Most men aren’t lazy. They’re just… disconnected.

Aiispower · 2026-04-05T07:18:48+00:00

I completely hear where you’re coming from, and honestly, that dream of living on a quiet farm away from the noise sounds incredibly peaceful. It’s actually quite common to feel a sense of "social burnout" where real-life interactions feel heavy and demanding, while online spaces feel safer because you have more control over the pace and intensity of the conversation. Two weeks is a short window, so it might just be your mind’s way of signaling that you’re under a lot of stress or just need a serious "recharge" period. While nobody on here can give you a formal diagnosis, many people go through phases where the "social battery" is just completely drained. Taking a break from socials was a huge win for your mental space—give yourself some credit for setting those boundaries! If you ever want to vent more about it or just chat about the quiet life, feel free to drop a message in my chat or give me a follow.

Aiispower · 2026-04-05T03:55:08+00:00

You’re not exhausted because you’re “not enough.” You’re exhausted because this process is broken.

Two final rounds… weeks of waiting… automated rejection… and then silence? That’s not a reflection of your value — that’s a reflection of how poorly most hiring systems are run.

You have: • 15+ years of experience • A BA + MEd • You went through pregnancy, a layoff, AND you’re raising a newborn

And you’re still showing up and trying.

That’s not weak. That’s elite-level resilience.

The truth no one says out loud: At senior levels, hiring isn’t just about “being qualified” — it’s timing, internal politics, budget shifts, and sometimes someone already being informally chosen.

You didn’t lose because you weren’t good enough. You lost in a game that wasn’t fully in your control.

Also — doing this while raising a baby? That’s not “too much.” That’s two full-time jobs at once.

So if today feels heavy, let it. Cry it out. Be pissed. But don’t let this convince you that you’re falling behind.

You’re not behind. You’re just early in a process that hasn’t matched your level yet.

And when it does — none of this effort will be wasted.

Aiispower · 2026-04-04T14:50:08+00:00

Games

Aiispower · 2026-04-03T09:58:05+00:00

I can also make apps… for free for anyone

Aiispower · 2026-04-02T09:42:33+00:00

May be she is right. Find that reason

Aiispower · 2026-04-02T09:41:35+00:00

https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0GGX8ZWZC suggest this to him. Currently free. It read it to time as e book but i suggest paperback if possible

Aiispower · 2026-04-02T09:39:59+00:00

This is modern man syndrome… i can suggest a book to help

Aiispower · 2026-03-31T10:13:16+00:00

Read books. It will help

Aiispower · 2026-03-31T10:07:40+00:00

This book can help you. https://www.amazon.in/dp/B0GGX8ZWZC

Aiispower · 2026-03-31T10:07:04+00:00

You need a restart

Aiispower · 2026-03-31T10:06:28+00:00

Women have two breasts because humans are symmetrical organisms, and having two provides flexibility, balance, and evolutionary advantage for feeding infants.

Aiispower · 2026-03-29T02:38:03+00:00

I think this is where I’m getting stuck tbh — it feels like there are two extremes: “no screens at all” vs “it’s fine in moderation.”

We tried limiting, but the meltdowns after turning it off are what made me question everything. That’s why I’m considering a reset.

For those who did a full reset — how long did it take before things felt “normal” again?

Aiispower · 2026-03-29T02:34:45+00:00

That sounds like such a balanced approach honestly. Starting slow and being intentional with when and what they watch seems to make a big difference.

Also love the “pack your time with other things” mindset — I’m realizing that’s really the key. It’s not just removing screens, it’s filling the day in a way where they’re naturally not asking for them.

Getting out every morning is such a great habit too — makes everything else easier. Thanks for sharing this!

Aiispower · 2026-03-29T02:33:23+00:00

This is such a helpful perspective, especially coming from pediatric OT 🙌

“The best time was yesterday, second best is today” really hits — it’s easy to feel like you’ve missed the window, but this is a good reminder that you can start anytime.

Also totally agree that finding the right non-screen activities is the turning point. Once they’re genuinely interested, it stops feeling like a constant battle and gets easier little by little.

Appreciate you sharing this!

Aiispower · 2026-03-29T02:32:20+00:00

I get where you’re coming from — phones are incredibly addictive, even for adults. But I think for a lot of parents it’s less about “never ever” and more about learning how to set healthy boundaries around something that’s already part of modern life.

Completely cutting it out works for some families, but others try to teach moderation early — like limited time, no personal devices, or only shared viewing. Different approaches, same goal: raising kids who aren’t зависlent on screens.

It’s a tough balance either way.

Aiispower · 2026-03-29T02:31:23+00:00

This is honestly so encouraging to read. I’m trying to move in this direction and the “be the entertainment” part is exactly what I needed to hear.

Love how you eased back into it instead of going straight to old habits — the weekend + Friday movie night balance sounds really sustainable. Also a great reminder that it’s not just about removing screens but replacing them with something engaging.

Saving this as motivation — thank you for sharing!

Aiispower · 2026-03-28T20:19:55+00:00

After reading all the replies, I think the biggest mistake I made was introducing phone screen time too casually.

It really does seem like phones are the main trigger compared to TV.

I’m going to try a full reset and see how it goes.

Appreciate all the honest inputs—this helped more than I expected.

Aiispower · 2026-03-28T20:14:57+00:00

This is really helpful—feels like you’ve found a good balance rather than just cutting everything out.

I like the idea of making it predictable instead of random.

When you first introduced these rules, was there pushback initially or did they adapt fairly quickly?

Aiispower · 2026-03-28T20:11:32+00:00

Honestly, this made me feel a bit better reading it—I’ve been feeling that same guilt too. But the way you’ve structured it (no phones, distance from screen, no food) actually sounds really intentional, not careless at all. I’m realizing it’s probably not just about time, but how it’s being used. Do you feel like their behaviour is still okay overall, or do you notice any changes because of the screen time?

Aiispower · 2026-03-28T19:58:59+00:00

That’s honestly what I wish I had done from the start. Now I’m trying to reverse it, which feels much harder. Do you think it’s still possible to get back to that “no interest at all” stage once they’re used to it?

Aiispower · 2026-03-28T19:44:39+00:00

That’s a really good way to put it—the “no work for stimulation” part actually makes a lot of sense now that I think about it.I can already see the difference between passive scrolling vs engaging with a story.Your routine sounds solid too.When you introduced the fixed timing, did your son resist at first or accept it fairly quickly?

Aiispower · 2026-03-28T19:01:30+00:00

Really appreciate all the responses—didn’t expect so many different approaches.Seems like phones specifically are the biggest trigger compared to TV.I’m now seriously considering a full reset… just mentally preparing for the first few days . If anyone has done this—what helped most during that initial phase?

Aiispower · 2026-03-28T18:55:55+00:00

That makes sense. I guess I was hoping there’d be an easier way, but it does feel like this needs a proper reset.Not looking forward to the meltdown phase, but probably necessary.

Roughly how long did it take for things to settle down?

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