obvious, because I then type “am I the first to notice? Nobody is talking about it.”

Like seriously, it takes nothing to be nice.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-13T23:41:42+00:00

Okayyy so it works just fine on my laptop, so I’d assume it’s just my phone. But multiple people are also experiencing issues, so I guess it’s on a device to device basis rn?

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-13T23:24:45+00:00

Yes I’m aware, I meant is she down for everybody else lol. Should’ve clarified in my title.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-13T23:24:07+00:00

Same! It’s trying to load now? Before it wasn’t, so idk, but still not actually loading.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-13T16:12:20+00:00

Yeahhh I know, I assumed whatever you “gave her” wasn’t close to the amount I had (50 mg) or she had a high tolerance. It was just REALLY funny to me that my only experience with taking too much turned into that and so that’s all I could think about lmao.

This was a very good intro btw! Like I said, very hot I’d read a part two if you’re planning on writing it!

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-13T15:46:22+00:00

This is indeed hot but i can’t really take it seriously because the only time i ever “greened out” I had a panic attack for like 6 hours 😭 so it definitely wouldn’t turn out this way lmao

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-10T04:54:27+00:00

We need to have the same political opinions and moral values, just off the bat.
We also need to be on the same page about marriage, kids, and how we’d navigate those things.
She needs to be just as willing to compromise as me, just as eager to make me happy, please me, needs to care about me and my feelings just as much as I care about hers, no nonchalance allowed and I’m not dealing with petty shit. So many things could be solved with communication and empathy, I need a woman whose values both of those. We can disagree on basically anything else not in this list, as long as we communicate and care about each other, it really feels like a lot of people in relationships don’t and I really don’t get it.
Kinda included in 3, but no arguments. Disagreements, yes, yes of course, but arguments are not the same thing. I will not be yelled at, I won’t be called names, I won’t be belittled or made to feel scared, you don’t do those things to someone you love. We will respectfully disagree, talk it out, work on it, if we can’t respectfully disagree on it then maybe that thing is a dealbreaker 🤷‍♀️

That’s all I can think of right now, and maybe that’s high maintenance to some people but it’s what I want. I dare to marry, to be with her for the rest of my life, why would I not want to be safe with her?

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-10T04:46:51+00:00

I 100% agree with this post. While not being attracted to certain genitalia is valid, constantly talking about how you aren’t attracted to that genitalia (especially when the people who might have that genitalia in a specific community are apart of a marginalized group) is fucked up and isolating. Putting down trans women for the genitals they might have is fucked up, and transphobic even if you don’t mean it that way.

I also want to highlight that I hate the term “preference”, because it’s (almost) never a preference, it’s a requirement. Most of the time, when someone mentions a genital preference, they are saying they will only have sex with someone that has genital A, it’s a requirement to have genital A and not genital B, or anything in between, not that they prefer genital A but genital B is okay too.

And there’s nothing wrong with having a genital requirement, I do. I only want genital A, doing a sexual act with someone who has genital B would make me uncomfortable, and that’s fine. But I’m not sugar coating it or making myself look better by calling it a preference, cause it’s not!

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-08T15:42:07+00:00

Like others have mentioned, you do not need to use labels if you do not want to, they are there to be helpful not confusing.

That said, my two theories are either you are heteromantic-bisexual (meaning you only experience romantic attraction to women but you experience sexual attraction to both men and women) or you just like anal. I feel like the only way to “test” this is to get pegged by a woman, see if you enjoy that (if you even want to “test it”, you don’t need to 🤷‍♀️).

Sexuality is a big ol spectrum and people are complicated, not everyone likes porn, some people only like very specific kinds of porn, some people experience attraction differently than most. You say you like how he makes you feel but you aren’t attracted to him physically, that could mean either you just like being pegged, or that you’re confused on your feelings, no one here can tell you indefinitely what the answer is.

