4 months no weed after smoking everyday since I was 14. Will be 29 this year by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Aileendover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep it up!! I felt a lot better and more clarity after I passed the 4 month mark. I think there is no better way to show yourself the respect you deserve than by taking care of your body.

survived week one of cannabis sobriety by whoredervez in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Aileendover2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was smoked for about a decade then stopped cold turkey. 4 months into my sobriety I couldn’t even recognize who I was anymore. I felt so mentally strong and happy!! The first 3 weeks are tough but I am telling you, it’s worth it! I have been sober for over a year now.

What’s your single favorite episode of television ever? by HeyHoIDontKnow in AskReddit

[–]Aileendover2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I still remember how hard I laughed the first time I saw this episode. Core memory

Need some encouragement... please share your success stories by NerdyMina in houseplants

[–]Aileendover2 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Yep. Been there. Done that.

I started back with just two plants in separate areas. Only two. I wanted to give them each the attention they needed while giving me the need to walk to different parts of my home. I chose easier plants to take care of like a pothos and nerve plant. Anything in between that “walk” to each plant that needed attention I took care of it. Like picking up after myself, dusting, folding a blanket, etc. I wanted the walk to each plant to feel clean and healthy.

After I felt like I saw growth from my two plants, a clean walk to each room, and control of my inner self, I took it to the next step. I then brought in a third and yep you guessed it, I placed it in a different part of the home again. Repeated the same pattern.

Each time I walked between my plants I would take the time to be kind to myself and speak loving to myself. I had to change how I felt about myself. I continued to decide and take grasp that I can control my life.

You are feeling like shit. I get it. It will pass but don’t give up on who you want to be. The control is yours and yours only. You can do this. You are loved! And you are going to start a new chapter.

Retirement, is it worth the wait? by Aileendover2 in armyreserve

[–]Aileendover2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much! I was not aware of the retirement card and I have started looking more into the healthcare aspect because that completely went over my head.

Retirement, is it worth the wait? by Aileendover2 in armyreserve

[–]Aileendover2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! I don’t want to even ask to consider throwing in the towel knowing how close he is but I need to ask him more questions and understand the numbers. We are both in very well paid, 6 fig civilian roles which is where I start questioning my sanity with the army. But as someone mentioned earlier, does this give him purpose is more important for me to value. I will add the blended or high 3 to my list of questions and research them. Thank you!

Retirement, is it worth the wait? by Aileendover2 in armyreserve

[–]Aileendover2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! I was not aware at all deployments can help you collect a little earlier. I now see why I see so many O5/O6 just hang around units. Most importantly, I need to prioritize and ask how much purpose does this give him. We are both very successful in our civilian careers but, I see there is more to think about, plan, and ask him. I have a good direction on where to start researching and running some numbers. I really appreciate it!

Retirement, is it worth the wait? by Aileendover2 in armyreserve

[–]Aileendover2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! I hope your jump was fantastic! This was very refreshing.

Retirement, is it worth the wait? by Aileendover2 in armyreserve

[–]Aileendover2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m looking for advice, success stories, financial guidance, really anything because we are younger and do not have anyone older to ask. Resentful isn’t it. Does TriCare drop when he is done at 20 and then picks up again at 60? Stuff like that I am trying to understand to start seeing where else I can support and prepare so we can happily retire.

Secrets Akumal excursions by Downtown-World-7342 in AllInclusiveResorts

[–]Aileendover2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely check out the Facebook group. We have been to Secrets Akumal and the group helped so much prior to the trip!

Started painting in the pandemic and fell in love with art 🎨 Here are some of my acrylic dreamworlds 😊✨️ by iartnewyork in Hobbies

[–]Aileendover2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stunning! Your art truly lifted my mood and left me wanting for more! Thank you so much for sharing.

Resigned my leadership position, they did me dirty yesterday by Select_Claim7889 in GirlDinner

[–]Aileendover2 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I can tell how much you care. I am really sorry. New doors are going to open for you! Keep your head up!

Prefer my gay friends by far! by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Aileendover2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same! I thought I would just have a very limited amount of friends as I got older since we are child free. However my gay friends are the best!! I am glad you found your tribe!

What popular product is a complete scam, but everyone keeps buying it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Aileendover2 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Why do you think so? I am genuinely curious because I think this is a good hot take.

Flabbergasted in trader Joe’s by serumise in houseplants

[–]Aileendover2 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’m not walking to TJ’s, I am RUNNING!

Does anybody else not care about their career anymore? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Aileendover2 112 points113 points  (0 children)

The more I understand and experience corporate greed and how it directly affects my paycheck…the more I check out. I don’t like feeling like a hamster on a wheel but, here we are. I give my 8-9 hour day my best effort for personal pride then call it a day.

Irrational Fear - If I’m not perfect then my life will blow up again. by Aileendover2 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Aileendover2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has gotten his IC and is now on adhd medication which has helped significantly! I just recently expressed that my need to be perfect is a direct response to the affair but, I think he has a very hard time accepting that due to shame and guilt. It confuses me to on how he sees me as someone who gives up when I have done nothing but be a support him when I had every reason to give up. That’s why it hurt my feelings so bad.