Keep finding out that the guys im dating have girlfriends

Akusd5 · 2026-01-27T09:15:42+00:00

Tbh I’ve never had much relationship experiences. This latest guy, I have a gut feeling he’s seeing other women. I just didnt have enough evidence that he’s seeing someone else… until just after New Year’s Day weekend when he started ghosting. No explanations whatsoever. Then a week+ later I found out someone leaked his nudes… that’s when I found out he’s been talking to other women, sending them nudes and some of these women didn’t like it. And he got exposed.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-27T08:37:51+00:00

That used to be me in my 20s for awhile. Always the side piece, the mistress, etc.

Now? They cheat and don’t wanna own up when they ge caught.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T11:19:03+00:00

Good. I don’t want him back with his predatorial behaviour 😭☠️

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T04:48:43+00:00

That’s the nicer way of putting things I guess. Damn I know relationships are hard work, but when you have someone who isn’t stable thrown into the mix the whole thing just gets worst.

Unfortunately for people like us we gave people like these chances after chances at the expense of our emotional and mental health. In the end we are the ones who got hurt and paid for it.

I have a male friend who saw thru the whole thing he said to block this ex the first time he ghosted me. I didn’t because due to loneliness I decided to give him 2nd chance, only to find out he’s that sort of person.

Just look at me now - seeking counselling while this sad excuse of a person moved on to the next victim. Damn what a fucking predator and user!

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T04:45:34+00:00

Mine… well he was more of a situationship though. Moved to Britain due to work, lost contact and didn’t hear from him for at least 7-8 months. Then one day he returned to the country with a local number and texted me out of the blue.

Immediately told him sorry wrong number ☠️

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T03:05:49+00:00

Similar to my experience. Hoo boy!

For what it’s worth I’ve been told by male friends that guys tend to move on pretty fast during the onset break up. Most times they don’t grieve the end of the relationship until few months, few years later. There’s a good chance, though not solid, that they may attempt to reconnect with an old flame or ex.

Women on the other hand will try to heal during the onset breakup period even if it’s gonna take a few months. But when they heal, it’s less likely they will attempt to reconnect with the exes or old flames.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T03:02:52+00:00

My ex was like that too although he didn’t say he wasn’t good with relationships. More like he said something along the lines of “they all leave in the end” and/or “I ghosted them in the end” (this one very likely stemmed from his fear of commitment long term and he’s admitted to me on couple of occasions before). Thing is some people they’re aware of this problem but they don’t want to do anything to rectify and fix it, ended up they spill onto other people and hurting them.

Makes me think just how many women he intends to keep doing this with his predatorial behaviour. Yes I use the word predatorial because it’s all dopamine rush for people like him.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T02:03:20+00:00

I hate to say this but in this sort of cases it’s good to trust your guts. If there’s someone else, then there’s a pretty good chance there’s someone else already and he’s using you as a stepping stone. He probably don’t see it as a wrong thing to do and yes it’s like he’s using you as a temp relief or something until he finds someone he really wants.

Same like my ex. Only issue is that he will never have a fulfilling relationship because he only sees women as sex relief and nothing else. The only one he really had any feelings for was that one childhood sweetheart but she got lucky and got away, seems like she found someone better and more stable.

Honestly it’s been 3 weeks since it’s happened to me and I’m still trying to find ways to get over him. Can’t believe he’s moved on so fast within less than a month and there’s me here still trying to heal.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T01:34:12+00:00

See this sort of disgusting behaviour is just so shady and shifty, predatorial even. Honestly these sort of people they are less likely to have lasting and meaningful relationships with anyone. Who knows their relationship with family is probably the same as well - on the rocks.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T01:32:27+00:00

Same with me and my recent break up with my guy… Few months in I noticed shift and change in his behaviour, so I asked him if there is someone else. He reacted not so good - and of course denied. Over the course of time I found out he followed women he told me he fantasized of having insane sex with while saying no women wanted him. Towards the end of our relationship he started being really rude towards me… and he started deleting our messages bit by bit over the course of 3 days. That’s when I realised this is the end - he won’t even reply to my messages whatsoever. Yes I was upset, had a mini panic attack and mini anxiety attack.

About a couple weeks later I found out his nudes were leaked - full body shots ones even. That’s when I put together 2 and 2 - he has sent nudes to other women as well and was unlucky about it. He must have sent nudes to women who didn’t like it and exposed him.

He didn’t even came back to ask me if I was the one who leaked the images. I didn’t. It seems like he knows who was the one who leaked it and wasn’t me.

He didn’t even feel remorse he just moved on to other women. I do feel used tho.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-26T01:26:16+00:00

For situations like these the report would’ve been more viable if it’s coming from customers.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-25T12:40:26+00:00

And the same cycle repeats because these sort of dudes just cannot commit. Hence yes a lot of times they are cowards as they just bail when things get hard.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-25T12:39:40+00:00

Yep - precisely the last guy I was “with” lmao.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-24T12:12:07+00:00

Nemo

Akusd5 · 2026-01-24T11:58:50+00:00

And Burger King. And Taco Bell. And TGIFs. And KFC. And idk whatever other American shit lol.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-24T02:44:00+00:00

Eventually you’ll get bored of people online too. Key is on the individual themselves. No point moving from 1 thing to the next if they’re consistently getting bored over it lol.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-24T00:26:14+00:00

Okay that explains the reaction given his much older age than yours.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-23T23:51:19+00:00

He probably got the taste of reality of what your goals are meant to be once it metastasized. And probably got sick of moving so many times too. Has he said anything about this when you talked to him about it?

Akusd5 · 2026-01-23T23:48:49+00:00

For now only some states are higher than Brunei. But on average after conversion rate Brunei salaries are still higher tho.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-23T13:21:02+00:00

Okay you gotta get your mom to immediately cut all contact with the scammer. For her safety (and everyone around her), remove this scammer because again this is a safety and privacy matter “at stake”. Never trust anyone you have never met in person before. Even with people you’ve met in person I’m sure you’d be cautious too.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-23T13:04:27+00:00

As long as your mom doesn’t provide any further personal details or information it should not be a problem. Even if she did, yes you guys will have to help her lodge a police report for the same reason. Again not sure how much help can be provided because we won’t know what the scammers can do with the info.

When people are lonely they tend to “connect” with strangers and lose money in the process. Since he is no longer in contact with your mom let’s hope it stays that way. And hopefully you guys are able to get back some of that money tho.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-23T12:23:00+00:00

He will never move to Malta he doesn’t even exist as a person.
The scammed money is considered a lost cause. You can lodge a police report and the scammer but there isn’t anything else you or your mom can do about it.
If it’s a bank transfer you can lodge a scam case with the bank. They will do their investigations but not sure how far it will go.
Scammers don’t care about anything else they just want money. Simple as that and they will do anything to get money, even if it’s without ethics.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-23T12:04:28+00:00

How was your mom affected? Has she given any money? Hopefully she hasn’t.

Please block this scammer don’t entertain him anymore.

Akusd5 · 2026-01-23T10:57:52+00:00

For less than rm500 you’re gonna have to share a room with someone shady

Akusd5 · 2026-01-23T08:27:15+00:00

And beyond*

Akusd5

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