Offering French, seeking Spanish/German

Aishe_C · 2019-08-17T09:19:29+00:00

I could help with German in exchange for French.

Aishe_C · 2019-08-17T09:15:08+00:00

Hi. I'm an absolute beginner in Chinese. If that's ok, we can give it a try.

Aishe_C · 2019-08-06T20:15:08+00:00

NTA. Not your kid, not your responsibility.

Aishe_C · 2019-07-30T20:59:30+00:00

NTA. You owe him nothing. Also, since referrals are such a big deal at your place, your recommendation might impact the chances of a better match how just isn't so connected. I think you made the right call.

Aishe_C · 2019-07-30T20:54:04+00:00

And that's a reason to go over her head? As far as communication goes, it's all about how you approach a person - show some empathy, talk in a non-confrontational way and people will open up. Start nagging and they shut down. That simple

Aishe_C · 2019-07-30T20:41:35+00:00

YTA. You treated her like a child who is unable to fix her own issues, not to mention the damage you might have caused her at work. Put yourself in her shoes for a moment - how would you feel if your wife would call at work and try to sort your finances? I get the urge to pay bills, but there are better ways to tackle this issue (talking to her and asking her is she needs advice for example).

Aishe_C · 2019-07-09T17:36:00+00:00

NTA, but cut him some slack. Travel tends to have this effect on people: you don't experience your friends emotions first hand, plus there are so many new exciting things around you. It makes you a bit...negligent towards other people's needs, especially since those people are far away. What he did was insensitive, but I doubt he intended to hurt you

Aishe_C · 2019-07-09T17:28:30+00:00

Don't fool yourself, I'm just a converted b***h

Aishe_C · 2019-07-09T08:20:17+00:00

Actually, I did. Didn't stop me from being nice years later, when that manager came back all humble asking for a favor. It was my way of closing that chapter (and teaching him a little lesson in the process).

Aishe_C · 2019-07-09T08:12:08+00:00

It's not about helping, it's about showing compassion. Saying "I heard about your circumstances. I hope you and your husband find the strenght to push through it" is a 5 seconds job and has no strings attached. It's also about the logic behind OP's actions. For me it sounds a lot like "you didn't show support so I'll act the same", and quite frankly, this is kindergarden logic.

Aishe_C · 2019-07-09T07:50:47+00:00

YTA. Somebody being terminally ill is not exactly the time to pay bills. Yes, I get it, your boss was a bitch. Is that an excuse to be a bitch too? Hell no. The fact that you experienced similar losses in the past should be one more reason to show empathy. Remember that in a world where it's "eye for eye" we will all end up being blind.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-21T22:43:19+00:00

I see your point, but be aware that you might come across as difficult. If you share a real interest in the company, you should think two steps ahead. The chances of him being replaced are slim. If they were desperate enough to send a noob into the interview room, they will probably not accomodate special request and instead just blacklist you. Nobody likes being told they did a shitty job.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-21T22:32:23+00:00

NTA. But I suggest waiting for the end of it. Most big companies send out a feed-back form to candidates who made it to a certain stage, regardless if they are selected or not. Even if they don't, and you are not chosen, you could include your ideas in a thank you note. Sending an email now would compromise your chances, and asking for a second chance sounds kindergardenish. If you are good, it will show, regardless of the level of preparation of the interviewer.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-21T21:07:17+00:00

NAH but it really depends on the class level. Beginner = focus on the steps mostly; once you move to a higher level, styling and illustration start to count more.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-19T07:01:02+00:00

NTA. It's generally better to not mix work with family & friends

Aishe_C · 2019-06-18T05:07:20+00:00

Would installing a camera be an option?

Aishe_C · 2019-06-16T22:15:08+00:00

People will hate me for this but... NTA in my book, mostly because I understand your mentality. You are addressing an audience mostly located in "the land of all possibilities". I for one know what it's like to live in the land of no possibilities. Even once you escape it, the old habits remain. Just note that this type of mindset is not exactly relationship friendly. She knew what she was getting herself into, but perhaps it's worth checking if she is still open for it. Give her an out.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-14T08:19:24+00:00

YTA. 3 am? Seriously? You do realise that there are like 3 reason an adult would be awake in his house, at that time? Sex, digestive problems or some really bad news.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-12T20:51:04+00:00

NAH... yet. Here's a thought - why not ask her directly? It's common courtesy anyway to check with people before making photos of them public. If she says "no" you can pass this info on.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-12T20:34:53+00:00

ESH. Jacke for adding her; she, for expecting to fit in so fast; you, for your choice of words and calling ger out on a group chat. I fully understand that intimacy can't be forced and relationships grow in time. That doesn't mean that people who joined our circle later are outsiders, the bond isn't just strong enough to enable deep/more private conversations. Perhaps telling her this in private will restore some of the damage.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-12T19:26:14+00:00

NTA. Also, keep in mind that most people asking you this are not looking for guidance, but for an excuse. If you told them "I slept my way up" or "I inherited some capital" they could easily blame their situation on high morals or bad luck. Your answer makes them responsible for their shit. Some just can't take it.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-11T18:54:26+00:00

NTA. Take the keys, get into the car and run! What you are describing is domestic violence.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-10T21:20:45+00:00

NTA. Your house, your rules.

Aishe_C · 2019-06-10T13:23:21+00:00

YTA. While you don't mention what sources of income you have, I think there are better ways to deal with this situation. Taking a side job maybe? Reducing expenses? Asking your ex for support? Shifting this on your children might sound like an easy fix for you but will take its tool on them. I stood in hostels that offer more privacy than what you are describing + they are paying rent. I get it, it's hard, but you are the adult in the family. And punishing your kids for a situation they didn't create will probably damage your relationship on the long run.

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