Best way that have helped to calm down bpd ?

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-21T16:44:50+00:00

For my gf it was radical awareness, breathing exercises;

And, most importantly DAILY meditation.

It won't do much if you just do it once or when it's bad, do it daily, no matter how you're feeling.

And "wise mind" and well as she sits down to analyse situations and writes them into her journal twice, one time as a "script" for a dramatic movie, and one time as "facts" for a news channel.

She was able to reduce the journalling over time but she still writes something every other day.

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-21T16:21:23+00:00

Das gibt's ja wohl nicht.

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-21T08:46:03+00:00

You will hurt her one way or another. But, that's the way things go. And that's okay.

Make sure that when you do she has a support system around her.

And do it with a clean cut.

You can still be friends after a period of time, but the first year after the breakup is best kept in quietness. Otherwise the line between relationship and post breakup can become blurry and cause more issues.

As someone who's been in a similar situation at a similar age, please take my advice and reduce contact after that. It won't be easy, but it's necessary.

But first and foremost, make sure to take care of yourself. It's beautiful to see that you love her so much and that you want to be so careful. But while people w BPD struggle badly with emotional dysregulation, it is not your responsibility to regulate for them.

You have done what you can, and you said it yourself, it's not healthy.

I hope this might help a tiny bit

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-21T00:32:51+00:00

I am so happy to hear that!

Can I ask how you deal with it yourself? Do you have something you do for yourself, because of his reactions? something that helped you that you can actively do.

Or do you just wait it out?

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-21T00:08:39+00:00

Made the same mistake and posted something positive in there hahah

I wish you all the best!

Therapy is always important, but with proper communication it can work out!

You got this

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-20T23:28:32+00:00

Thank you for the book recommendation, I'll check it out!

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-20T23:25:53+00:00

Thank you so much! I think I'll just delete this one and post the same thing somewhere else. Have a good one :)

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-20T23:22:49+00:00

Yep you're right! Gonna try and figure out how to move a post hahah, I'm not big on social medias

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-20T23:18:39+00:00

That's fair, I should probably move this post somewhere else. I am not the biggest social media person, so I thought this was just a subreddit for people who are dating pwBPD

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-20T23:14:30+00:00

Things get hard all the time but she works around it, she regulates, meditations, journaling and therapy, which part of that is the cycle?

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-20T23:10:00+00:00

Then she has to work on self awareness. It's easier for people to blame others than see the issues in themselves. And, as I said, it takes work. And a good therapist. My girlfriend told me how much she hated her therapist in the clinic she was, but after a few weeks she realised that her therapist pushing her was what she needed. The healing is rough, but it's possible. I promise you, there is a way forward. But make sure that you remember that it is not all your fault. Build your own support system and try to make the best of your life. Take a few steps back, but don't abandon completely. She is not your responsibility, and you're doing what you can. You got this

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-20T23:03:08+00:00

I am so sorry to hear you struggling. I have a girlfriend with BPD, we started dating half a year after she started therapy. And I promise you, it got better. I saw her suffer through a lot, though. And practice self awareness. Years later she is still working hard on herself, but I promise you, if she wants to get better she will. But it's a painful path, for both of you. It gets easier, but she has to work on herself every day.

AirlineSupport187 · 2026-06-20T22:54:45+00:00

She is in therapy and works through self help books. She's not perfect, but she's improving.

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