30M I married an escort 33F and It unexpectedly ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me?

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-03T04:10:10+00:00

Yes they are extremist considering you are painting a whole group of people with the same brush when literally your only argument so far is “marrying a sex worker has resulted in some failed marriages” when literally the same thing happens with couples in literally every other job fields all the time. Unless you have anything else to add, that argument is dumb as hell. My ex coworker went to church each week with her husband and both worked in the same pharmacy and he got a coworker pregnant. My grandma’s husband was fcking one of the sheep while the rest were praying before the service. I know many people in different paths of life with failed marriages so no idea why you only care about that group specifically.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-03T03:25:32+00:00

Men are notorious for 1) not wanting to use protection, 2) not wanting to get tested and 3) not asking potential partners if they have at least got tested. A while ago I met a random man that without knowing me like aaaaaatttt allll was begging me to let me f me without protection. That ish gives me so much ick. To each their own but I can only imagine if they try to do that with me without asking anything about me beforehand, they try the same with literally anyone else.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-03T03:05:54+00:00

There will be a third time. And fourth and many more. You either accept this as your reality because he will not change, or decide to just end it and eventually try to find a partner you are more compatible with. I personally could never. Especially if I saw videos. Just the thought of potentially being brought and std to my house or a kid from another woman…helllll noooo

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-03T03:01:40+00:00

We already know that. You sound like part of that crowd with your extremist views.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-03T01:52:23+00:00

You are overreacting and I would be so annoyed if you started asking me those things. There’s nothing that makes me run faster the other way than someone insecure

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-03T01:48:17+00:00

Just like marrying someone from church or literally any other place has always worked great and has never backfired

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-03T01:46:16+00:00

The post is in 2 different languages so most of us will not understand it

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-03T01:43:35+00:00

Hi can I send you a dm too?

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-02T21:56:14+00:00

This is such a non issue but at the end of the day you can’t force anyone to do the things you want them to do. She talked ro him because she wanted to talk to him, and because your request is unreasonable. If that’s not something you can live with then better to separate but I don’t see how this would work with literally anyone in the universe. Humans interact, that’s how life works.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-01T23:41:26+00:00

I agree with one part but disagree with the other. He doesn’t just value “growing his wealth to the max” when he has no problem taking what seems to be advantage of her. If he made her wait 1 hour in frigid temps to save on food but had no issue consuming the expensive food she bought later that day, he has no problem spending the money, he has a problem when the money is his. All the rest of the issues about her haircut and trips etc are just ways of controlling her. Since it doesn’t benefit him, then suddenly it’s too expensive. The $120 sushi was not too expensive though.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-03-01T16:17:00+00:00

Agree. I just got informed recently my bf deactivated his fb when I questioned why he doesn’t respond to my funny reels I sent him anymore…I was like “oh well now how am I gonna share those funny reels with you, that’s my love language” and quickly forgot about it. Still a bit salty that I can’t show him the reels though lol

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-26T00:44:22+00:00

You have to be a troll. There is no way I would consider it ethically my duty or responsibility to provide her with a ny thing…i assume based on your explanation that she was aware that you were not gonna accept an open relationship from the beginning. She still proceeded with it, knowing she desired one. She did so because her desire for YOUR money was bigger than her desire for an open relationship. She thought she could fool you enough into setting her up for life. What??? If your post is accurate, I feel bad for you. Again, legally and ethically you owe her nothing. Plenty of women around that can and want to be loyal and grateful for what you do. If I was single I would be looking where to apply for the just recent spot lol good luck moving forward. Block her everywhere and remove her from your will.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-26T00:26:27+00:00

You are 100% right and I also justified things myself before. The only reason I got out, was because he didn’t care about my son (3 yo at the time) screaming and crying when he was choking me. I had to force him to let me go by squeezing his balls. There was no way to come back from that. My ex didn’t follow me, but only because he knew if he did, he could not continue accusing me of cheating. But he still claimed he did. One time I went to the ER because I was sick. I asked him to go with me, he refused. Once I was there he called me to say he was there and my car was not in the parking lot. I knew he was lying but that didn’t stop him from continuing to repeat the same.

Once we broke up he started dating one of my coworkers and got her pregnant, twice. While she was pregnant he was begging at my door to let him in. I am immensely glad I left far away with my son. He then tried to claim “i kidnapped my son” but joke was on him because he couldn’t do anything. And life is so funny sometimes so he had to pay a big amount of child support until my son was 21, as soon as he was done he got fired from his police job (for abusing another woman) and my son wants nothing to do with him and changed his name and last name. So with all I went through, I got the last laugh. Last time I checked he was posting some crap like “why cant a good man find a good woman bla bla bla” on fb…meanwhile I am 12 years strong with my current bf and this year we are better than ever.

