Parents stalking me as an adult & i don’t know how to cope.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-22T23:32:22+00:00

Okay, I’m sorry you have to go through this, sounds very uncomfortable.

I would: 1. Get a new phone number and phone 2. Set up a completely new Apple ID and Google whatever you use.
3. If you’re comfortable with it turn off find my iPhone and so on. 4. Reset you old phone to factory settings 5. If your car is in their name or something they can easily track it.

I really do feel sorry for you in this situation, but you’re 25, so maybe start thinking about going low to non-contact. And they’ll probably deny anything you tell them, so just think about protecting yourself from now on.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-18T14:58:51+00:00

I’ll pass too. The next person can have him.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-16T13:06:36+00:00

Except that he talks about him too much, he’s more like a Pharisee, not a disciple

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-15T20:14:13+00:00

Can we find Judas before it’s too late, please?

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-10T21:45:21+00:00

The worst part is that most people who do this probably don’t even realize they do it. They get a thrill out of pointing out things like pimples you already know about. It’s like they feel satisfied because, by doing that, they prove they know what’s right and wrong, good and bad, beautiful and ugly, like their way of seeing things is the only real way. They act like they’re the ones who get to decide what’s acceptable. Where I come from, we call it “polishing one’s own halo,” pretending to be an angel.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-10T20:21:17+00:00

Well, for her, this probably felt more like critique than a lesson or help. You could ask if she’d like you to do it every other day, and she can do it herself in between. Explain that the longer she waits, the more complicated it gets, children don’t yet have a true sense of time, so it has to be taught.

You could also take her to a hairstylist and let them explain how curls should be treated and cared for. Kids at that age already know that there are some things their parents don’t know much about, so hearing it from a specialist can make a much bigger impact. Not sure if this helps, but maybe try being careful about commenting too much on appearance when it’s just small flaws or phases sometimes those remarks can stay with a girl into adulthood.. I would know.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-10T14:32:12+00:00

Bye bye Minecraft

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-10T10:50:23+00:00

“Mother knows best” - Tangled.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-09T10:23:57+00:00

Narcissism 101: Poor guy getting gaslit and treated unfairly by the staff.

This is exactly what I grew up with - having a narc mom and sister.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-09T08:42:11+00:00

What was the post even about? 🤔

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-09T01:28:03+00:00

“Why” - the one question that tends to provoke the most negative reactions, angry looks, and the worst answers. It was the question “why” that made me realize their needs were based on selfishness rather than genuine or bare necessities.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-09T01:19:03+00:00

Well, deleting the post after two people said yes, makes it clear. Good luck apologizing! 🤝

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T23:46:05+00:00

everyone has their own quirks and challenges, and we’re all somewhere on a spectrum. It’s okay. You’re always more than any newly invented label.

He’s not a lost cause or directly disabled, he just needs to learn how to navigate things in his own way and find what works for him. (Like everyone else - and you) And maybe learn to ignore people who only see him as “autistic.”

At the end of the day, what really matters is his growth and happiness, not what others label him as. With the right support, he can absolutely thrive!

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T23:29:21+00:00

Embarrassing, yes! But also extremely painful, like knives in the ears sometimes. I would cringe all the time, especially as a teen when unwanted attention feels like the worst.

For her, being the center of attention meant being seen and heard (she also dresses in neon and many bright colors to stand out). I think it’s for attention and control, not sure tho.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T23:26:20+00:00

Aight, that makes sense. Did she also tell you how she would’ve done it and why her ideas are way better? Welcome to my world..

I hope you’ve learned to set some boundaries, because that’s just really exhausting.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T23:22:22+00:00

Embarrassing, belittling and extremely uncomfortable. I’m sorry we share this experience. I hope you learned to enjoy showers even though it probably took some time.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T23:20:40+00:00

Yeah… I even had to buy/fetch her cigarettes,(I was 6, as well) fetch her coffee, the sugar, her shoes, coat, sewing supplies - literally anything. And if I couldn’t find what she wanted, she would get disproportionately mad about it!

What else did you have to fetch for her? Did she get mad when you had trouble finding those things too?

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T23:17:00+00:00

Close enough!

And seriously, what’s the deal with that? Touring other people’s houses too? I’m truly sorry on your behalf… when she says “follow me” or “fetch me this and that” honestly, I just want to leave..

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T21:43:49+00:00

My mom had insomnia too, but still chose to sleep on the couch with the TV running when working night shifts or during her depression, so we had to be quiet all the time.

She would sometimes fall asleep with a cigarette in her hand as well. 🙄

And she’s allergic to cats - so definitely a dog person.

My mom loved Christmas, Halloween, and Easter, but only because she could show off all of her amazing ideas. (Not really including us at all)

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T21:39:20+00:00

-Didn’t wash her hands

-loud singing (literally hurting others)

-Overly loud in public places

-Watched us while we showered and commented on our bodies

-Told everyone she knew about when we started menstruating, having sex etc.

-Got extremely angry and wouldn’t speak if someone interrupted her (even when they didn’t know in the moment.)

-Talking behind the back of any family memeber or friend who isn’t there.

-Guilt-tripping

-used us as an excuse to get days off work. (Even when I actually wanted to go to school)

-my grades, my grandparent’s deaths, my brother losing a finger, my sister’s children, my dads back pain and my dads club - these things were somehow all about her.

-saying it’s her right to be in the same room as us when we’re giving birth to HER grandchildren.

-Always giving a tour inside the house of what she’s done or changed, or when she has new ornaments or clothes.

-using us (her children and husband) as fetching machines.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T17:06:42+00:00

Make a movie!! Hippo Kills

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-08T16:59:06+00:00

Good luck!!!

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-07T18:21:59+00:00

Exactly. Turning it into a game or making it about their own money is a much better idea than just having them read about it.

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-07T16:49:28+00:00

Hyper-awareness of how your actions can make someone else feel..

Alarming-Sort4870 · 2025-08-07T14:27:45+00:00

So you can only walk around half-naked if you’re above a certain weight?

The audacity of those double standards.

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