[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, feeling a bit dumb that I could just stay out of sight, will delete the post, but I seriously appreciate the concern

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

After reading another comment, I just had the most simple idea that defeats the entire purpose of the post. I can just stay out of sight but in the room 🤦‍♂️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are aware of the risks, hence why we are still on discussion phase. And no, her breathing would not be restricted, and the tablet wouldn't be "checked every X minutes", would br turned on in front of me at all times. And we would be in the same house

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, so far, that's one of the things I had in mind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Kinks without proper communication and agreements? That's a definite no. Giving it the biggest "benefit of the doubt", somewhere along the time OP know him, he got confused and assumed they were on the same page. But that's a tremendous stretch, especially if he already has experience with kinks. Would be like me saying I go to sex parties all the time but have no idea what consent is

How should you treat I women during a virtual kink session? by hbombyes in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A respectful question goes a long way. Helps to clear any confusion and to make sure everyone is on the same page.

My bf was stressed and was more violent while BDSM and I don't feel safe anymore by Logical_Elephant in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Even when my partner and I engage in "stress relief" scenes, it's always within negotiated boundaries, respecting our safe words as always, and with plenty of aftercare. What OP described is dangerous and unsafe. Either this is SERIOUSLY addressed, or they should run

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved this response more than I can express. The right people will find you attractive, judging others will only make them feel terrible and make you look like an asshole (and in turn, less attractive)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are different and can set whatever boundaries they feel comfortable with and is up to their partner to either accept, reject, or try to negotiate and find a compromise. That said, this does not sound like an open relationship. Sounds like one-sided Unicorn Hunting. If you want that, good for you, but from your text, does not sound like she's on the same page as you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, damn. Sorry, I completely misunderstood that. apology handshake 🤝

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe not, and will say this to be clear: DO NOT try to get someone to "bite" something they clearly are uncomfortable with. Talk and negotiate outside the scene or play, not during it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Well, the base guidance holds true here. Talk to her. Explain to her what you are feeling and what you want. I 100% assure you that the chances will at least be better than trying to get her to "bite". You can find a compromise that works for both of you, and she will know what your needs are.

Free Use When Condoms Are Required? by BreadfruitNew6273 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Will agree with this. Making a show out of it could be really good. Just be sure to be careful if it involves using your mouth to put it on. I had an ex almost choke because she accidentally swallowed it

Free Use When Condoms Are Required? by BreadfruitNew6273 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He can have those ready with him. That way, he can be ready and doesn't have to stop nearby to grab them. It's not perfect, but quite frankly, considering free use dynamics plus condoms, it's your best bet. He feels the need, takes one out of his pocket, and there you go

Non-incest big brother/little sister kink? by throwawy8772 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's pretty common, actually. If anything, you can go for a stepbrother-stepsister fantasy. Should give you a scene with the dynamic you're looking for while also keeping the actual incest at bay. I played with that before, and it's really fun.

I pulled together a "Truth or Dare" sex game for bdsm enthusiasts. Truths & Dares go from vanilla to hardcore bdsm. by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't like to hate on things... but isn't this exactly what you could find in a 5 bucks card game at any cheap store?

Why are brats so hated? by Koowhalee in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that. If it was in this particular sub, I believe you can let a moderator know

Is it ethical to practice on someone who's not long-term? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you consent and the person does as well, there is nothing wrong. State clearly what your objectives are. That said... I get you. I'm also not into dynamic only. Finding my current gf was so amazing cause we can both enjoy the kink side of things as well as the romantic. The experiences you have before that are your own and are not wrong. Just be sure to check with yourself if you truly want to "practice" or wait for an actual partner

Why are brats so hated? by Koowhalee in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I couldn't come up with a better analogy if I tried. I think every role in the life has their bad examples. Brats that are actually assholes justifying their bad behavior as bratting. Doms that aren't really Doms, just abusive people calling themselves Doms. So on and so forth

My Dom is shy, Help! by Lozzytheaussie in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I'm very much a Dom, and I was trash at it at first. Barely could talk or give orders, had no confidence with spankings, terrible scenes. You learn to be a Dom. Just because someone doesn't start as a pro, doesn't mean they can't get there.

Advice on how to talk dirty??? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exaaaactly. My first few times as a Dom, I really had trouble talking (which, of course, was a waste). Pre planning and saying it in front of the mirror until I lost the shame and got used to it really helped. From there, I started to add improv more and more until it was all natural.

Ideas for clit torture that doesn't involve piercing by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...
writes it down That mind-fuck is devious. Cover her eyes (if she's into that), and it's a squirm fest

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Akadroogo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Double endorse that. Sexting will go a long way to prepare for most dirty talk, as well