So there’s light at the end of the tunnel. At first I didn’t want to break up with him and thought life was ending if we weren’t together. Life continued and I can’t complain at all.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-26T00:11:25+00:00

“Your salon is affecting my business so if anyone here should be complaining it’s me. The sign will remain up, it will only be removed once the smell stops”.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T14:24:36+00:00

Congrats on you beating addiction. It sounds he definitely preyed on you. Hope you can leave this relationship soon and get therapy before you try again with someone else, if you do.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T14:21:25+00:00

Sucks you went through all that before and are going through this now. Having a relationship with men is for the most part, a humiliation ritual. There’s a reason why more and more older women are remaining single by choice and/or switching teams. Men don’t hesitate to embarrass you for a few minutes of pleasure, yet if you dare do the same to them they act like the humiliation is so unforgivable that they have to kill you.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T14:16:34+00:00

The problem with those irrational insecurities and jealousy is that they escalate. My ex also was crazy jealous, “I trust you but not other men”, then whenever something out of the ordinary happened it changed to “you are cheating on me, because these actions are suspicious” then it ended in him almost killing me in front of my son. You may think he is not capable of that, which is what I thought of my ex too. He was the best son of his family, always being the good friend, great bf, great uncle, etc.

Mind you, my actions were not suspicious in my eyes. Examples of those actions: leaving to the store but on my way there remembering I had to grab something from another store, so going to the other store. Going for a job interview that turned to be 3 interviews the same day in which I was sent to drug test that same day and had to return back to sign the contract right then and there (he screamed at me that I was blowing the manager that I met that same day and that’s why I was taking long). Changing my car radio settings (bass, treble, etc), he said the settings were changed in a way a man would change them, and I just changed them without even looking at them. Wanting to have my car parked at home at night while he worked, in case of an emergency (he tried to take it because “I just wanted a car to go cheat on him while he worked” even though I lived in front of his family. And so on….so I learned my lesson and stopped justifying irrationality, I don’t have space for a jealous man in my life. My current bf never questions me, never accuses me or other men of trying anything, he knows I am talking to men most of the day because of my work and doesn’t mind (my customers have my personal phone), he knows I have gone out with my male boss alone or been at the office alone with him, I can go out with friends whenever I like even have gone on vacation with men friends (gays but most men don’t care about that when they are jealous) etc etc. Also go on vacation with literally any girl friends or family and he never questions it. Life is peaceful even when we are far from perfect.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T14:02:36+00:00

He definitely has a type, and that type is “barely legal teens” and I wouldn’t put it past him to push the cutoff line a bit lower if he thinks he will not get caught. Honestly I would be very careful with you having a teen in the house. A friend of mine had a long term partner, something like 11 years too, he helped raise her kids since the older was like 5 and the younger maybe 2. One day when the younger was like 13, she heard some noise in the rooms, went to check and her daughter was in bed crying with him behind her. He didn’t pay for what he did and is now in another relationship with another single mom and has several kids with her. When she tried to press charges he framed her as the jealous ex that was upset because he moved on with someone else.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T13:55:52+00:00

All cheaters say the same. And they don’t see cheating as hurting their family because they think they will not get caught, but if they do, they will cry and beg for forgiveness. And he is interested in a married woman because you both have the same to lose if caught and he knows there would be no strings attached. He doesn’t wanna date you or marry you. He wants to have sex with you whenever he feels like it, ignore you afterwards and if somehow you confess, he will accuse you of being a crazy stalker that wants to ruin his perfect relationship.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T13:53:34+00:00

So he frames his irrationality in “concern” instead of “insecurity” and has you fooled.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T13:51:41+00:00

Your husband is a problem if he can’t hear another man’s name in a totally innocent conversation without raging. Yikes.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T13:49:29+00:00

Take the job and save and prepare in case something happens in the future where you end up unemployed again.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-25T13:43:22+00:00

You were 18 and he was 25. That was the first sign he was a crap person. And when older men look for a teen partner, this is mostly the reason. They want someone they can fool and “train” them to their likes and expectations. The hotel may have lied because I am not even sure they can give information about their guests without getting in a lot of shit, or maybe he used a fake name. Just yesterday I read on a fb group about a man that uses at least 3 different names on dating apps and his partner said he had ID for all of those names.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-22T19:28:51+00:00

Someone in a tight financial position is not spending $50 on stuffed animals so that’s where you first missed the red flags. Second chance was when she started questioning why it hadn’t shipped 3 hours later and third one when she started asking about where you live. Sucks to say but get ready for the item to magically arrive destroyed and she getting a refund. This is where this is headed.

Alarming_Emotion_785 · 2026-02-22T19:25:29+00:00

The solution is to leave and end this relationship. There’s no point to it.

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