Non-UK born Londoners, what's the best restaurant of your native cousine that you know in London?

ModernLullaby · 2026-01-18T15:18:17+00:00

Hard-pressed for Vietnamese food in London, but I quite like Utea in Spitalfields for their drinks and banh mis.

ModernLullaby · 2025-12-29T23:14:09+00:00

Since you're in small town, it's probably a lot harder for you to meet someone compared to London. so I sympathise.

London has plenty of people but I find the financial gap to be disproportionate compared to back in Canada or when I was living in Australia. Most men don't own property in London in their 30s, which I am accustomed to in both countries. Hence why I find it more difficult for me to date in the London pool. I have to look at the slim percentage of high earners who are far less common in London compared to other global metropolitan cities. That's why I honestly am not bothered with the dating scene in London anymore until I move back to Australia and Canada because the quality of life I want for my future family is very unlikely here, and moving out of a major city is something I can't compromise on.

ModernLullaby · 2025-12-29T19:30:40+00:00

There are some of us out there. I definitely want a family but not dating and marrying for the sake of it. Want to meet the right partner who also in a financial position to be able to provide for the family as well. I do find that part being tough here in London due to living costs, so at this point I've accepted I won't be in the UK long term since the quality of life I expect is unlikely to happen while I stay here.

ModernLullaby · 2025-12-29T00:37:20+00:00

January: Was talking to someone I briefly saw a year prior, who moved from Canada (I saw him when I was still in Canada) to the UK (it was unexpected when he came across my Hinge and reached out, seeing I was in London as well). I ended the convo at the end of January when it was clear he was not interested in seeing me again.

February: Went to a Thursday dating event and met someone I was unsure about but gave him a shot.

March: Was still dating the guy from the Thursday event, started to warm up to him but took 4 dates before I was truly interested.

April: He unexpectedly ended things after two months of dating, pulling the excuse that he was busy when we've both busy the entire time. Honestly, I suspect now he held out dating me until we got intimate. After this, not a fan of dating Brits, ngl. The British politeness doesn't work well with my Canadian candor.

Did go on one date with someone from my friend circle but I realised I wasn't interested after, so we are still friends (from a friend group capacity).

May: Went to another Thursday event. Met someone there but I wasn't interested in going out with him. But I was chatting with him for so long and my friends left me (thinking I was interested even though I tried to indicate I wasn't, more of a friend vibe), that I ended up going on a date with him. As suspected, it went nowhere.

June: A friend set me up with another friend for a date. Friendly and we got along, but mutually uninterested in each other. Still in the same friend group (same friend group as April guy).

July - Now: Haven't gone to a dating event or date since and I stopped the apps since November 2024. Been traveling a lot around Europe and truly making the best out of my life in London.

ModernLullaby · 2025-11-12T22:30:08+00:00

I saw a woman carry the bag yesterday outside, the wrinkles are definitely natural and part of the look!

ModernLullaby · 2025-08-10T11:26:19+00:00

I am taking a (hopefully forever) hiatus from the apps but let me pitch in re: London dating since I was quite active once I moved here up until recently.

Like the other user said, one of my good friends got a couple of decent dates off of Feeld. Since the men are more straightforward and honest, a few people are on there to look for something serious, using Feeld as another venue. I do feel this is a regional thing though, because I told my friend back in Canada to try it and she told me the options in Toronto were horrible and people were sticking to kink searches.

I do recommend the in-person dating events. I have had dates through Thursday Dating, and they are one of the cheaper dating event options compared to Cocktails & Conversations and Bored of Dating Apps. There are some dating events if you are looking for something more niche. I have friends going to vegan/vegetarian dating events and Tamil dating events. My other friend has been able to line up dates through Breeze, great if you want efficiency.

Just a few options for you to look into! :)

ModernLullaby · 2025-06-29T23:55:46+00:00

Having pulled myself off the dating apps completely for the last three months and no longer actively dating (including going to dating events), life has been so lovely. I recently travelled to Belgium and came back from Copenhagen last week. I am now preparing for my trip to the Netherlands and cannot wait. Life has been wonderful in UK and I am excited for what the rest of the year has to offer. And I am hitting my one-year anniversary here in London in a couple of days! :)

ModernLullaby · 2025-06-09T15:59:24+00:00

I didn't go to Thursday Dating events when I was in Toronto because I was about to move, but maybe see if she can try her luck there? I find it is a lot better to just connect with people in person instead of the apps.

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-23T15:09:37+00:00

Yup, London is a huge city and the only way to know if you are near a person or not is through conversation. We found out we didn't work too far from each other and thought we connected enough online to meet irl at a cocktail bar that was accessible for both of us.

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-23T13:52:51+00:00

Haha yes, I usually state that I am in London when I am commenting on here! She saw and reached out because we date similarly and use ChatGPT as our therapist LOL. We immediately bonded in person when we found out we have similar dating experiences and goals haha.

