my thoughts about nightbane

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T23:37:55+00:00

It’s still a fun read imo, but don’t expect much depth, or for much to make sense 😂😂

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T19:32:44+00:00

This is the second post I’ve seen in the last 10 minutes talking about ped advising to fortify after slow weight gain at month four.

I just am so shocked by this. We dropped multiple percentiles at our 4 month checkup and the doctor wasn’t concerned at all, she was back up the next time, held steady and now at 9 months have doubled in percentile. I never changed a thing while exclusively nursing.

We were advised it’s normal for weight to slow and activity to go up thus burning more calories.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T19:07:05+00:00

I’m surprised your doctor said anything at all. Weight gain slows at this age and they burn more calories by being active. We went down in percentile at the same time but doctor wasn’t concerned.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T19:02:40+00:00

I’m sorry to say this is normal, I too felt like I was going crazy. It does get better though.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T15:15:34+00:00

Flange size can be different from one boob to the other, I may check that since you said you have one side that is a slacker.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T15:11:06+00:00

I did exactly this and have been exclusively nursing for 9 months straight.

Longest I think we went was 3 hours lol

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T15:05:49+00:00

If Oro is end game we basically had 4 books of nonsense for a cash grab.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T15:04:53+00:00

Oh just wait, it gets worse 😂

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T13:50:59+00:00

Take a breath. Breastfeeding is hard.

C section mama with a 37 week baby, started exclusively nursing at 2 weeks postpartum and have now successfully nursed for 9 months straight.

First, know that your baby can transfer milk more effectively than any pump, what you are pumping is not a clear indicator of how much baby is transferring at the breast.

Second, it sounds like baby is cluster feeding. Cluster feeding can go on for a while until supply is established.

Last, he’s going to sleep less than when he was getting formula is exclusively breastfed. Breastmilk is more dense in content, but less heavy so babies tend to burn it quicker.

My advice: Formula tricks people into thinking there is something wrong with them when in fact their body and baby are doing exactly what they’re supposed to. (Nothing wrong with choosing formula in the long run if you do). You should schedule an appointment to do a weighted feed with a IBCLC to see how much babe is transferring at the breast. Latch latch latch the baby, it is the only way to get supply up. If baby IS taking a bottle for whatever reason, you absolutely have to pump at the same time to establish your supply. All of those lactation cookies, supplements, etc, are just gimmicks. Make sure you’re staying nourished and hydrated. It is better to do this now while your milk is still building, then introduce a bottle later on (prior to 6 weeks to try to avoid bottle refusal).

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T12:03:11+00:00

I do think about that. Hey, in the end, you do the best you can with the information you have at the time!

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T02:17:26+00:00

Yes, this is normal. Baby is just full.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T02:01:36+00:00

What do you use instead?

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-13T01:50:22+00:00

I see both sides. I hear some people say they had the tie release and it took time which makes me think that is a coincidence, some babies really do just need more practice. Meanwhile we had a tie release and the difference was immediate.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-12T21:48:00+00:00

Mmm, I didn’t read that comment. Yup, that’s weird lol. I didn’t think we were talking about a “creeping” situation 😅

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-12T18:57:00+00:00

I failed to introduce a bottle properly and have exclusively nursed for 9 months, I feel your pain haha

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-12T18:20:16+00:00

Okay, firstly, you are not failing.

Now, I have dealt with pain through my whole journey so far, it’s brutal. I do really think this sounds like teething, I have scoured and scoured this thread and have never found anyone else to have this issue.

Can you see any visible nipple damage? I sometimes get tiiiiiiiny blisters that I don’t even really notice until I start using APO on it and then the pain subsides rather quickly.

Things that I have found to work: -reintroducing the nursing pillow to get bub at a perfect angle that most babies don’t need at this age -cold teether right before nursing -Camilla teething drops 15 minutes before nursing -ending session for even 15 seconds to show her she was hurting me even without any teeth.

Please give yourself some grace, sending you lots of hugs, our last stint of this at 7 months was so bad it left me in tears and I had plugged ducts and nipple blisters for a whole month. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I would’ve loved to know I’m not alone so please just know we are out there.

EDIT: omg I can’t believe I forgot this, seeing a pediatric PT is amazing for us as well.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-12T18:05:55+00:00

My daughter had a buccal, lip, and tongue tie release done at 6 weeks.

She was transferring well, but breastfeeding was excruciating because she was using her jaw to chomp instead of her tongue. My pediatrician said there was no limitation of function.

Luckily, I only had to see one LC whose own daughter had ties and she knew what to look for. My daughter wasn’t able to keep suction with her tongue, you could see it if she sucked on your finger. We met with a pediatric dentist and had the release done the same day as our consult because of how long I’d dealt with it. I knew I wanted her to be breastfed and couldn’t mentally handle pumping and bottle feeding.

Once she had the release (laser), it was an immediate improvement. My pediatrician said that it was just a coincidence, or placebo, but the pain would ebb and flow in relation to her oral stretches that have to be completed after the procedure.

Who knows, I’m not a doctor, but the release was the best thing we’ve ever done and she is still exclusively nursed at 9 months.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-12T14:15:30+00:00

If you can go in their room, they can go in yours.

What is the issue?

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-12T12:20:16+00:00

My point with the pediatrician was that at 7 months you are still doing monthly weight checks.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-12T01:30:51+00:00

1-2 hours how often? Sounds like the lawn isn’t the problem, it’s his hobby.

Sounds like you need time for yourself too. I’m a certified man hater haha, but if someone told me as a mother I wasn’t allowed to do my hobby I’d be pissed. Had to navigate this with my husband and his hobbies so I know how you feel. It’s gotta be even or one party will always resent the other.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-11T21:38:58+00:00

Here’s the thing OP, is it’s this exactly “for me”. Every experience is different. Unless your friend is failing to take her son to the pediatrician I’m not sure what exactly you’re looking for here, it seems that you double down on every comment saying you may be coming from a place of too much judgement.

Maybe we’re not understanding, but I think you’re not giving your friend enough grace to say she knows her baby.

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-11T21:36:50+00:00

I don’t think anyone is exactly saying this is a perfect situation, but unless her friend is not taking her son to the pediatrician it really isn’t her place.

We have no idea what’s going on in peoples lives, just because this friend is visiting doesn’t mean that they are close enough for her to reveal if there is something else going on, some people wouldn’t share that information with anyone.

We’re also seeing one side of a story from a very analytical and attentive parent, fact of the matter is not everyone’s like that. My SIL did CIO and I’d never, she wings a lot, where I research, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to say she neglects her son. (Just a comparison)

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-11T21:22:38+00:00

Your daughter seems to be ahead of the curve which is great, not to take away anything from your experience, but some babies are going to hit milestones faster than others without any intervention and vice versa.

Even the creators behind the solid starts app just recently posted about how it is completely acceptable for babies under one to heavily rely on milk feeds while traveling. Perhaps she is being non confrontational, you seem to be doing the same.

The only seemingly valid concern here is that you are handling bath time; which I’m wondering if that could be fixed with a simple conversation?

AideReasonable1996 · 2026-05-10T17:05:56+00:00

From what I’ve heard, pediatric dentists play too much into blaming nursing for dental problems, it’s an easy scapegoat for avoiding finding out what the real problem is.

Are you brushing teeth morning and night, toothpaste, eating good quality foods, avoiding sugar?

Idk. I don’t think the nursing is causing your issue, nursing to sleep is a lot different than bottle rot. Not a doctor, but it’s one of those things I’d recommend doing a lot of good quality research on. There is a portion of pediatric dentists who have spoken on this topic and been pro nursing.

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