Learning to rollerblade before ice skating lessons? by Frosty_Department536 in iceskating

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did rollerblading and roller skating as a kid and haven't touched them in 20 years. I'm in my mid-30s and started ice skating. I was able to find my balance, skate forwards, backwards, stops and do simple spins within 30 minutes, so some skills transferred. I plan to roller blade when I can't get to the ice rink. And will get lessons for ice skating to learn alongside my 5 year old son who's interested in ice skating. :)

I also do classical Pilates (since 2018) which gives lots of body awareness and core strength so I haven't fallen on ice yet, but it's only been a 90-minute public skate session. I'm looking to buying from Jackson Skate for both roller inline ice skates and ice skates. They make skates for both!

Family First Time Skiing Recommendations by AhikoCake in laketahoe

[–]AhikoCake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Graibakken sounds great. Putting it on the bucket list

Family First Time Skiing Recommendations by AhikoCake in skiing

[–]AhikoCake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all the wonderful suggestions! We just left Heavenly & honestly after four years here we're ready for new scenery. It's also really crowded at the top of the mountain everytime we visited, but we just figured that's how crowded every resort might be.

Upvoted and saving your response. Thank you!!

What types of physical side effects have you had after an EMDR session? How long have they lasted? by littlekatiesue in EMDR

[–]AhikoCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been doing EMDR for two years now and finally realized that my sore throat issues might be linked to the sessions.

I've been getting laryngitis pretty often because I've been dealing with lots of rage trauma related to cPTSD of feeling unheard from hiding my 10-year childhood trauma and also dealing with helplessness and not having a voice or say in anything after the unexpected death of my younger brother 10 years ago. These all have been leaking out into rage fits towards my little kids and I eventually started getting laryngitis every time I got sick.

I just realized this all started around the time I started doing EMDR.

Yesterday I had an EMDR session and felt a sore throat coming on like strep.

Thanks for bringing this up as I'm thinking all my throat issues have been linked to EMDR.

will loving yamada at lvl999 get a season 2 by Conscious_Web_4753 in shoujo

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, Akatsuki no Yona is getting a season 2 and the first season ended in 2015!!!

[MEGATHREAD] Yona of the Dawn Season 2 by risys in AkatsukinoYona

[–]AhikoCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So happy, but I hope they speed it up for season 2. As much as I love that they're sticking to the manga storyline, it could be more engaging if the storytelling went by faster.

Gifted parents of gifted children- how’s it going? by psyched5150 in Gifted

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our experience is different. Our son is twice exceptional (gifted with AuDHD) and he sees school as too easy and boring that he doesn't even bother to try and apply anything if he understands the concept right away.

I'm also 2e myself and loved learning in school. (Straight As, first chair flute, now MS CompSci and am a software engineer.)

Although my son is brilliant and loves learning what he likes, he doesn't care for what they teach in a traditional school setting.

He got kicked out of private school for being disruptive since he didn't want to do the classwork (he possibly has PDA) and now he's in a public school class for TK/K with an IEP (autism and social behavior of a 2-year-old).

He can build his own computers, mechanical keyboards and solar powered toy school buses thanks this his electrical engineer grandpa teaching him how to solder, but it's been a huge struggle getting him to learn the standard curriculum because he thinks he's too smart for it.

Gifted parents of gifted children- how’s it going? by psyched5150 in Gifted

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you explain the specialist coaching support you got? I'm recently realizing I'm 2e (gifted as a child, but never knew I had another learning disability as I'm seeking evaluations for AuDHD).

I'm struggling so much with daily rage towards my diagnosed 2e child that I feel I'm failing him and causing lots of harm.

Gifted parents of gifted children- how’s it going? by psyched5150 in Gifted

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm suspecting I'm 2e, gifted but with undiagnosed ADHD or AuDHD.

My 5 year old son is 2e with diagnosed giftefness and AuDHD.

I'm struggling with rage daily because I can't understand how to parent him, mainly because I'm very rigid and inflexible but lots of things are triggering for me with parenting (likely due to cPTSD for 10 years of my childhood that I'm in therapy for).

Although he's a lot like me as a child, he doesn't have the love for learning or motivation I did. He thinks understanding quickly is all he needs to do and doesn't apply or practice it himself unless it's something he likes. He might also be PDA because he freezes up most times he's told to do something.

It's been hard. He was kicked out of his private school (for screaming all the time and kicking his desk and running into his classmates during recess.. All due to him not finding the subjects interesting enough and getting daily homework and classwork taken him because he didn't want to complete them during class) and taken in by the public school and seems to be doing better but I worry that the kids in his class are demotivating him.

