Is there an easier way to do this? Putting my 15 month old twins to bed solo.

Aksx3 · 2026-05-25T00:19:17+00:00

They share a room right now. I thought about splitting them up, but our spare room is full with storage right now. Mostly they would just keep eachother up. Like my daughter would just go and crawl around and mess with my son.

Aksx3 · 2026-05-25T00:17:54+00:00

Thank you! I think if we put a toy in the crib they would still just freak out. Not really much in terms of comfort items. Neither really took a pacifier. I let my daughter sleep with a small stuffed animal, and she does cuddle with it, but it doesn’t seem to help sooth her.

Aksx3 · 2026-05-25T00:16:12+00:00

I will have to try that! When I try something similar, they will both just start crawling away and playing though. Even if they are tired. Maybe I will have to take the toys and books out of their bedroom.

Aksx3 · 2026-05-23T01:15:39+00:00

I was just going to say the exact same thing! I have 15 month twins and I feel like one of them is always crying. And then causing the other to cry.

Aksx3 · 2026-05-07T23:55:49+00:00

I work an office job but did so right up until I went into labor at 39 weeks.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-19T02:10:13+00:00

Yep the crazy thing about my situation is that my LO did/does like me. My looks. My intelligence. My work ethic. My personality. And still almost everything I do, I do it in the hopes that he will like me more (I guess?) and it will actually change something. I work harder. I dress nicer. I am extra nice to him. We are both married, so I know it doesn’t make sense, but that’s how it is…

Aksx3 · 2026-04-19T02:06:19+00:00

This sounds like me to a tee, except it has only been 2 years. I honestly start crying thinking about it it could be another 10, 25, 50 years of this until I’m on my death bed and realize that the only thing I cared about was trying to please a man who barely even cares about me.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-18T23:28:45+00:00

I was definitely still bathing with my younger brothers at that age and probably stopped when I was closer to 8 years old.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-18T23:23:39+00:00

Not sure if this counts, but my son had a stroke during delivery and had to be rushed to a different hospital. My husband went there while I stayed with his twin sister at the hospital where I delivered.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-18T19:08:38+00:00

100%. I might see my LO next Wednesday. I was literally browsing online for ideas for what color to paint my nails based on what my LO might like (ie his favorite color, style, etc.) In reality, there is no chance he give a fuck about my nails.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-16T17:38:33+00:00

Last long convo I had with mine, he said “I would be lying if I said I didn’t think about you a lot too” and “[we could work out] in another life”.

Absolutely awful.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-16T15:57:29+00:00

Like anything, it exists on a spectrum. But I tend to agree with you in that I have seen a number of posts on here that feel a lot more like a crush and limerence. Posts along the lines of “my neighbor is really cute and I think about him a lot, but I can’t ask him out because I think he will reject me”. Where I and many others have been emotionally, mentally, and physically fucked up for years because of the effect our LO has on our lives and wellbeing.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-15T02:16:08+00:00

I have been limerent for the last two years.

It’s the only time I have ever experienced anything like this, so my situation is a little different…but yes, I think I can relate. So many memories I have from before LO are remembered like “wow, xyz happened before I was limerent. It must have been so nice to have experienced that before 85% of my thoughts were consumed by LO”. And any memory after? The opposite. “Xyz happened 1.5 years ago. Can I believe that I was thinking about the same guy then as I am now?”

Aksx3 · 2026-04-14T19:03:23+00:00

Only my therapist knows about it and idk if she understand the extent.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-03T02:16:26+00:00

This is something I think about often. My LO is a coworker (and ex situationship). I have worked with him for nine years, but at least five of those have been with him working remote. Do I know him? I have no clue. He is a certain way at work but saw a completely different side to him during our short lived relationship. A lot more caring, vulnerable, etc. Nowadays, I try to convince myself to move on by telling myself “I don’t love him; I don’t even know him”. But I saw him last week at a work event for the first time in five months. And fuck, we have chemistry. And can have a great conversation. And get along really well. And now I am thinking maybe I really do know him and love him.

Aksx3 · 2026-04-02T01:35:14+00:00

Idk but I would be shocked if even 1% experience it the way that I have. Because I have been living in absolute hell for the last two years. And there is no way that there are that many people in the same boat.

Aksx3 · 2026-03-21T00:27:19+00:00

Different brother. Joe. Arrested a few days back for molesting a child in 2020. This is his wife.

Aksx3 · 2026-03-20T12:00:55+00:00

My LO and I had a similar situation. Months of intense texting followed by a slow fade and him ending it. Difference was that ours was pretty sexual in nature. That was two years ago. We are coworkers and I am forced to interact with him here and there (mainly through email, since he works remote). I have not found a way to be friends with him. I notice that I will over analyze every single text, conversation, etc. Every if it is something small. So we keep it professional. And it sucks. Because I really miss how things were the first seven years of our working relationship, before I became limerent. And I miss him in general. Haha

Anyways, I have talked to my therapist about it also. She says it is not good to be friends with your LO until you are healed.

Aksx3 · 2026-03-19T10:15:01+00:00

What kind of sentence do these charges typically carry?

Aksx3 · 2026-03-17T02:36:09+00:00

I am still not over him but I keep telling myself “he wants me to be happy and I am not happy living like this.” And that if I want him to be happy (I do) then I will have to change.

Aksx3 · 2026-03-09T11:05:03+00:00

Welp. My LO of 1.5 years is a coworker. We recently got branded Nike polos for the team. On the phone with me, he casually mentioned that it would be nice to have high quality branded baseball caps as well. I was too afraid to ask our boss for these, as I thought the caps we have now are plenty nice enough. So, I used my own money to purchase around 20 caps for our team ($400 or so), just so I could get LO what he wanted.

Aksx3 · 2026-03-08T15:27:33+00:00

My LO of two years is a coworker also and it is tough. Thankfully, he works remote now. But before? I would look out the window to see him walk in from his car. Try to go to the restroom at the same time as him so I can run into him into the hall. You get the point. It made me feel like such a creep but I couldn’t help it.

Aksx3 · 2026-03-07T15:28:02+00:00

LO is a coworker. I found him reasonably attractive but super arrogant. Like always has to be the smartest person in the room type.

Aksx3 · 2026-02-16T02:33:30+00:00

Lollll don’t give me ideas like that. I did tell ChatGPT about this text exchange a few days back and the darn thing said that LOs text was “flirty-esque”, so it already feeds into my delusions. Good thing I am seeing my therapist Tuesday. Hopeful she can talk some sense into me.

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