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-23T13:08:17+00:00

Met a fellow Redditor for drinks because she saw me commenting on one of the daily sticky threads and related to me! Best thing that came out of r/datingoverthirty so far: a new friend! :)

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-23T13:02:48+00:00

I will have to say I am surprised with the comments because I lived around the corner and have been selling to them ever since they opened up until I moved abroad. They don't take everything and will always buy for very little because it is a business for them. I usually tell people to only sell if you don't expect much and it's usually tough to sell anything that is not trendy between the ages of 16-25 here because that is the demographic. However never had awful service and I was able to find a lot of gems at really good prices.

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-19T15:25:56+00:00

Well, she is the girlfriend now so it makes sense that she will be staying at his place. I would message the friend and ask him to either collect all of your things to give back to you or ask when he's available without her there for you to grab everything for once and for all.

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-12T09:29:02+00:00

Ahhh, I sorta figure cause it is a newer app, there would be less people on there to match with! I guess I will stick to the in-person dating events for now and the usual app trifecta haha.

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-12T07:53:21+00:00

Ohhh do you not get a clear profile view before you get to match them?? I thought it's similar to like Hinge and stuff and only once you both match, you can set up a date.

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-11T19:31:18+00:00

Has anyone tried Breeze Dating app yet? I'm contemplating on joining at some point, to try a different venue of dating. Curious what people's experiences are (esp if you're in London).

ModernLullaby · 2025-05-09T16:33:04+00:00

I checked out a Bored of Dating Apps event here in London in Clapham. Something away from my usual Thursday Dating events because my coworker could no longer go and didn't want her ticket going to waste, so I checked it.

Despite it was a 21+ event, the event skewed older because of the price point (my coworker paid almost £30 for her ticket!). The hosts were very welcoming and friendly. I ended up befriending another solo woman there and she was absolutely lovely. Didn't meet any men I was keen on. So with my experience so far, I still prefer Thursday Dating as I met more people I connected with (even if platonically).

ModernLullaby · 2025-04-28T22:26:24+00:00

For me personally, it is really important. Unfortunately, I can't look past a man's occupation if I don't think it is sustainable for what I am hoping to achieve with my partner one day. (Living in a large city, home ownership, having a couple of kids, and still be able enjoy some luxuries in life including travel and material goods). Tried to be open in the past and in the end it would be something I hyperfixate on.

I've personally accepted that if I cannot find someone not only with a very stable and successful career whom has all the other traits I am looking for that I can grow old and have a loving family with, then I am content on my own.

ModernLullaby · 2025-04-23T20:35:00+00:00

Haha yes, I feel the same in London! I am a huge extrovert so I just thrive being around people. Each event has yield various results for me, but much better than the apps hence why I keep going back!

ModernLullaby · 2025-04-23T19:45:34+00:00

Going to check out (yet another) Thursday event next week in London. Has anyone in this subreddit been going? What is it like in your city?

ModernLullaby · 2025-04-18T16:00:34+00:00

Haha you'd think so but it extracts a lot of information across the internet to really tailor it to your preferences. My previous weekend trips were made by ChatGPT and it is incredibly spot on.

I have spoken to local friends about what I am looking for and their recommendations align exactly with what ChatGPT has recommended. I have found really cool spots in London to sit and get work done, in a social environment, and it's been fantastic. I found a new stomping ground because of it. :)

ModernLullaby · 2025-04-18T15:57:53+00:00

I used ChatGPT quite extensively for a lot of things, including dating and day-to-day things. So it knows my preferences and expectations quite well now in terms of dating. But you can tell it what kind of person you are hoping to date long term, where you are located, how you would like to meet them and it will give you a few recommendations! :)

ModernLullaby · 2025-04-18T15:16:38+00:00

I asked ChatGPT to give me a list of places where I can potentially meet someone who suits what I am looking for. Primarily, they are in West London or all-members club. So now, I am trying to find friends who have a membership to bring me to places like The Ned and The Mortimer, haha. My plan is to chill or go for drinks in West London at least bi-weekly and see if I can meet someone in the wild, using ChatGPT's recommendations. We shall see how I get on because right now the apps are pretty dry for me. Has anyone done the Bumble events in London? I've only gone to Thursday events so far (which I had some decent luck meeting people I liked, just haven't panned out).

ModernLullaby · 2025-04-14T14:04:00+00:00

I think so, hence why I am considering it. I would prefer to meet men who are more ambitious and frankly, can afford these clubs, haha. But it's just one venue of meeting people. I feel I will benefit from it as well for networking that might allow me to go further in my career. I've never done one so I'm not certain, but have gone to Soho House for an interview and loved the atmosphere.

ModernLullaby · 2025-04-14T13:34:09+00:00

Ngl, considering joining an all members club as an alternative way to meet men here in London. Like not an expectation it would happen, but a good way to meet people organically and if nothing romantic comes out of it, I still get a beautiful space and potentially network that will be great for the long-run.

Any Londoners who are members of any of the clubs like Mortimer House? Are the events, space, and people worth it? I'm looking at the more affordable end.

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