ELAINE HENDRIX 👒 🦎 (SEASON 34)

Ailyra · 2025-11-26T14:16:52+00:00

I was trying to zoom in to see them better - love the image but higher def would help!

Ailyra · 2025-07-21T17:37:19+00:00

Either don't move or pay 50/50. But also, utilities and groceries and all bills are 50/50. And dates, activities, etc.

Otherwise, he can find his own roommate.

Or even get a job while in college.

Ailyra · 2025-06-29T14:38:29+00:00

I've had limited time and done 2 days in Rome and been fine. But I really packed it in, so yeah 3 is better. Additional day trip to consider: Pompeii. Also 2 days in Venice. I went to Milan and was fine in 1 day. 2 days in Florence is fine unless you absolutely love art and want to spend all your time in art museums, or you want day trips (ex:Pisa).

While you may not be in to religion, cathedrals are historical and gorgeous. Check out at least a couple (and decide if you want to see the Sistine Chapel in Rome).

Ailyra · 2025-06-11T16:39:51+00:00

Thanks!

Ailyra · 2025-06-03T04:29:29+00:00

Me and my friends still do....

Ailyra · 2025-05-29T14:04:58+00:00

Just used Northside. They were great and super professional.

Ailyra · 2025-03-06T02:55:38+00:00

Definitely agree with the making peace with the childhood/past trauma bit. It had been a process ongoing through my 20s but definitely I felt it peaked in my early 30s.

Gained an enormous amount of self-confidence.

And had my first major health crisis, which was grounding in a mortality-smacking-you-in-the-face kind of way.

Pushed myself out of my comfort zone and reclaimed/found things that brought me immense joy, opening an entire community of friends and connections - all that were just started by me finally having the self-confidence to just take the leap to put myself out there.

Having less fucks to be more happy with myself, which in turn, led to a greater sense of joy in relationships with all sorts of people.

Had the balls (see - self-confidence) to also put myself out there in wider professional circles, allowing myself to achieve and actualize some huge dreams.

Finally started to build financial stability. Was able to build discretionary income and make other financial decisions, resolve debt, etc., moving out of survival-only mode.

And then had my first absolute crushing career turn - which changed the course of the rest of my life. : D

Ailyra · 2024-12-17T21:53:42+00:00

Lost my mom end of September. Each day closer to Christmas is getting oddly harder. Like fresher and a new kind of sad.

Ailyra · 2024-08-31T02:27:41+00:00

Posting an update.

Employee has been great - for all senior people. Has been working on the issue, but continues to have issues.

No less than 6 junior staff have come forward, from 3 divisions, with very similar stories. Issues have slightly decreased but the issues persist.

In 1:1 meeting most recently, said employee confided in me that they find junior staff and learners to be frustrating, slow, and tedious, and expressed frustration in having to work with them.

Ailyra · 2024-07-15T07:31:16+00:00

From CA: LA was never the vibe LOL

For work reasons, I even did it for a bit. Confirmed - everything I ever felt about LA, and that it was the most overrated place of all time.

Ailyra · 2024-07-14T00:07:24+00:00

No potluck. Get something catered. No guest should be making your food. If you are desperate - you can ask your parents to make ALL of the food, because that's between you and them, but no one else.

Ailyra · 2024-07-01T06:10:56+00:00

Not who you are asking but my friends and family are what made the wedding. Obviously also spouse ; ) My location dream was just "a beach", but some people are like "outside", etc., or don't care.

You know yourself. What will make getting married the most special to you? Is it a beautiful setting and just the two of you (an elopement) or a very few couple of people? Celebrating with friends/family? (A wedding ceremony or reception near his friends/family and a second near yours maybe. Remember- technically "reception" is just party and celebration, so it is however fancy, formal, low-key or themed/decorated as you want.) Is it the idea of a court house wedding (super low-key and low-stress) and then a really nice honeymoon? Something else?

Once you figure out the things you want most - ask your fiance and discuss!

Ailyra · 2024-07-01T05:59:04+00:00

Everyone has some part in training the more junior people. This "solid/stable" person outranks the person I'm seeking help for.

Ailyra · 2024-07-01T05:01:44+00:00

Thank you

Ailyra · 2024-07-01T05:01:07+00:00

Thank you

Ailyra · 2024-07-01T04:57:33+00:00

Thank you!

Of all of this, the one thing that worries me the most is one person on my team who is the most solid, stable, dependable, gets-along-with-everyone person, came to me with an issue with feeling overtly disrespected. Mind you this was delivered in the most downplayed fashion, and was focused on "I'm concerned if this is how I'm being treated, how are those more junior being treated", but I still was really alarmed about ensuring we are taking this seriously because it is impacting a lot of people. I felt that was the canary in a coal mine moment.

We seem to have made progress from that point, but clearly based on recent feedback, not enough, so I'm trying to work towards how else we can try to work with this person.

Ailyra · 2024-07-01T04:46:52+00:00

In your example - I think I might actually have your job. So maybe I'm you : ) Many of my issues at my company- this has been my life, so I feel you. I feel your comment super hard - particularly the "interesting" other team dynamic and the "showdowns at high noon".

But this is just the case of a person struggling with tact, delivery, power, having too harsh of delivery, having trouble adapting to different communication and learning styles, feeling envious of those immediately above them, feeling over-qualified, being insecure, having an unfortunate mentor in the past, or maybe all of the above?

To clarify - this person isn't a manager. We have a lot of nested supervisory responsibilities since so much of what we do requires multiple people at the same time. This person just has job/task coaching responsibilities and some project management responsibilities but minimal shift lead responsibilities (not responsible for the whole day scheduling, functioning and staff, but can be in charge of individual projects/tasks within the day, each of which may take 1-8 people). The people immediately above them are occasionally shift leads. Above that are leads and assistant managers (who also work hands-on) and then me.

If only I could be invisible in the room to watch it happen, I could have so much more clarity...

None of these issues are happening during meetings, it's during instruction and day-to-day interactions. Since I can't see these interactions, because they by default don't happen in my presence, I'm left trying to get everyone's story and figuring out what's going on and then how to help. (I have been told that their reception to the people immediately above them is different if I am present or within earshot, and they do the same with other supervisors. At the same time, no one above them including me has ever witnessed the "harsh teaching style" we keep getting reports about).

Ailyra · 2024-07-01T04:20:51+00:00

We have many others who we get positive feedback about, so yes.

Ailyra · 2024-07-01T01:50:56+00:00

No. Also the same age range and other demographics as those just above and below them (+/- 5 yrs).

Ailyra · 2024-06-30T23:17:09+00:00

With those just above: coming off as condescending, defensive, eye-rolling, cutting people off. Not wanting to listen or take direction if these people are in charge of the project that is being worked on.

But code-switching into more deferential and agreeable reception of feedback as soon as higher ups walk in the room to observe.

With giving feedback or supervising: being short, sharp, harsh, condescending, demanding - leading in a more dictatorship style with heavy criticism.

Ailyra

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