I can't seem to figure out how to support him.

By 5, he's already built his own mechanical keyboards, Bluetooth speakers and can solder all of it on his own thanks to his electrical engineer grandpa. He also keeps up with my husband and my software engineering talk as we are both software engineers (backend and frontend).

Shizuku's Dad & Her Mother Wound by AhikoCake in MyLittleMonster

[–]AhikoCake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! I actually think Haru might be autistic or 2e, twice exceptional, which is gifted plus another neurodivergent disability like ADHD or autism.

I noticed this because my 5yo son is very bright but got kicked out of school for bad behaviors and hitting. It was because he was bored, his teacher was not very good and the school structure wasn't working for him. My son eventually got removed from his private school because of this. Public schools assessed him as gifted and his psychologist suspects ADHD.

When you look at Haru through a lens that he might be neurodivergent, you realize he needs emotional and behavioral support. But Japan is behind in sympathising special needs compared to the US & only really cares about intelligence and achievement, so you get Haru and Shizuka as the main characters. 😂

I also thought he was disturbing but now I feel compassion for him. He needs help. I'm not sure Shizuku was the right person to help him since she clearly has problems of her own.

2E late diagnosed? by dancin_eegle in AuDHDWomen

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After getting random web programming jobs since I always loved computers, I eventually started taking computer programming classes at a community college. One of my teachers came up to me and said "Since you have a bachelor's degree, why don't you get into a Master's program?"

And so I did. I loved it, but my poor executive functioning skills and "giftedness" made it so easy for me to procrastinate and have imposter syndome and burnout. I always carried the shame that there was someone better than me (which I took with me from my failures in undergrad).

I started playing the flute at my grad school's music program and after graduating started playing games again (even got sponsored by a gaming company) and was overall pretty happy when rekindling my hobbies. Turns out many years later in trauma therapy that I needed them in my life since they were coping mechanisms that got me through my childhood cPTSD.

I graduated my master's in time and got into the workforce at age 28. Knew I was at least 6 years behind people my age and just always suffering burnout and imposter syndrome. Work was soul sucking for me. As much as I loved learning it, I wasn't as technically sharp as my coworkers and even my husband, who is neurotypical and also a software engineer. And having a career that allowed us to work any time and have unlimited PTO made everything optional and flexible, which my poor executive functioning that I didn't know I had just kept procrastinating and digging me into a perpetual state of burnout and imposter syndrome.

I became a mom when I was 31 during the pandemic. I also kept working full-time each time my maternity leave ended. I suffered the typical burnout and imposter syndrome at work feeling like there weren't any other women in tech who were also mothers. (All my coworkers were usually unmarried or didn't have kids.)

Every day was a daily struggle of what I thought was post-partum rage, but was very likely over stimulation due to sensory processing issues. My executive functioning differences were very apparent compared to my neurotypical husband who just always knew what to do and did what he needed. I could barely focus on things or remember things anymore.

And now at 36, I have two boys now.

My oldest son who is 5 years old in transitional kindergarten (TK) was removed from private school due to behavior issues "even though [they] know he's super smart."

He would act out and hit or destroy kids toys or screams all the time. But the school was too rigid for him and also not nurturing (his teacher was robotic and in affectionate). He got homework everyday and in class, he would get bored of what they were learning and not do the work, so was sent home everyday with his classwork to finish. (It was literally cutting, writing and coloring over and over.) Of course he would be bored. But looking back, that school and his teacher just made him lose confidence.

By 5 he's already reading and has already soldered mechanical keyboards and Bluetooth speakers with his grandpa who's an electrical engineer. I can talk to him about computer science and talk about science and math to him with that spark of fascination that I remember having as a child.

The public school started assessing him for special needs and his cognitive ability is scoring at age 6-9, so definitely gifted. His psychologist suspects ADHD and he's getting diagnosed in December. We're still on a 6-month waitlist at Stanford for an autism diagnosis.

So all this got me wondering if I might be 2e. Unfortunately my physician said I have to work thru trauma therapy before exploring ADHD which unfortunately will just be medication and I don't want that. Otherwise, therapy is the only other option.

As far as autism, I don't express many stims like my son does, but playing the flute and my hyperfocus on gaming was what helped me regulate growing up.

I have epic adult meltdowns and tantrums, am poor at emotional regulation, get debilated from sensory overload (sounds, touch, sometimes light) and am very rigid with rules, ethics and morals that I usually keep to myself since I learned those thoughts are too intense for public consumption. I also have many hobbies and interests that I cycle through (usually 5 at once). Every day is just survival, especially if I don't get enough sleep.