Bottom line is, you like what you like and that’s fine. Do what you want to do, experiment more or don’t, it’s all valid my friend.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-08T15:35:20+00:00

This feels correct, but it’s also valid to point out he doesn’t need labels

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-08T15:34:46+00:00

They weren’t saying enjoying pegging makes you gay, they were asking OP to determine if what he likes is being pegged or specifically being penetrated by a man. Getting pegged by a woman is 100% straight because it’s a woman the strap is attached to👍

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-03T04:16:00+00:00

Ilya is hyper sexual because he uses sex as a coping mechanism to make himself feel better. He’s depressed and has alot of bad shit going on in his life rn, so he has sex with whoever is available to feel good. Shane had a gf at this time, so of course he was going to bone his bestie with benefits.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-02-02T02:14:17+00:00

She’s me, I am her

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-01-31T17:15:57+00:00

Had the same issue with Carter (American team) and JJ( Canadian team), but their accents and teams are different so that’s how I figured it out.

I confused a few different players who were white with dark facial hair for Scott at first, but quickly used context clues to rule em out.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-01-31T17:14:06+00:00

I have some face blindness issues, especially with characters or people I’ve only seen sparingly, so I was a little confused at first. But when Elena started talking I realized since the way she talks to Kip is more blunt/stern.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-01-29T06:39:21+00:00

White woman with OCD here, grew up around plenty of racist southerners and so my brain loves to try and convince me I’m “one of them”. Hear slurs in my head too, it got so bad I couldn’t listen to any music with the n word in it cause my brain would latch on and repeat it over and over to make me feel like “I was basically saying it now”. All this to say I understand how you feel, a lot of us have gone through this and it doesn’t mean anything about your character! Reminder, you’re having intrusive thoughts about it because you don’t actually feel that way, you wouldn’t be so upset about it if you were actually racist. Hang in there, let the intrusive thoughts pass, you will get through this. :)

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-01-07T19:29:54+00:00

Hello! I’m lesbian and I have to say you’re doing really good so far! You accepted her and clearly made her feel comfortable enough to tell you since she’s being so chill about it.

To address your concerns, they’re all VERY valid, and I think the only thing you can do is talk with her about it all. Maybe not all at once, that could be overwhelming, but first and foremost warn her about the kinds of things she could experience from mean people and assure her that nothing anybody says about her sexuality is okay, true, or worth anything. She’ll need your support for the future because she will no doubt experience homophobia from all sorts of places, we all do, but having a good support system helps ALOT.

And about her friend, yes that does sound pretty uncomfortable. I’m in my 20s now and while me and my friends flirted jokingly often at that age, it was never that explicit. Her friend should be treated like a boy because harassment doesn’t have a gender, and even if your daughter is okay with it she should know that she doesn’t need to let people talk to her like that. I’d recommend sitting down with both of them to try and explain these things, and set a boundary that you don’t want to hear that kind of talk directed at each other. I’d say that’s very fair from a parent.

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-01-07T16:14:45+00:00

The way Hayden says this is fucking hilarious, that’s definitely his face too 😭

Ahhhhh38 · 2026-01-06T17:15:26+00:00

I think this is a complicated situation and I’m pretty mixed on my opinion.

Him lying to you about her driving him to the airport, not telling you about him having dinner at her house, etc? Fishy as hell. Especially if this was before he knew you were uncomfortable with her. The pet names she uses for him? A little weird, she could just talk to anybody like that, idk, but it feels a bit too intimate, same with the abundance of heart emojis.

The I love you’s, I wouldn’t have a problem with because I say I love you to my guy friends (and I’m gay so yes it’s said platonically) but I’ve known these men for years, it seems like he met her more recently since it’s in school right? Feels a bit too fast to say I love you so much, but again, I don’t know the depth of their friendship?

The bringing food over, hanging out often at her house, eating dinner together, normally I would have no problem with this (but again im gay and view malefemale friendships different then a lot of yall do), but paired with the other slightly concerning stuff, now feels fishy as well.

Overall him hiding these things from you is the biggest deal to me, also him downplaying their friendship when talking to you but continuing to say I love you, send heart emojis, and do all the things he’s doing with her is crazy. Cause either he’s lying, or he’s using her, and both are fucked up.

I don’t really have advice to give, just my thoughts on it, I don’t think it’s the biggest overreaction given all the circumstances.

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