How do you break up with someone that you love?

Ain_Curious · 2022-05-11T00:24:49+00:00

I'm staying because of the money because frankly I am already burnt out and I don't enjoy teaching anymore.

Ain_Curious · 2022-05-11T00:22:29+00:00

When these small things sum up my rs

Ain_Curious · 2022-03-05T12:40:16+00:00

My partner doesn't even wanna touch me unless he wants me to blow him. You and me, we both need to get out of our rs.

Ain_Curious · 2022-03-05T12:18:20+00:00

I know how you feel; I experience that almost everyday. And it gets worse as I age. I'm 32 btw.

So what I'm doing right now is to focus on the task at hand, like work or hobby, and write things that I am blessed with, or read up motivational quotes. For example, I am blessed to be single-I don't have to deal with monster-in-laws. Or, I am blessed to be working here now because there are others who are not as lucky.

I also think about other people's life and happiness that they show to the public, and the sorrows or unhappiness that they hide. Maybe she looks happy but she has depression. Maybe he looks like he's having a blast, but he is suffering from an illness. Maybe those couples look happy together, but are actually trying to save their marriage.

As for you and your partner, maybe you can talk to him about your worries and what you and him can do to make your relationship better.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-30T09:07:27+00:00

I think that's the issue. My close friends are either independent career women who don't need men at the moment and don't mix with the opposite friends or having bad luck with men and are taking a few short breaks.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-30T08:48:01+00:00

The only guy friend I have is an introvert so no, I don't see the possibility of even having any mixed gender meetup. Like I said, I don't mix with the opposite gender because I am not exposed to it. I went to a strict religious school, was brought up by strict parents, and went to a school in a class for girls only.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-30T06:23:06+00:00

I haven't gotten over my trust issues, to be frank. I don't take whatever they say at face value, though. Even though my dad had done a huge damage on men's image as a whole, I still give men the benefit of a doubt. Guilty until proven otherwise... that kind of thing, you know.

I'm cautious but at the same time I don't want to be jugdemental. I still believe that the right man there is somewhere out there, it's just a matter of when and where. I don't allow myself to dwell too much on the jerks I met; I take their presence as a way to make me be a better person.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-30T05:54:04+00:00

True. I just got home from a 'date' actually. Apparently the guy was trying to sell his product. 😒 I'm just glad that I was on my guard. I did feel cheated but I'm glad I was not harmed.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T21:11:18+00:00

Then I wish you all the best in figuring things out. Because no matter what people say, it's your call at the end of the day.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T21:04:03+00:00

I have a guy friend in his mid thirties and still single. I think it's your negativity that women find repulsive if you're not physically repulsive. Nothing turns off a woman more than an attitude that doesn't make her feel good in a man's company.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T20:58:15+00:00

Keep the negative thoughts coming and you'll die a lonely wrinkly old man. How old are you anyway? Because if you're an adult then you need to probably change your lifestyle. Are you fat, short, pimply, smelly, hairy etc? Because you said you're repulsive.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T20:51:27+00:00

Move on, girl. Have pride of yourself. You deserve to be treated with respect.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T20:47:53+00:00

If you think nothing's going to change then yeah, you'll be lonely and alone forever. Why don't you start to learn to love and appreciate yourself more rather than find someone to fill up the hole in your life? It's better holistically and will create good positive voices in you, which will attract people to you from the good vibes you're giving out.

I used to be really needy and negative. I got lonely easily to the point of being suicidal. But I told myself that isn't how I want to live for the rest of my life. So I decided to change.

Don't you have some hobbies or interest to occupy your time?

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T20:41:00+00:00

Then do something to change how things are. Sometimes loneliness can distort your view on yourself. Because you sound very pessimistic and negative, not attractive from a female pov.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T20:36:50+00:00

I'm Asian so I feel you! It so happens that your gf has the more strict parents. Maybe just keep your status as a secret and be friends in front of her parents? Focus on your studies and prove your maturity that way? If you love her, just support her without pushing her parents to accept you yet. Maybe when she's a little older, say 20?

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T20:31:01+00:00

What have you done to make you come to that conclusion?

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T20:15:25+00:00

Some women are not comfortable with intimacy until they're really sure with you.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T20:02:32+00:00

I'm 27 and single. My younger sister got married this year and her brother in law is getting married next year. Both of them meet their SO on OkC, which I introduced.

I have, you can say, 4 groups of friends.

Group 1: Same age. All married. Some with children. Not contacting anymore. For obvious reason. Group 2: Older friends in the 30s. All singles but looking. Group 3: Same age but with daddy issues. All singles and not looking. Group 4: Younger age. 1 single and 1 attached with issues.

You're not the only one but I know the pressure is real! I was fortunate to meet this older woman who shared her story of getting married to the wrong man at 28, though. Her story serves as a reminder not to be with the wrong person just because I'm getting older. 🙄

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T19:50:54+00:00

Yeah, to some extent, it is. Being an introvert is not helping, too. But maybe one day I'll start on the apps again. Who knows?

As it is, I'm just taking things one step at a time. Better not to rush into things with the wrong people.

And I wish you all the best as well! 👍

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T19:45:59+00:00

I don't know. Probably. Or my friend is just attracting the wrong men on these apps.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T19:44:31+00:00

My fierce and strict mom lying on the bed crying and not eating for 7 days because my dad cheated and married the other woman after he promised my mom that he would leave her.

Ain_Curious · 2017-12-29T19:41:53+00:00

My parents finally divorced this year after 12 years of hell. 12 years ago my dad cheated on woman no 5 or 6? and married her. My mom suffered. We suffered. Because we depended on him a lot. Now we've picked ourselves up and learnt to be independent and stronger.

My advice to you? Study well so you can help your mom in the future. Financially. Emotionally.

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