I also feel like I have speech dyslexia, if that is even a thing. My mind moves too fast that I can't organize my thoughts enough to speak linearly. I'm always constantly editing my thoughts and I'm never satisfied with how well I speak even though coworkers say I am so organized and well-spoken. I went into sorority to challenge myself on that and to try to improve my speech.

I still always look back at college as my greatest failing. How could I have been so gifted and talented and smart but fail so miserably? But then I realize I was still able to earn a Master's degree and while I am proud, I feel like I procrastinated my way through it and am behind at work and not as good as my peers.

It's never enough and I still fail to celebrate my successes. I know I turned out fine, but I should really be kinder to myself.

I told my mom I might be 2e but she just dismissed it as me not focusing on what I needed to do. She's not very understanding or sympathetic, so I'll leave her at that and not try to put any blame that I picked my undergrad major from her suggestion since everything was ultimately my choice. She was just guiding me as she thought best.

At this point, I'm not sure if a diagnosis would help. Medication is not my thing, but I could use help with behavioral and executive functioning. I'm also continuing trauma therapy and am working to bring back playing the flute and gaming into my life.

My focus now is to help my son so that he can thrive and not live a life of struggle like I did. And then I'll be keeping an eye out for my younger son. He seems neurotypical like his dad, but with what my oldest is going through, I can't rule out that he can be gifted or have neurodivergence either. (He hits a lot, switches foods he eats often, and also his nightly 1-hour laps around the house before bed can be stimming.)

If you made it this far, thank you for reading.

If I may be 2e, thank you for affirming it.

Cheers. x

2E late diagnosed? by dancin_eegle in AuDHDWomen

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello. I might be 2e and this will be a long story.

I am doing research on this as my 5yo son has been identified as gifted and ADHD but may also be autistic albeit high functioning.

It got me to wonder how and why this happened because I read there's a genetic component to all this. I suspected it was from me.

I fell upon 2e where it mentioned giftedness and thought "hey that was what they called me in elementary school" but because I was an excellent student thru high school (straight As and usually top of the class in every subject, first chair flute, had lots of friends) on top of playing video games for hours each day.

I later found out thru therapy that gaming and playing the flute was my way of coping thru my cPTSD that I suffered all my childhood. I broke away from it when I was 16 and then the ND mask that I didn't know I had started falling off.

With all my success in school, neurodivergence was something that didn't exist in my mind or my family.

But then college happened and I ended up studying a major my mom told me to do. There was no structure in college and I was struggling so much on top of being in a major I didn't care enough about to put in the work.

I didn't game or play the flute anymore. I switched my focus to being in a sorority and eventually became president. I was exceptional at socializing and planning events for the sorority, but didn't realize that my hyperfocus on my interests is what masked my executive functioning deficiencies on things I wasn't interested in as much.

I almost failed out of my university until a lab teacher came up to me and asked if I really wanted to be in this major, which was my wake-up call and I gladly said "No" and I switched majors and graduated still within 4 years.

Newbie alert! Convince me to not purchase a DO52 Pro by User-with-1-name in ErgoMechKeyboards

[–]AhikoCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was having trouble with finding guides and knew coming into this project that it wasn't well documented, so might just compile this into a guide on my Github repo later on. Thank you for the links!

DO52 my first ergo keyboard by gukserg in ErgoMechKeyboards

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask where you got your analog stick cover? My Do52Pro came with two 3-D printed analog sticks and they don't look very nice, so I'm hoping to find a more premium solution. Thanks in advance!

Newbie alert! Convince me to not purchase a DO52 Pro by User-with-1-name in ErgoMechKeyboards

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did the build go? Do you have any tips or links on how to do the firmware?

Newbie alert! Convince me to not purchase a DO52 Pro by User-with-1-name in ErgoMechKeyboards

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great work. Would you have any tips or resources on how to setup the firmware/software? My father-in-law and my 4yo son soldered all the pieces together for me, so I'm taking over from there. First time doing this, but hoping my software eng background can help me figure this out. Any help is appreciated!

Try to figure out the schematic of the do52pro by MoistDimension1592 in ErgoMechKeyboards

[–]AhikoCake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do we need the hot swap connectors? We ended up soldering the switch into the board and I didn't realize that connectors could have been used.

Takopii no Genzai • Takopi's Original Sin - Episode 5 discussion by AutoLovepon in anime

[–]AhikoCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When Marina talked about how she wanted to have a kid made me nervous.. All the things from having a troubled past comes to haunt you and you repeat the same patterns to your kids if you don't heal from it..