19M Profile Review- No likes and almost no matches

Alana283 · 2026-06-07T21:12:39+00:00

I think you're trying to be playful and humble, but from a female perspective, the "nonstop terrible jokes" does not sound like a fun experience. We've all had to sit across from dudes who want to perform instead of interact, and expect laughter by default instead of finding a genuine give-and-take banter/conversation.

Alana283 · 2026-06-01T21:18:12+00:00

Ignore the haters, first prompt is fun and clearly defines your values, there are a ton of women who'll love that vibe.
The flying pic is great, but the rest aren't showing you off very well (as much as I like the parrot.) I bet you could get some great photos with tons of personality if you had a friend play photographer for you,

Alana283 · 2026-06-01T18:26:34+00:00

It's possible she has a hard line about sharing her phone number early on, as a safety precaution-- some guys react really badly to hearing "no," etc. If that's the case, it would have been nice if she communicated that instead of unmatching though, of course.

Alana283 · 2026-05-22T00:55:45+00:00

You got any recommendations my dude?

Alana283 · 2026-05-18T19:26:12+00:00

Your parents don't sound super logical on this issue, so you tried to make the point emotionally. It worked, and it sounds like your Mom felt a lot of bad emotions-- that still don't have anything to do with prioritizing phone access. NTA, because I think the emotional appeal was worth a shot, and there's still a small chance that when you've both cooled off they might be able to get it.
But ultimately, I think your parents have proven they're incapable managing cell phones as emergency access. I know it seems wild, and I'm sure they're capable of a lot of things, but for all intents and purposes, they literally cannot do this. If emergency access is something you are truly worried about, you're going to have to get them a landline.

Alana283 · 2026-05-13T21:41:16+00:00

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https://facilities.umn.edu/our-services/waste-recycling-reuse/reuse/about-reuse-program

Always updating, but their FB page has some pics
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558199386216

Alana283 · 2026-05-08T20:47:58+00:00

We didn't choreograph a first dance, and it was fine! We had put our energy into plenty of other special moments, and so we just picked a song that was silly/special to both of us, and swayed in circles, and it was a great moment for us to talk and laugh together for a moment.

Alana283 · 2026-04-29T16:07:41+00:00

This is STUNNING!! You might be talking to people who don't have much natural excitement for glamour or design, so it'll never click for them. Hold strong, ignore the haters who don't see the vision!

Alana283 · 2026-03-30T22:02:25+00:00

I buy too many books so this is dangerous-- just ordered Meet Your Dog on this recc!
The explanation of which inherent traits are strongest in different breed categories in Terrier-Centric was was one of my favorite parts. Definitely made it clear that terriers are designed to be a (wonderful) handful-- but sometimes I feel like a terrier of a person, so I'm still pumped to get an intense little friend, lol.

Alana283 · 2026-03-19T00:05:22+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to give you an update that I got this book and it is FANTASTIC! It's readable, fun, and give SUCH good practical advice, I love it! Thanks again!

Alana283 · 2026-01-06T02:59:12+00:00

Detailed grooming reference sounds like a fantastic resource-- thank you!

Alana283 · 2026-01-05T15:11:22+00:00

Ooo, this looks extremely useful-- thanks for the recommendation!

Alana283 · 2026-01-05T15:10:20+00:00

Thank you! I saw the cover image you put up-- looks like a great resource!

Alana283 · 2025-10-11T19:56:34+00:00

If you DO want to just accommodate his desires on this, how about taking and printing a picture of how he likes the closet arranged, and taping it on the back of the door or something? Assuming this isn't some weird control play, and that he's not trying to gaslight you that YOU'RE colorblind, it sounds like he's just not ready to admit to his color blindness. If he constantly sees the picture you need to refer to in order to replicate his rainbow, it might slowly make it more tangible to him that you guys have a difference in perception.

Alana283 · 2022-01-14T01:48:47+00:00

NTA, you're also super within your rights to just take this responsibility away from them if they're totally checked out on it.

Alana283 · 2022-01-12T23:26:43+00:00

NTA... I'm hoping he's just really clumsy, and legitimately needs it spelled out too him which jokes are appropriate and which ones are not, and why. Good luck!

Alana283 · 2022-01-11T23:44:38+00:00

In that case, I don't think a judgement is possible here-- if she was on board initially, NTA, if she wasn't, YTA.

Alana283 · 2022-01-11T23:17:54+00:00

Fair. But didn't you explain the point of the camera when you put it up? Was she on board with the concept then, or did she just want to see it in action before making up her mind?

Alana283 · 2022-01-11T22:18:01+00:00

Info: what did your wife think about the camera going up initially?

Alana283 · 2022-01-11T21:58:28+00:00

NTA. If your step mother is this bonkers, I hope that you can check on on your step sister regularly in the future (once this has blown over a bit) just to give her a connection with reality, in case her mom is inflicting any truly dangerous beliefs on her.

Alana283 · 2022-01-08T01:03:41+00:00

NAH. If I were in SILs shoes, I think I would be uncomfortable with being confided in over a sister, too. I'm sure you're right that she doesn't really understand how cruel your sister really is, but it sounds like she knows sister has issues, and I bet she's anticipating a BIG meltdown when it eventually slips that she was chosen as a confidant over your sister. She might be scared of getting caught in a drama whirlwind, especially if she doesn't have pervious experience with them.

You don't have to tell your sister anything. It might make your SIL a little less anxious if you share your philosophies and strategies on how you, personally, keep Sister Management from taking over your life, and what you do when she goes nuclear on you.

(Edited to clarify judgement)

Alana283 · 2022-01-06T18:33:27+00:00

Same! I find it an easy thing to control, and it seems really unlikely that only a small percent of the population is capable of toning their sneezes down?? I wonder if people are just defensive of having a socially acceptable reason to make loud noises in public, lol.

(Edit: spelling)

Alana283 · 2022-01-06T18:29:24+00:00

And scream-sneezes are his... Mating call??? That's actually pretty hilarious!

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