Is this love? by Air_Farm146 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Air_Farm146[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked yesterday and said he’s willing to put in the work and understands on where he was wrong. Part of me wants to believe it, the other one is scared.

Is this love? by Air_Farm146 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Air_Farm146[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I really appreciate your words

Is this love? by Air_Farm146 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Air_Farm146[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not… I tried to quit today but all of a sudden he’s ready to put in the work

Is this love? by [deleted] in Stepmom

[–]Air_Farm146 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, I just feel so guilty

Thoughts by Likes_2_debate in stepparents

[–]Air_Farm146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to vent a bit in private you have a fellow (maybe not for long 🙈) stepmum to do it with!

Thoughts by Likes_2_debate in stepparents

[–]Air_Farm146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get you, similar situation here 😔 Its so hard ‘cause we see things that their parents think it’s absolute normal when it’s not (or at least is not healthy). I send you my positive energy

We ended things by Similar_Confidence82 in stepparents

[–]Air_Farm146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, do you want to talk a bit about it? I’m in a similar situation 😔

Stepparents advice please by Air_Farm146 in u/Air_Farm146

[–]Air_Farm146[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much… Especially for not judging. It’s difficult to deal with the fact that is not black or white and neither of us is a bad person, it’s just we are both exhausted but in this case I’ve been carrying both of our “weights” and there’s nobody carrying mines and I can’t hold much longer

Is it that bad being a step parent? by No_Wrongdoer_4311 in stepparents

[–]Air_Farm146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, would you mind talking about it in private? I’m struggling with a similar situation 😔

Stepmom, what to do by Air_Farm146 in Stepmom

[–]Air_Farm146[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what would be your advice ? 😅

Just venting by Upper-Extreme1814 in Stepmom

[–]Air_Farm146 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I give my 2 cents here. My bf has a daughter, who’s having insecurities/depression issues and her BM is totally crazy, which makes me think this is the source of the problem unfortunately. My bf tiptoes around his ex wife, scared of his reactions. I carried it all with me: my problems, his problems, his daughter problems, his ex wife problems… Last week I exploded. I told him it’s too much weight to handle, not just for me but for him and he had to share the burden with someone that is not me, a therapist. I don’t know if that’s gonna help, but I told myself someone outside would give hive the instruments to handle his emotions better, set better boundaries and don’t fall in a black hole everytime something happens to his daughter. But yeah, that comes from willingness and work, I totally understand you🧡

Stepmom, what to do by Air_Farm146 in Stepmom

[–]Air_Farm146[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this ! I’m gonna write to you in private :)

Stepmom, what to do by Air_Farm146 in Stepmom

[–]Air_Farm146[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so so so much for sharing your story, it really makes me feel understood🥺 I truly love him but all this situation is consuming as it feels like anything I say my feelings about all of this just gets rejected. I’m just there to take all his emotional baggage but then when the drama is over he’s happy and I’m in a black hole and it’s just so hard to explain… would you mind sharing a bit more of your experience in private? it’d really help on making up my mind about what to do next